Yes, I know it was bound to happen eventually. I just didn’t know it was going to hurt this much. Of course I can’t call you a “fucking bitch” or be mad at you about anything. That wouldn’t be fair.
Of course, really, you didn’t even do anything wrong. You ended it because you felt it wasn’t working and didn’t have feelings for me anymore. OK, fine. You got together with someone else because you feel he’s better for you than me. OK, fine again.
But… being dumped, and knowing about you with another guy… hurts like a fucking bitch. All the reasoning and logic and everyone telling me that I’ll be fine, to just “be a man” and get over it, that things really aren’t so bad isn’t stopping the pain. Exercising, keeping busy, going out with friends, talking to other girls… nope, still there, constantly. I’ve been punched and beaten and have had broken bones and everything, and that pain is not even close to how this feels. Fuck love! Fuck emotions! I wish I was a fucking robot or “typical guy” who only cared about sports and drinking and didn’t have to deal with this shit.
This hurts, like hell, a lot. Ouch. I hate this shit. —Alone and Heartbroken
This article appears in Mar 25-31, 2010.
The pain will fade – with time. There’s a reason for everything, OP, although it might not be clear at the time. I remember when my ex dumped me years ago – I honestly thought my world had crumbled into dust. Well, I found my soulmate a year after that and we’ve been together for 28 years. Don’t give up hope and, most of all, don’t be bitter.
I can sympathize with this.
it is the worst pain… at least with physical pain you get the endorphins…causation…
understanding.
talking about everything… a lot… is all that’s going to help.
I hope you have some friend(s) to confide in who will want to help and be there for ya.
I hope you pull through ya big lug.
and TTFN, rarely do we disagree, but I really cannot believe there’s a reason for everything. perhaps golden linings present themselves, or things may have turned out better…. but I doubt there are these cosmic correlations and constant equilibrium that is being accounted for.
and so no, karma isn’t a bitch… it’s fictitious hope.
TRUST me, OP, it will fade with time. Sometimes it might take a long time, and it usually feels, at first, like it won’t ever go away (ooooh I’ve been there), and this advice, right now probably feels like the stupidest piece of shit advice on the planet (again, i’ve been there), but it’s actually some of the best advice I’ve ever gotten.
And sometimes it just has to run its course and there’s nothing you can do about it. Pretty much what’s happened in all my heartbreak situations. The longest it took for me was a whole year. One day I just woke up and those “feelings” weren’t there anymore. A year is probably longer than most, but, if my OCD ass can get over it, so can you, OP. Hang in there. You’ll feel like shit for a while (maybe even a long time), but it will go away.
L M A O
Sucker.
Your better off with a dog.
They will love you unconditionally & you can rent a woman for those urges your hand just isn’t scratching. Where you won’t be nearly as broken up if you get a different one each time.
Somethings in life should only be available as a rental IMO ~8)
And women top that list .
“Your better off with a dog” ~More
Or a cat 🙂
Yeah, being dumped is the worst.
But the other folks are right—this pain will end.
Someday, sooner than you think, you will wonder what you ever saw in her.
Dude she was totally blowing the other guy while still with you. I’d Rick James the bitch and her beau.
I recently went through a similar situation, and time is what really makes the difference. (yes, I hated hearing it too) But, give yourself, and the girls you are dating a break. Nothing worse than going out on a date with a guy to only hear him talk about his bitch ex-girlfriend.
I know I’ve read this before.
Word for Word.
Nice paste job.
Nice to know you’ve moved on.
lol.
trying to read this is giving me problems. are you gay,o.p., sure sounds that way.even if you are, no matter, same advice. find someone who is the complete opposite of your previous friend. if that doesn’t work out, well there are always toys.
I am going through this RIGHT NOW. Hell, we were looking at engagement rings and he told my best friend the place he was going to propose to me a week before he decided he “needs to be alone.”
He says he still thinks about me all the time, misses having me in his life, and actually thinks we’ll end up together in a couple years… but right now getting hammered, doing copious amounts of drugs and getting hit on by random skanks at the bar is better than me.
It kills! The rejection by someone you care about is a definite clusterfuck of rollercoaster emotions. There isn’t a damn thing I (or you) can do about it, except take care of me (you) and forget about him (her).
I’m trying to take comfort in the fact that I’m awesome, I gave it all I had… and I’m not the first, nor the last, schmuck for this to happen to.
No one can give you the magic key, or a time machine to get through this. I find it hard to wrap my mind around it right now, but the cure is just time.
Fuck, we should have coffee and bitch about our ex’s together. Cause right now, they do suck, and we ARE awesome.
Frig, can I get in on that, Scotian? The stories I could tell about my exes…*shakes head in disbelief*
This bitcher is a fucking moron. You wish you were a “typical” guy who only cared about sports and drinking? Hey, fuck you for thinking you and your “feelings” are so high and mighty! Hate to tell you, but everyone has feelings. All those cool guys you are so envious of who seem to have everything going for them? Yeah they have feelings too, and probably have been hurt at one point or another. Get over yourself, you aren’t special. It’s called life, bud.
Oh, and refinedsugar, you probably have read this bitch before. The title “To Refresh” makes me think this chump copied and pasted it to get on the front bitch page again because he wants some dame to read this bitch and doesn’t have the stones to say it to her face.
Also, 3 boring breakup bitches in one day? GG mod. The pathetic “break-up-ees” are noticing this flaw in the system and are coming out in droves. Pretty soon it will be “Love the Way We Whine About Exes”.
Women are atrracted to jerks…not sure why though.
Yes, please, Kitty! I find it cathartic to swap stories with other people – helps you gain a little perspective.
It’s a common thing to romanticize an ex; remember all of the wonderful and forget all of the shitty things they did to you BEFORE the breakup.
A great thought (and an awesome book, actually): “it’s called a breakup because it’s broken.” So true.
Pretty much the same thing happened to me. I was young, dumb, and thought she was the one. Took me more than a year to get over her. Then a couple years later, I found out she had married the guy she left me for and the pain returned.
But I learned from it. Tough fucking lesson but it was necessary.
Watch 500 days of summer. That will make you think.
Marriage? Lame.
That leaves more money for you, dgaf.
See, there’s your mistake… you have to actually fuck the other girls, not just talk to them. Every time you fuck someone else you get closer to getting over them.
Concentrate on finding and fucking someone who actually WANTS to be with you.
what are you, 14 years old? maybe you should work on your self esteem a bit before venturing into the world of girls again…you obviously give way more of a shit about the person who dumped you than you do yourself…and she DUMPED YOU! snap out of it buttercup