I wish there was radar or indicator you could use to gauge whether or not someone is going to reject you because you are fat. Since I never get told straight up if the real reason why I get rejected is because I am fat and whoever I let my feelings known to is turned off by that because it is a deal breaker, it would be nice to have some indication before so I could save a little bit of my dignity because there is nothing like the embarrassment of the feeling you get when you get rejected because you are fat and are only good enough to be a friend because the thought of having sex with you or being seen with you in public as a boyfriend or girlfriend is disgusting to them. It would be nice to save a little bit of that dignity. —BBW
This article appears in Jan 19-25, 2012.
Well now that you know, and that is out of the way. Perhaps some cardio is in order? You are able to lose weight. Now stop making excuses and start caring for yourself. How do you expect someone to care for you when you obviously don’t care for yourself.
Maybe it has nothing to do with you being overweight, and more to do with the fact that you clearly don’t like yourself, which is WAY less attractive than flab.
Agreed, Gidget.
But, in general terms, it’d be nice to know before hand if you’re going to get rejected or not (for whatever reason). That way you could save a bit of a hit to the ego!
The whole “guessing game” and analyzing every little interaction to figure out if they’re interested is lameeeee.
That’s going to happen regardless, PK. Whatever the reason for a rejection, even if we get *told* what it is, we’ll lead ourselves on a wild-goose-chase for the “REAL” reason.
For example, if someone *actually* said “I’m just not physically attracted to you”, I’d run over every encounter I ever had with that person that told me the contrary- because I’d assume they were trying to spare my feelings for the “real” reason, or that they were just looking for an “out”.
Human beings are dumb about relationships.
Just wait for it OB, apple is probably trying to develope an app for that as we speak.
I’ve found I’ve had much more dating success and happiness since I stopped caring if people like me or not. I’m done trying to sell myself, this is it, this is me, if you like me cool, if not, cool.
You can just ask. People do that.
I don’t care about the reason. I go “You want to go out” and they say “No”, that’s it. Asked and answered. I don’t care why. You like me or you don’t. I don’t change for anyone.
The issue is self-esteem, OP – you need a good heapin’ helpin’ of it. Confidence glows, self-pity reeks like a mole’s hole. I’d suggest seeing a psychologist to find out the reasons for your self-loathing – then think about taking better care of yourself, physically and mentally.
Tommy – you said a wise mouthful, kid. When you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks, you’ve liberated yourself.
see, this is what happens when you don’t find the suckster first. fat or thin, who really gives a great damn.if you are a nice person, then size or lack thereof, shuldn’t matter. i have dated ladies of the plus size, and have no troubles looking beyond that shit that turns other people off. unless you are hideous, fat, 2 foot tall, then you is okay in the suckster’s world, and even if you were those other things, well hey, we are all not perfect. if we were, then we would be wearing fucking halos.
OB, there is a radar….it’s called their facial expression and body language. I suggest you put down the fork, curb your appetite, and run like the devil’s on your heels.
Y’know, Donair, I’ve been giving you the benefit of the doubt because you’re Kitty’s bud, but I’m getting mighty tired of your rampant virulent homophobia. At best, you’re a one note samba and at worst, you have some sort of homoerotic push/pull thing going. Are ‘faggots’ the only thing you can think about? They are certainly all you ever write about.
“but I’m getting mighty tired of your rampant virulent homophobia. “
+1
Bunch of fucking slack-jawed whiners around here. Having myself an I_K moment.
Donairious … I’m with Xeno … most of the time I was able to just skim through your comments and shake my head and I was, for the most part, ignoring you – just like I chose to ignore our ‘friend’ Jim – until you wrote this …
Re: “Royal Flush”
That’s not a shit the girls are taking, OB. It’s a newborn baby sebastian (a fag) they just gave birth to and refuse to raise a loser and choose to give it a better life in a toilet.
Where it belongs.
Dude … if this is really the way you think and you’re not just putting on a show … you need help … and a fucking lot of it.
Ok, I’m not saying Donarious isn’t taking things too far at times, BUT since I do know him in real life, I think I can explain things to everyone a bit better than he can (because no one is going to listen to him, really). I will say upfront that he is probably the least homophobic person out there. He’s practically 30% gay himself (at least). His other best friend is gay ffs! He loves the gays. If he didn’t like tits and pussy so much, he’d totally be with a guy, in my opinion. I think he’d probably be happier with a guy than a chick to be honest and I’ve told him this. But to explain why he does what he does:
His comments are simply written to make a point. That’s it. Plain and simple. Sebastian comes on here and randomly disparages fat people, racial minorities and women hardcore (just to name a few of his targets) — he never has one good thing to say about anything or anyone (and is quite insulting while he does it) and NO ONE ever calls him out on it. Ever. NO ONE. People go on about “oh hay, you’re an asshole” but no one ever calls him out on being a racist, sexist asshole. He regularly makes comments about Preston and how women’s genital areas are disgusting, but that’s ok. No one EVER calls him out on it. Why? Why’s it ok for Sebastian to make racist remarks, but when someone else makes a homophobic remark they’re the biggest pieces of shit on the planet? In my opinion, both racist remarks and homophobic remarks make one a piece of shit. But in Sebastian’s case, it’s somehow seemingly acceptable (if you don’t call ’em out — you’re making it acceptable).
I’m not saying that Donarious takes it too far sometimes, but look at everyone bitching him out for being “homophobic”! Why is it ok for Sebastian to be racist? Why is it ok for Sebastian to disparage fat people? Why is it ok for Sebastian to make misogynist comments? By not calling him out, you are all making that ok.
So while I would never use Donarious’ tactics, he’s just going to keep doing it until things change and Sebastian is called out for the racist, hateful, sexist misogynist he is.
And, I kind of see his point when it comes to the principle.
You are all calling Donarious out for being a one trick pony, yet Sebastian does the EXACT same thing, and everyone just ignores it.
Can you not see the hypocrisy here?
Oh, well then, hush ma mouth…didn’t realize what a favor he was doing us…carry on, ffs.
“Donairious … I’m with Xeno.”
Pfft. So?
“you need help … and a fucking lot of it.”
Go take a leak, lady.
“and run like the devil’s on your heels.”
This is too ironic. The Devil’s Advocate “him”-self talking about a pair of pumps.
I don’t think he’s doing any of us any favours, xeno! Don’t get me wrong. He’s just being who he is and making a point, that’s all. No one ever said (including himself) that he wasn’t an abrasive bastard.
I just wanted to explain WHY he does what he does and state that it’s not homophobia that’s driving his comments — it’s his inane tendency towards protesting and being a general shit disturber.
Myself? Yeah, Sebastian’s comments have bothered me, but I really couldn’t give two shits about that fucker, but I CAN see the hypocrisy.
I just don’t care enough to make any issue of it. Sebastard lives a miserable life, obviously, given his miserable comments, so whateves.
Take note that I did write “if this is really the way you think” … so Donairious, according to Kitty, this is not really the way you think so good on ya. However, I fail to see how some of these comments that you make assists your mission to prove to others that Sebastian is a nasty ass … it makes you look like the asshole, not him.
I’m relatively new here and I don’t know you, Donairious, any more than I know Sebastian … am I doing myself a disservice by saying that it should then be okay for you to say those things and accept that you’re not really ‘that guy’ but just making a point, any more than I should believe that about Sebastian? And yes, before you say it … I’m sure you don’t really care what I think anyway … and all that jazz.
Take a look at what you write man … if you don’t like Sebastian, find something about him to attack so that when you write things like a baby should be left in the toilet because it could be gay and would have a better life; the readers don’t put you in the category of a homophobe. If you wanted that to be about Sebastian, ya didn’t need to add “(a fag)”. Even if you have a second thought and choose to filter … you do get to preview and edit your comment before posting it … and if your filter doesn’t kick in until after the comment is posted … you can comment again.
It’s as the old saying goes, that applies to many life situations … two wrongs don’t make a right … take the high road dude. I sure as shit hope that if Sebastian went out and shot someone and got away with it, that you wouldn’t do the same just to prove your point.
But, again, I’m new here … so what the fuck do I know … perhaps I haven’t been around long enough for what I write to be worthy of consideration because I haven’t paid my dues; hell, I can’t even piss standing up without getting it all over myself, but I can run in a pair of stilettos.
And, trust me when I say this (but, none of you know me, so I guess the word ‘trust’ is something I’m throwing in there for my own benefit) … when one of Sebastian’s comments strikes me as have some of the recent comments from Donairious … my comments will reflect that.
Oh … and if you’re looking for things to attack about me … I’m a single, white, 39 year old female with 3 children, no job (as of last week), fucked up finances because of a long and drawn out divorce that isn’t over yet, a broken heart; and … wait for it … I live with my “faggot” uncle.
And I’m just great! 😀
ps: Eff off, Xeno.
Ha ha… one trick pony…
and that trick is take a 14 metric-curic, steaming shat.
I didn’t know sebastian was 14 metric curic and steaming, ZzZ!
Well, thanks Donairious … ’cause my uncle is a damn good guy, I love him to bits and don’t know what I’d do without him.
If Sebastian is a piece of shit then fine, let him continue to make himself sound like that if, in fact, that is who he is … but some of your comments just reflect really poorly on you … I have 3 amazing kids, I tend to brush off most things and don’t allow them to affect me emotionally, I don’t cry a lot and I’ve been told by many of my friends and a therapist that they don’t understand why I haven’t been institutionalized because of the shit that life has thrown my way (and, for any who think it, I’m absolutely not looking for sympathy here folks) … but that comment you made about a baby in the toilet brought tears to my eyes and turned my stomach.
BTW … sorry OB for taking over the thread. So, here is my comment to you. People are ‘rejected’ for lots of reasons, not just weight … not every man I may like is going to like me in return and I’m okay with that … I don’t like every man who is interested in me. I don’t take it as though I’m not right … I’m just not right for them. I still love myself. As someone already alluded … it helps if you can read the signs … but that’s difficult to do if you can’t step back and look at the situation because you’re too focused on how you want things to be versus the reality of what’s happening.
you know it…
I see we were on the same wavelength there…
ive been here a while and i have to agree that sebastian is a grade A douchebag and an ignorant troll.
The problem with trolls is… they dont give a shit about anyone else but themselves and they like to see people getting all upset about their inflammatory comments.
Donarious is simply fighting douchebaggery with douchebaggery and hoping that one day sebastard gets the hint and shuts his jizz stained lips.
That might not be the high road….. but high roads never work with trolls on the intertubes.
Seb gonna think you have a thing for him and are grading him with an A, KBA. I’m not implying that you are but he’ll think that certainly.
Nice explanation too. Now lets all celebrate with a big bowl of strawberry ice cream.
So, if Sebastian were black, it would be OK to say…
“That’s not a shit the girls are taking, OB. It’s a newborn baby sebastian (a ni**er) they just gave birth to and refuse to raise a loser and choose to give it a better life in a toilet.
Where it belongs.”
Thanks for clearing that up.
People actually take Sebastian’s comments seriously enough to get offended by them? I think they’re kinda funny…
“when one of Sebastian’s comments strikes me…” … Please click on his picture and read them. I hope then they’ll strike you a little harder.
We’ve all tried with Seb … and gave up. Donarious just chooses to play the same tune over and over … paying him mind will probably make him continue touring with his one hit wonder …
Yeah but my shit is funny. Don’t believe me? Just ask Father Ivan of the Brother Ivan Show. I even get a chuckle out of Bro Tim and the last time he chuckled at anything LSD was a breakfast cereal topping.
*favour. Stupid auto-correct on Kindlefire.
Very glad I worked out and full of beta endorphins before reading the rest of these posts…
Yes, Sebastian’s a troll, but DB is a bully (targeted and repeated behavior) and I don’t believe that’s any higher up on the food chain.
Yes, you can fight ‘douchebaggery with douchebaggery’ I suppose, or you could just call them on it. That’s how I roll.
And as for as being on the same wavelength as the DB, Zeeman, I don’t doubt that for a moment. I used to teach middle school, you know…
LOL “bully.” Sebastian must be the new Jessi Slaughter then.
middle school?
poop jokes are universal.
no age exceptions whatsoever.
“Yeah but my shit is funny. Don’t believe me? Just ask Father Ivan of the Brother Ivan Show.”
Hay, don’t take my word for it. I’m just a sneaky fookin’ Russian. >; )
And very industrious for a Cossack!
(…..sneaky fuckin’ Russian….)
PK: I’m not saying Donarious isn’t taking things too far at times
neither am I. In fact what I was trying to say is that this is one of those times.
PK: Myself? Yeah, Sebastian’s comments have bothered me, but I really couldn’t give two shits about that fucker, but I CAN see the hypocrisy.
RLY? Not from me. When I read something that I don’t like from Seb., I let him know. Don’t take my word for it, check the archives. I CAN see the hypocrisy, too. The hypocrisy of DB’s acting like he’s the victim, for starters.
I can take it as well as dish it out, as anyone who has read my posts knows. I’m not going to lose any sleep because of what some whip dick posts. To quote Katherine Hepburn, “Cold sober, I find myself absolutely fascinating.”
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ACTING LIKE THE VICTIM?! LMAO.
That’s the funniest thing I’ve read/heard/snorted/eated this week. Give Xeno the $10,000.00! With that, it’s time for my nap!
IVAN! More borscht!
you may reply Xeno.. but I’ve yet to see seb fire back at anyone, any time….
so you’re not really letting HIM know anything.
Us, maybe, perhaps…
and 10k for that??? geez donairious…
for that, she should have to hand-shave your taint…
don’t think he’d trust me with a razor down there…can’t blame him, really ☺
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$10K because it was funnier than Man Getting Hit By Football, zZz, and that had a football in the groin!
Last bitch that came after me with a razor is now picking tobacco in my plantation fields. Tread softly…..
**Last bitch that came after me with a razor…***
did she need tweezers and a magnifying glass too?
Maybe that’s why you don’t teach middle school any more.
ah, yes, dream that little dream in your field, oh, excuse me, your plantation of dreams, Mr. Big!
I got promoted to administration, that’s why I’m no longer in the classroom, but hey, thanks for playing; Keep fucking that chicken! Now let’s guess what YOU do for a living…
… Xeno
chess?
🙁
RLY, Donk? SRSLY?
Did you read the whole thread?
Fine. We out anyway. Gotta practice some Burns.
My sad face is not for the thread.
Probably moved to “administration” due to inability to use a semi-colon properly. Answering phones is much better for you 😉
IVAN! More lemonade!
lol @ Xeno, “circumcision” hehe 😉
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Donk’s gonna run this town tonight.
What chu talking bout willis?
I know what Donarious does for a living!
He doesn’t pay income tax 🙁
For the record: If everyone has such a problem with what sebastien posts… how come his comments are hardly ever reported? Yeah he says a lot of dumb shit most of the time, but he doesn’t say blatantly offensive stuff as often as donairious does and when I see it or it is reported I pull the comment. Donairious’s tirade is bullshit. I’ve heard its explanation several different times and the reasons never justify the bullshit that he constantly posts (which isn’t funny, just offensive and fucking boring IMHO). So do everyone a favour and just stop. You’re both trolls. It’s not about hypocrisy, it’s the fact that I can’t sit here and read every single comment. If seb (or anyone) writes something offensive REPORT IT, I will take it down. If you are so bent on exposing how much of an offensive asshole seb is then why don’t you actually DO something about it and constantly report his shitty comments instead of doing what you are doing now, which is annoying and offending everyone BUT your target.
Stop fucking up my day. Kthanks.
You rule, Bird.
This must be like lifeguarding at an insane asylum most days.
I’m sorry for my part in it.
Wp
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Shh shh Wp, you’re my favourite.
what? whimpers quietly http://images.cheezburger.com/completestor…
Erm, after you pg, of course.
it’s too late, must post cat now http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-9B9rwoAfPu0/Thyj…
Here you go Mod-Bird:
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It’s called a Flakpanzer. Lord knows you take enough flak. Now you can throw some back.
“ut he doesn’t say blatantly offensive stuff as often as donairious does”
Racism is blatantly offensive? LMAO.
Just making more excuses for him.
Frig I got called ‘wagonburner’ by oldhand once on here and nobody did anything. That’s okay though because I wasn’t called a British cigarette.
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Yes, Ma’am, Ms. Bird!
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“ut he doesn’t say blatantly offensive stuff as often as donairious does”
Racism is blatantly offensive? LMAO.
Just making more excuses for him.
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Seb uses racial generalizations with a sort of cpmfort. Of course he’s just trolling- he does it to make people mad, playing his “Sebastian” character. Donairius is playing his (hateful) character as well. My “trombone marionette” talk is all bluster and bullshit too. It’s in answer to Seb’s racist sayings. As a person he’s probably a mild-mannered guy who fulfills some place in his “inner asshole”(sorry fpor how that sounds) by pretending to be a racist prick.
I take this shit so NOT SERIOUSLY that I don’t mind dropping character and talking about this. Some of the trolls are batshit crazy(Oldhandjob), some are entotled SETs(Survivor), and some like the mental “exercise” of this(MontrealMan).
To outsiders it must look horrible. A facebook friend of mine posts examples of our trolling on his profile as an example of how bad anonymous commenting is and how it destrpys civil society. I kind of agree, to a point. I think it looks worse if you believe these online “characters” are the real life people behind them.
Having met a bunch of the Bitches, I am comforted by this. It would be interesting to interview the posters about this privately.
Wpaul
More excuses.
You even reported him once, WP, calling him out on his blatant racist remarks.
But, typical, it’s only wrong to make “homophobic” remarks.
That’s hilarious considering you have a body count already, oldhand.
“Calling someone a wagonburner is not illegal.”
Obvious hate speech!
Please don’t drink and drive (again), oldhand.
Donairious, you know that’s bullshit. I pull any racist comments I see, if I miss one, that’s what the report comment button is for. I’ve pulled plenty of seb’s comments, as well as threatening comments from other people when they get a little too creative with their descriptions. If you see something I’ve missed by all means bring it to my attention. Otherwise, stop acting like I don’t care, because I do.
Our Father will always love you, BBW, and I will, too.