Hey old man, I guess it hasn’t occurred to you that a woman can do hard work, that a woman can have studied something for years or worked on something you don’t know anything about. Maybe it also doesn’t seem possible that she might have a greater aptitude for something, or that she has more education than you do. Maybe she has kids, and maybe she has or is currently struggling with her life by no fault of her own.
It is also possible that she is all of these things and she is younger than you.
Old man, if you decide to make a condescending remark or decide to give unwarranted advice to a woman, please know that she is her own person. She has the rest of her life ahead of her to become a thousand times better than you, and probably already is. Please know that your type is a dying breed and that people like you are not welcome on this planet anymore. Society will change with or without your help, so do us all a favour and just cut it out. —BeHave Or eLsE
This article appears in Apr 2-8, 2015.
So being all grown up, an older person offered you advice. But given you’re all grown up, you take it as being a condescending remark. As we all know, people older than us know less than we do.
CONDESCENDING & UNWARANTED
“Old man, if you decide to make a condescending remark or decide to give unwarranted advice to a woman, please know that she is her own person.” BeHave Or else
That remark is condescending and that advice is unwarranted.
A pleasure as always,
Cheerio!
Ahhh! The precious snowflake generation! Prizes for all – winners and losers! The unfortunate old man wasn’t aware of the OB’s generation’s fragile egos and their expectation of receiving two compliments before being offering any advice or criticism.
The OB, in turn, has yet to learn that education simply prepares one to learn. Actual learning takes place by doing. The “old man” is graciously offered advice based on many years of doing. It has nothing to do with gender or age.
Um, on an infinite timeline, we’re all ‘dying breeds’.
I wish i could tell you of the “equality” ive seen in the workplace for the past couple decades…they have turned me to the belief that in order to be “equal”, man or woman, you better fucking prove you are worthy of it….and sadly most couldnt even be considered “on par”
“ACTUAL LEARNING”
RSVP Sir Eggy McSmartass (10:03AM)
“Actual learning takes place by doing.”
“Doing” what? Does anything count as “doing?” If not, can you distinguish “doing” which leads to “actual learning” from that which does not? Or are you reducing all learning to “experience?” If so, is there any “experience” which does not issue out into “actual learning” or are “experience” and “actual learning” to be understood as equivalent concepts? Can you support that claim?
A pleasure as always,
Cheerio!
Ah to be young and know everything.
By “doing” I mean gaining direct experience in your profession and learning from your successes and failures. My education only really proved that I had an aptitude for my field. Within five years of finishing school I realized that at least 90% of my ability came from my work experience. After 20 years my education had faded to being virtually meaningless other than having opened the door to a career.
This is all simply my opinion so you can take it or leave it.
I’ll leave it. My point was philosophical rather than occupational. In other words, while “learning” is to be understood as a broad general activity directly related to (critical) thinking itself, “experience” is to be seen as little more than the acquisition of specific skills related to a particular job. The former can never be reduced to the latter but rather pre-supposes it.
^^^ by “experience” I don’t mean just the acquisition of hard (task) skills but also the exposure to many interpersonal situations. We learn from those experiences and develop our soft (people) skills. I’m sure we have all had times when we think that, in retrospect, we should have said or done something different in a certain situation. Often those revelations will come from talking things over with someone who has already been through a similar situation – such as the OB’s older colleague.
“Personally, I love old men, they can always show you a few new wrinkles” — Joanne Whorley