To my oldest and best friend: get off your ass and get a job! I’ve known you pretty much all of my life and I’ve stuck with you, but man you need to rethink some things. You have a family to support and yet you always find an excuse not to work (not the right hours, boss doesn’t like me, etc). Your marriage is in danger. You are in danger of losing it ALL. I will take you in if I have to, but be aware, it won’t be a free ride like you’ve got now. —Reality Bitch
This article appears in Jun 23-29, 2011.
OP, she’ll still have her welfare checks, and I agree with you 100 percent. I suggest you ditch her lousy ass. She’s not worth the effort.
If my brother lived in Halifax I would swear this bitch is about him. There are a lot of people who need to learn the hard way OP. As bad as it sounds, the best way for them to learn is for people to say no, and force them to take a crappy job they might not like. It’s not the end of the world, and hopefully they’ll learn not to take things for granted.
So even though your friend is a lazy ass, you’re going to let them in but things will change. Good luck on that. Lett hem hit the streets and maybe, just maybe, they’ll realize what life is about. The best thing you can do for them is nothing.
I have a friend kinda like this…no family though, that adds an extra dollop of wtf. Still, I bust my ass every day 9-5, come in on weekends occasionally (for which I am not paid), and generally am all about the ‘getting shit done because it needs to get done’ philosophy. Under the assumption that your friend isn’t dealing with burdensome health issues, physically or mentally, or does not have anything else impairing them from going out and working…I offer up the most luxurious of “fuck you’s”, both to your friend and mine!
yeah o.p., i know of a guy like this, always wants to work, but get paid under the table. most businesses don’t do that shit. i told him to get a job driving fucking pizza, and the excuse, he isn’t too good with making change. fuck me, some people are just too fucking lazy these days.
DON’T take him/her in. It sounds hard, and when you love someone, it’s REALLY hard, but it’s the best thing you can do for them. Giving them that option is like giving them permission to continue their behaviour. It’s giving them an “out”. It’s like drug addicts whose family gives them shelter/money/etc. They need to know they will hit bottom (or LET them actually hit it), and at that point, it’s sink or swim, and no one wants to sink, or at least for long.
It’s different if they have a disability or mental issue.. but when they are just plain lazy and picky… they need to be “jolted” out of it.
I have a dear friend like this as well. I think he’s 34 or 35 and hasn’t worked in years and is constantly asking people for money to get by until his welfare cheque comes in. There is NO need of this. He’s perfectly capable of work, but I think is scared to get back out there. NOT MY PROBLEM and I refuse to give him my hard earned money for sitting on his ass playing Farmville all day long. I used to feel guilty until I REALLY sat down and thought about how I used to struggle, and yet stuck with it, and got to where I wanted to be with hard work and determination. Everyone is capable of this, it’s a matter of realizing there is nowhere to go but up when you hit bottom.
It’s hard, but good luck.
“OP, she’ll still have her welfare checks, and I agree with you 100 percent. I suggest you ditch her lousy ass. She’s not worth the effort.”
Could be a gay couple for all you know. And probably is.