Everyone complains. I’ve seen some good bitches here. Lots about the city and the snow. Lots that have comments that say “valid bitch, OB”.
But when it comes to complaining about assholes that cat-call, well fuck that bitch. It’s a totally different story. If you’ve never had to deal with cat-calling, shut up. I don’t need your “advice”. You don’t know what it’s like. “Just ignore it” – Has that ever been a solid piece of advice?
But, hey, I’m probably just a fat feminist bitch because I believe that women shouldn’t have to deal with this BS. I just want to walk around my city without being yelled at or whistled, and I’m bitched at for it and put down. Doesn’t anyone see how absolutely pathetic and disgusting that is? Obviously not, or not anyone here at least.
“Been a pleasure!
Cheerio!
BUH-BYE!” —Keep it to yourself!
This article appears in Mar 5-11, 2015.
“Just ignore it” is every bit as meaningful a piece of advice/potential solution as “Smash Patriarchy” “Expel Misogyny” or “Stop Rape Culture” Nobody likes to be harrassed, and the potential of total strangers who don’t know how to conduct themselves in public escalating from verbal abuse to an actual physical assaut is a fear that is not exclusive to one sex.
One of the benefits of bitching on a public forum, such as this, is that you WILL get a broad range of responses which may or may not be useful to you. You can pick or choose which ones, if any, to follow. But you DON’T get to silence the ones you don’t like. And if that makes this site an “Unsafe Space” for you, well that’s just Tango Sierra.
Being pissed off at juvenile morons doesn’t make you a feminazi; laughing at feminist extremism and calling bullshit on sweeping generalizations doesn’t mean I’m part of a New Delhi bus gang.
Dear, YOU shouldn’t have open YOUR mouth…
Have you not read the responses to the previous bitch entitled, “To the Gentlemen Cat-callers of Halifax:”?
If you allow yourselves to be a victim, then you are a victim. If you take power over those who control you, then you become She-Ra.
The question becomes: why do women not understand this concept?
Chuck: if you have a penis, the local Ladies Lynch MoBBery will take exception with you; irrespective of what good “advice” we offer… Then they will turn around and beat that damn dead horse again, with visions of severed penises dancing in their heads. I suspect they will use the Sword of Protection for the severing part.
Hing, Ole Buddy. I am blessed by age, economics and life experience to be in a position where there is nothing that they have to offer that is worth buying their bullshit and there is nothing that they can withhold that is worth sacrificing anything of value.
For a social movement that claims so often to be about equality, the phrase “Sauce for the goose…” might as well be Aramaic.
Now just how am i to drink my coffee if I don’t open my mouth!!
Real men don’t need to cat-call or whistle, only wanna-be boys pretending that they’ve grown up into manhood, pay no mind to the little boys.
With my doo, i don’t need to say a word, all ages of women saunter next to me out of curiosity to see if it’s real.
The downfall of all movements and organizations (including governments) begins when the members become so certain of their unerring moral authority that any difference of opinion or criticism is seen as apostasy.
Ultimately, the strongest proponents of movements may become their greatest liability. For example, as much as I am sympathetic to environmentalism, there is a danger that it will be taken over and disabled by the extremists who reject the concept that we need to maintain a reasonably healthy economy in order to fund the orderly transition to renewable energy.
With regards to feminism, I overheard a group of young intelligent female university students talking about Womens’ Studies courses one day. One of them said something like, “Who the hell is interested in that crap any more?”. Comments like that make me think that the radicals of the movement, with their thinly veiled misandry, have caused more harm than good.
http://qz.com/297308/the-decline-of-feminism-in-charts/
I welcome all conflicting opinions!
Not specific to feminism, but once again, Mr. Condell nails the problem at its source:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5XPHIfgFwsY
There has to be movement on both sides to have movement down the centre. When either side takes a radical approach, they deter any movement. Challenging them does little good except to solidify that they are young, uneducated about the issue or both.
^^^ awesome!
“BEEN A PLEASURE! CHEERIO! BUH-BYE!”
Don’t you see how absolutely pathetic and disgusting that is? Don’t you know what it’s like? How can I ignore it?
A pleasure as always,
Cheerio!
My “Awesome” comment above was intended for the video that Chuck linked to. I wasn’t familiar with Mr. Condell but, after viewing it, I think that all first year university students would be well served by a course or seminar on free speech and critical thinking.
… and your comments were pretty good too, Froggy.
So…you guys are defending the rights of the cat callers? I am confused as to your position on this one, fellas. It’s okay for cat callers to be pieces of garbage because feminism? Fuck outta here. “Don’t cat-call, it’s gross!”
*garbage can lid swings open*
“Well actually, hurr duur militant feminism”
Morons.
I think it’s more a case of defending the rights of people to laugh at feminists who say “You don’t have the right to comment on this issue because vagina”
But whatever interpretation floats your boat; I’m jiggy with it.
Chuck McYeager sounds extremely orange to me.
Oh Eggy, be careful agreeing with me… you’ll be on a hit-list so fast, your whites will become meringue! Delicious meringue… *cut to Homer Simpson drooling*
Which has what to do with the bitch though? Maybe you should write a bitch?
Let’s see, there’s the title:
“Before you open your mouth, don’t. “
This gem:
“If you’ve never had to deal with cat-calling, shut up. I don’t need your “advice”. You don’t know what it’s like.”
And the touching farewell:
“Keep it to yourself!”
Now, my take on this is that the entire Bitch is addressed, not to the cat-callers, but to the people who commented unfavorably on her previous Bitch.
So, I don’t need to write a Bitch. I’ll content myself with commenting where someone says I shouldn’t.
It’s somehow more enjoyable, that way.
I fully support your right to be a trash douchebag. That is what my opinion is of people who think women should put up with street harassment. I am not saying you should not comment here, I am saying you immediately equated this bitch to a feminazi’s attempt at silencing your right to mouth off to women like some MRA fucking weirdo. You are appear a living bearded neck.
I really don’t understand you OP. Not everybody disagreed with you, I didn’t. It’s just the nature of LTWWB that the Bitch Posters generally get flack, deserved or not. There will always be people that disagree with you no matter how right you think you are or how noble your cause may be. You can’t run from it.
your post was definitely valid, catcalling is shitty. just don’t expect amazing responses from this forum, theres some weird people on here who seem to relish in putting people down and bitching about women and feminism. its best to stay away because the commenters on here will mostly make you feel nauseous about halifax and the people you may potentially run into here.
I wasn’t aware that having a neck beard was a prerequisite for despising feminism. Just another factoid to add to my privilege backpack, I suppose.
Nobody defended the cat-callers. We all think they are immature, cretins. Most males don’t despise feminism. In fact, we support it whole heartedly. We do, however, oppose the type of feminist (or any other -ist) who tries to shut down all discussion with statements like “You don’t know what it’s like”.
Who hurt you, Chuck?
Lionel Richie.
*Aarron Neville voice*
Ogg ahhhh eeeeeaaaaaahhh Haaaaaahhhh
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SHlhJL3IlsQ
I’m a fat feminist bitch and not afraid to say it! Solidarity sista!
#fatbitchesunite
pretty sure most of us agreed with you on your bitch…
but despite that, you’re still pissed. So ok…
whatcha gonna do about it then?
oh, I know, you should post an anonymous bitch on the internetz… that’ll get some real progress. I’m up for any solutions you may have… they may not be cat-calling at me, but I hate the fuckers that do it when I have to hear that shit. I just don’t know how you plan to attempt to control the public… or even educate the neolithic assholes. It hasn’t worked for many a government. What’s your brilliant solution?
(apart from genocide, I suppose. there should be some boundaries.)
You tell ’em, Willard.
You’re such an idiot.
Hey Willard, how does that work? You bragged before that you never read my posts but just give me a “Dislike.” Were you fibbing, Willard? It’s time to come clean.
If you just ignore an annoying feminist, is it sexism?