QMy husband and I got married in August of 2019 and we were together for over five years before getting married. I’m very happy and love him with all my heart. I want to have his kids and support his entrepreneurial efforts as he supports mine. We don’t fight, we just have some tiffs here […]
Sex
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How to maintain intimacy during a time of isolation
QMy question is on managing “gray area” intimacies during the pandemic. I have a lover/friend that I’ve been hanging out with—fucking, drinking tea, going on hikes, eating ice cream, watching movies and other activities—for about nine months. He’s 36 and was married for 10 years, and due to that experience he’s been a bit emotionally […]
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Brownie points
Q I’m a cis bi woman, and I mainly have sex with people with penises. I have a really gross problem. It’s been an issue for as long as I’ve been sexually active—but in the past few years, it seems to have gotten worse. If I am being penetrated vaginally, especially if it’s vigorous (which […]
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Sleep apnea and oral sex, a full-throated investigation
Q I’m a middle-aged gay man and I was recently diagnosed with sleep apnea. This is a disorder caused by the soft tissue in the throat collapsing during sleep. On top of making me feel tired and awful all the time, sleep apnea is associated with a long list of health complications. I’m writing you […]
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Spit and polish
Q I’m a 31-year-old cis bisexual woman. I’m hetero-romantic and in a monogam-ish relationship with a man. We play with other people together. I’ve never liked giving blowjobs because I was taught that girls who give blowjobs are “sluts.” Phrases that are meant to be insulting like “You suck,” “Suck it,” “Go suck a dick,” […]
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Prone to failure
Q I’m 20, straight, male, fit and active. I masturbated prone—flat on my stomach—for years. I’ve now changed to a more traditional position (on my back or sitting upright), and I’m using my hand rather than grinding against a mattress. I can easily orgasm when I masturbate. I’ve had sex four times in my life, […]
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A peg above the rest
Q My boyfriend and I were having relationship issues until we tried something new: pegging. He wanted to try it, but he was afraid and sometimes said the idea disgusted him. Then we tried it, and it was better than normal vanilla or even kinky bondage sex. It was the most emotionally connected sex we’ve […]
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The results of The Coast’s Sex + Dating 2020 survey
The Coast’s readers dish the dirt and delights of dating and sex in Halifax. From keeping their socks on, to running out of Tinder options, looking for love in this city is sometimes wild, sometimes weird and sometimes realized among the bushes at Point Pleasant Park.
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Cam what may
Q I started reading your column when I was a 20-year-old kid. Now I’m an old married lady with 20 years of blissful monogamy behind me. My oldest daughter, who is 23, just came out to me as a sex worker. She’s been making a slim living as a cam girl. She recently graduated with […]
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The long game
Q I’m a 30-year-old bi male. I’ve been with my wife for five years, married nine months. A month into our relationship, I let her know that watching partners with other men has always been something I wanted and that sharing this had caused all my previous relationships to collapse. Her reaction was the opposite […]
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Bloody business
Q I am a 60-year-old heterosexual man, and I’m told that I’m normal. I have been to several urologists, and they say I have no medical issues. But I’m having a hard time buying it, because for the last six months, my ejaculate has been extremely bloody. This is embarrassing, especially since oral sex—giving and […]
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Quick and dirty Qs and As
Q My ex-girlfriend, who I dated for nine months, called me two months after we broke up and accused me of giving her HPV. She was going on, telling me how I needed to tell any future person I had sex with that I have HPV. I’m a 38-year-old man, and I’ve never had any […]