Matt Whitman warns that politicians need to be more careful about who they embrace, given the rising number of sexual misconduct complaints against elected officials.
Speaking to reporters Tuesday at City Hall, the Hammonds Plains–St. Margarets councillor lamented how changing times are impacting the behaviour of men like him in politics.
“You can’t be quite as free with your hugs and with your compliments and talking to strangers,” says Whitman. “It’s a time we have to be more careful. So I think that’s what’s coming out of it. But I think it’s a shame that folks might not, sort of, voice their compliments to people. You know, ‘Nice hat.’”
Allegations of sexual misconduct have recently been levelled against two former politicians who Whitman says were his mentors.
Former Progressive Conservative leader Jamie Baillie was forced to resign last month after an independent investigation concluded he had behaved inappropriately towards a party staffer.
Over the last week, the National Post has published several stories of alleged sexual impropriety by former NDP Member of Parliament Peter Stoffer.
Whitman tells reporters he’s disappointed if the accusations against Stoffer are true, but he didn’t want to comment on any specifics.
“It’s not for me to say if someone’s allegations are true or not,” he says. “There’s an awful lot of allegations coming in. I’ve seen a lot of them.”
Whitman unexpectedly appeared at a press conference Stoffer held last Friday, where the former MP denied ever sexually assaulting or abusing anyone. Despite the refutation, Stoffer still apologized to anyone who he hurt through inappropriate comments or his “friendly” demeanour.
“I’ve always been a gregarious, fun-going person,” said Stoffer.
Whitman tweeted while at the press event that Stoffer is a “class act.” He followed that up by presenting a hypothetical scenario seemingly conflating complaints about his own social media use with the allegations against his political mentor.
“Ten years ago an MP in Ottawa kissed a staffer on the cheek. Ten other MPs witnessed it and did nothing! Just hypothetical. No need to send complaints to clerks@halifax.ca.”
In a direct message to The Coast last Friday, the councillor said he remains a “big fan” of Stoffer and only believes the details he read in the Post.
“She was kissed on the cheek in front of 10 MPs and no one did anything,” Whitman writes.
As reported in the national newspaper, former NDP staffer Lauren Dobson-Hughes says Stoffer groped her waist and kissed her hard enough near her mouth to leave saliva drooling down her cheek.
Asked if that was appropriate behaviour for an elected official to make towards a staffer, Whitman replied “TGIF.”
In the same news story, another former NDP volunteer accused Stoffer of linking arms with her at a party several years ago and asking if she wanted to have a threesome with him and his date. When she tried to pull away, the volunteer says Stoffer tightened his grip and said, “Oh come on, don’t be a bitch.”
Since the initial story was published, several other women have come forward in the media and online with stories about Stoffer’s past inappropriate behaviour. The accusations range from uncomfortable inquires about young women’s sex lives, to grabbing bodies, unwarranted invitations for sex and belittling behaviour.
“In my time as a staffer and as a member of provincial and federal council, Peter Stoffer is the only person that made me continually feel disrespected, uncomfortable and insignificant just because I was a young woman in politics,” writes Allyson Marsh on Twitter.
Despite the accusations, Whitman says he still appreciates all the work Stoffer has done over the years for veterans. The councillor worries now that Stoffer is stepping back from the “speaking circuit,” those veterans won’t have the same strong advocacy.
“That’s a sad casualty of the process.”
Whitman is currently facing a record-setting number of public complaints about his own behaviour, stemming from online posts made after HRM toppled Edward Cornwallis’ statue.
But when it comes to sexual misconduct, the councillor says he’s in the clear. He unequivocally states that he’s never behaved in a sexually inappropriate way.
“No, but I’m definitely a lot more careful than to talk to strangers or give someone my opinion on the street,” says Whitman. “It’s risky. It’s risky to talk to strangers. It’s risky to talk to the media. It’s risky to talk to anyone. You could be misinterpreted or misconstrued.”
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This article appears in Feb 8-14, 2018.
Matt, you’re hot. Any time you feel frustrated that you can’t hug someone…please give me a shout. This is a #MeToo free zone here!
I get that a lot of people don’t like Matt Whitman, and with good reason in some cases, but I’m starting to feel like Jacob Boon is a bit of a bully — using his print space to constantly attack people he doesn’t like. Maybe somebody should start investigating Jacob Boon and see what kinda dirt they can find on him for a change.
Full body embraces should not be considered professional behaviour. I remember as a volunteer, signing a clause that was “hands off”. A handshake was the maximum. Complimenting someone’s physique, while the person may mean well, can also come off wrong. I knew someone who was complimented all the time for being “fit and healthy” when the reality was she lost 55 pounds from cancer treatment/chemo. Compliment someone’s clothes, or accomplishments, not their inherent features.
I’m sorry but “nice hat” is not even in the same universe as grabbing or kissing someone.
We get it, Whitman, you want a gig with Rebel Media. Since you seem more focused on that than representing your constituents, kindly resign so they can elect someone who will.
“Nice hat” is one thing. “Nice tits” is something else entirely. Sorry that Whitman is feeling so constricted in his, er, compliments and hugging. Here’s a tip: if you want to hug someone, ask them if it’s okay first. If the answer is no, then keep calm and move on.
“I don’t see a problem but now my bro-friend can’t be in the speaking circuit and that’s a problem.”
Witless has bigger issues then if a hug is ok or not.
As for the hug itself – turn to someone, hold out your arms, if they move in to finish the hug then it’s fine.
Lacig, you are not the only one who feels Jacob is a bully. But deep down, I’m not sure that’s the case; could he be improperly influenced or worse, is he being used as a pawn by the editor? All reasonable theories. One thing for sure, he doesn’t want his face shown; probably for the best.
Now I wanted to comment on something… I have forgotten what that was…
You really need to be careful these days. Compliment the wrong person’s tits or ask the wrong person for a threesome and call them a bitch and you can get yourself into trouble. Best to just put on a muzzle and stick your hands in your pockets, I guess. Or… I guess maybe just not be an aggressive, disgusting slimebucket. Whichever works.
And the editor of this piece, wow, what a bully. Reporting the facts of a story is just in such poor taste – quoting people and gathering info, then posting that information publically is just reprehensible. Shame on you, Jacob Boon, for doing your job as a journalist without censoring yourself in case someone that is well-liked is mentioned in an unfavourable light!