It bothers me how much this bothers me. Being 24 in Halifax, you should have an understanding that your s/o has opposite sex friends is important. I ran into a old colleague whom I hadn’t seen in a year or so. I was a little tipsy as we were at a bar, but I ran up to my strictly friend (not attracted to him at all) hugged him and asked how he was doing. Only to have his girlfriend beside me tap me on the shoulder and say “I’m his girlfriend and who are you?” “You cannot do that again! Do you understand?” I wanted to ask my friend to blink twice if he needed help. Moral of all this: don’t be so insecure. I just nodded at her and sat down, but man, it got me thinking. —The disgruntled friendly person
This article appears in Feb 9-15, 2017.
Most women dont like drunk chicks approaching their boyfriends in bars and getting all “huggy with it”. Geez, Im a moron and even I know that!
Ummmm… uhhhh… yeah. Okay. Okay…
Moral of the story – don’t physically touch another person without their express consent.
There is no such thing as a platonic relationship with a member of the opposite sex.
There is always at least a quick mental “yes/no/maybe” wrt sex. Even if there is a “no”, the fact you had to rule it out, means there is a component of sex to the relationship.
Wrt gay/bi platonic relationships, the permutations are too numerous to go into, but the results are the same…
A slight twinge of jealousy when your partner shows affection for or receives affection from a member of the opposite sex is normal. Speaking out like that is not – especially when alcohol is involved and you know emotions tend to get exaggerated. It created an unnecessarily awkward situation for all parties.
Feeling jealous is a very revealing emotion. The incident showed that the girlfriend has a deep seated insecurity for some reason. In my experience she is either deeply insecure due to her own perceived flaws or she is projecting her won fantasies about other people being attracted to her and what she would do. Either way, it doesn’t make for a good relationship.
The OB did nothing wrong in showing her affection for her friend. Even if she had at one time harboured stronger feelings about him it doesn’t matter now. It’s in the past and the OB and her friend shouldn’t have to hide their close friendship. It’s part of being a grown-up.
You just gave your friend a gift. You showed him the true character of his girlfriend. It’s an ugliness that speaks for itself, if he’s willing to listen.
Oceanchick NAILED IT!
City mouse, you’re totally full of shit. I have over a dozen platonic male friends, have had for over 4 decades. And a partner who has no problem with it. Way to go judging everyone by their genitalia. You’ve branded all men rutting pigs & all women jealous twits in one fell swoop.
T.T., perhaps city mouse was viewing others through his/her own lens. If so, it’s a very narrow view.
Lets not forget there are multiple sides to the story here. Without this dude or the girlfriend weighing in, we’re only getting OBs version.
This bitch doesnt pass the smell test.
My best friend is a guy. I’d rather DP a splintery stick than fuck him, because it would feel incestuous. So yeah, from my perspective you can absolutely be platonic friends with the opposite sex. Of course, not all opposite sex friends can be platonic, but I think it can happen in a lot of situations.
And if the guy I’m dating acted like the chick in this bitch (the one who reamed out the OB), I’d probably tell him to go find someone else to spend his time with.