We started working together and became friends about a year ago. A new guy started there over a month ago, and I was immediately attracted to him. I made it clear to you that I really liked him. Mind you, I didn’t hit on him right away… we just got to know one another a bit… and then when I realized we had quite a bit in common, I asked him if he wanted to go out for coffee or drinks or something. He agreed but he wanted to get back to me about when he could. Cool. Then a week later, I found out you two were officially dating! When I confronted you about it, you told me that he knew I liked him but you were more his type than I was. I am very doubtful about this as he seemed interested in me and here you come along and snatch him from me. You are a fucking shitty friend who needs to find her own man instead of going after men her friends like! —Still Single Thanks to You
This article appears in Mar 10-16, 2011.
Really Op? How freaking petty could you possibly be!
She didn’t snatch him up. She didn’t put him at knife point or enchant him with some love spell. He was into her, and she into him. Get the hell over it.
This is one thing I am really thankful that never went on between my friends and I growing up. If we both liked a guy, we wouldn’t fight over him, if he expressed interest in one of us, than good for that friend!
Like really, she STOLE him from you?
How shallow of a life do you have?
LOL … sebastian!
I hate to say it, OP, but… if he was REALLY interested in you, he probably would’ve been more apt to not wait a week+ on getting back to you regarding a time to go out for coffee. “I’ll check my schedule, generally means: yano.”
Sorry 🙁
while I do agree with you guys that he probably wasn’t that into her… it’s still not very friendly to start dating a dude your friend has a crush on. Geez, give him the time to say “no thanks” himself before she finds out through the grapevine that you’re dating.
So the “friend” was a bit of a ho too.
Well Beyonce, If you liked it then you shoulda put a (cock) ring on it…
But seriously, human trafficking is no joke, so let’s stop referring to people in the possessive.
It’s the guy that didn’t choose you, if he liked you, he’d be with you.
Be pro-active OB, go get him.
http://www.boyfriendstealer.com/
OP, maybe she offered to fuck him first. Quit being the nice girl. Guys want the dirty hoes. Just look at what those Spryfield and Sackville guys choose.
Someone *coughcoughsebastard* sounds really resentful.
EARLY BIRD gets the worm OP. Or, I guess in this case, the early worm got to have the bird… 😛
Everyones said it. Clear message op that no one has sympathy for you.
I have sympathy for OP. She’s obviously sad about the whole thing and she has a right to be. She liked a guy who ended up dating her friend. And she told her friend she was interested. So she feels rejected, number one, which makes your heart hurt and she feels like her friend doesn’t care about her which also makes your heart hurt.
My comment merely pointed out that he liked the other chick better (or actually liked the other chick and didn’t like OP at all). It’s not a case of who got to him first, it’s a case of he put OP off (again, people who are interested in any capacity in another person won’t pull the ‘i’ll have to check my schedule and get back to you’ line and then a week later (jesus most people are at least somewhat sure of when they’re free and can fit something in with a friend — and it doesn’t take a week to find that out) — “I’ll check my schedule” = rejection, plain and simple) still no answer… well he just wasn’t that into her. Whether he was romantically interested or just interested in being her friend.
Everything happens for a reason OP, I really do believe that, and I think this is just an opportunity to go find something out there that’s better for you — friendship-wise and romantic-wise.
How can someone steal something or someone from you that wasn’t yours in the first place? maybe I’ll go to the Jaguar dealership and look at an XKR and say I want that and when someone buys it, I’ll call the police and say it was stolen from me.
you snooze, you lose baby. the suckster will tell you that all the time. if the dude was so all of it, you sould have pounced, guys like that shit. makes them think they are special.
and o.p., if you don’t put your brand on them, they are still consided free range meat.
no matter how you conjugate it…
“He’s just not that into you”
is a stupid saying from a ridiculous movie… from coked out screenwriters looking to make a buck off lonely women’s sentimentality and guys that have to sit through that crap, meanwhile likely paying for two tickets, just so they can get a little sumpin sumpin that night.
Stop saying it…. it’s retarded.
Betty and Veronica – issue #153,978.
People from Sackville and Spryfield drive SUVs too.
well if this guy is more mature than you seem to be, and we all have our fingers crossed here, then he is probably dating the person he is actually into… If it’s not you then move along! Next!
Be happy that your friend found someone she likes or get a new friend if you can’t get over it.
“Would be boyfriend” is a really stupid term….
Sebastian..eat shit. I’ll never make a homo comment so do your best and withhold the Sackville comment – cause I bet not only do I have more class then you, I also have a hell of a lot less notches under my belt. You don’t want to be judge – stop fucking judging!!!!!
OP – have you ever hung out with this girl outside of work? then stop saying she’s your friend and did you wrong. Calling dibs isn’t really fair when the guys not into you.
God judges his kind. We have the same right, RC.
The silly games children play .
OH…what was that ….I think recess is over, back to class !
High school drama bullshit.
“Can I suck your dick?” WHAMMO! He wouldn’t wait a week to get back to you on that. I least you should get a free supper out of it. Either go for the surf and turf or the scarf and barf.
I know I’m shallow.
Fukushima Daiichi is only second to Chernobyl, oh fuck 🙁
watch jeopardy for half an hour…calm down. it’s bad but there’s nowt you can do
Well, it’s kind of cut and dry, zed, is it not? If someone is interested in someone else they likely actually want to spend time with that person and won’t wait to get back to them (and who knows if he ever would’ve even if this other chick came into the equation).
I’ve said it over and over for the longest time: if you have to twist someone’s arm to spend time with you, they’re likely not interested in you as a person. That goes for any kind of relationship. I’ve never had to twist NGF’s arm or my other best friends’ arm to spend time with me (even though both live hours away!) and even my friends in other countries and provinces lament to me how they’d love to see me right now and we talk about how much we miss each other. Frig, I even have a “trance” date with one of my old friends from Acadia I haven’t actually seen in person since 2004 for June when I’m in toronto because we both actually like each other and want to get together. THAT indicates interest in another person. Having to CONVINCE someone to spend time with you when they’re in the same general vicinity generally indicates they have no inclination TO want to spend time with you, thus, no interest in you. People who like each other, tend to enjoy the idea of hanging out.
I look at it as an “all or nothing” thing. Maintaining/developing/beginning a relationship with someone shouldn’t be hard and frustrating. So, I’m confident this guy just “wasn’t that into” OP. I really don’t see any gray areas here.
It won’t be in 24-48 hours. It will be a total meltdown. Fissions great, eh!
It’s really, really hard to watch. Hard to believe… the Japanese certainly have all my prayers to the great flying spaghetti monster heading their way.
She who hesitates, masturbates.
“He doesn’t like you”
wow, … clear… concise… direct.
“He’s just not that into you”…
that’s what Sebastards roommate says as he’s video taping seb’s latest random hookup.
go deeper…
quite clearly they do have more in common else he would be with you no? heh.
I love women who think men are objects that can be stolen. Hilarious. That’s why you’re still single, ps.
he’s just not that into you is the exact same as “he doesn’t like you.”
It’s not that hard to figure out when someone doesn’t like you.