so this 38 y/o women is refusing to let her kids see their father…she allows him to see them twice a month for 2 hrs. his wife to be is not allowed around them yet she has already had 2 men living with her…both of which no longer reside with her. She has to be one of the meanest, most immature 38 y/o i havent ever met or heard of. im so tired of her sarcastic phone calls and thinkin she is the ruler of this earth we walk on…..She needs to get knocked down a few sizes…most women are crying for their childrens fathers to be in their lives but not this woman…i think its safe to say shes…so…HEARTLESS!!!
—PLEASE JUST GROW UP AND ACT YOUR AGE ALREADY!!!
This article appears in Jun 11-17, 2009.
i would like to hear her side of the story.i have a friend in the same situation, the reason her ex doesnt get to see the kids is becuase he’s a convicted sex offender.
maybe you friend is a deadbeat, maybe its court ordered?
Have you guys ever heard of…a LAWYER?!!? And please do not give me the old BS line “well we tried and they said there is nothing he can do”. I am a divorced Dad and I can tell you that if he pays his child support and there are no extenuating circumstances (ie being an abuser etc) then he has every legal right to see his kids on a regular basis. There is more to this story.
Here Here TTFN. It really does happen A LOT!
However, I’m also with Bobby33…there is shit that could be done.
Or maybe she’s just a bitch who was hurt by him leaving her and the only way she can get back at him is through the kids. It happens all the time and it’s very sad. She thinks in her twisted little way that it’s a good thing, when all she is doing is alienating the children from their father and ensuring future problems. It’s a sad state of affairs when this kind of thing is allowed to happen. And yes, I am aware that it happens on both sides.
i knwo people in this situation but there is prob more to the story then you know..
Maybe – but bitterness and spite are no reason to keep a child away from his/her father.
If need by think of it this way. When you are insulting a parent in front of a child(no matter how much a asshole the parent is), you are essentially insulting part of that child’s DNA, therefore, you are insulting the child themselves. Same goes for keeping kids away from parents for no good reason, you are denying the child something that is part of them.
TTFN and the rest, unfortunately this is far too common. A guy pays his support and wants to be involved and the ex won’t allow it.
The biggest problem is that law enforcement will not aid in enforcing it (they will not arrest the offender) nor will the courts oder jail time. The reasoning for this is that it will cause alienation in the kids seeing a parent being arrested and/or thrown in jail. I cannot recall any incident where this has happened to a custodial parent.
I’ve often sympathized with men who pay through the nose but rarely get to see their kids. There are some real whackjobs out there, both male and female but I find women particularly vicious – they just can’t let go and don’t seem to mind using their children as pawns in the sick game of ‘Who Loves You More?. Fucking bitches like that deserve to have a rabid raccoon stuffed up their pucker button.
I have been divorced for 8 years and my son is in University now. I have never been a day late with a payment in 8 years. On top of that I paid for half his extracurricular activities like hockey etc (and gladly). She got the house. Yet after 8 years she is still a fucking bitter bitch!! I will be paying support until my son finishes university.
And guess what, Bobby33, she’ll always be a bitter bitch because she is not mature enough to let go of her hostilities. If she was, she’d move on with her life and forget about trying to sustain her hatred forever. Some women are just plain fucking stupid.
Um, excuse me, my father is currently under a restraining order after he threatened to kidnap my brother and I (during a supervised visit) when we were both toddlers. (My parents were divorced at the time). Unless you have a valid argument, you have no rights to complain. Or rights to see your children freely, as a matter of fact.
I don’t think a child should be in the care of an abusive and/or violent parent, male or female. Except my mother. I could outrun her.
How about one of my best friends who had a psycho wife who told everyone he abused his kids so she could get custody and to move back to Holland? That was one life I saw ruined due to a thoughtless, conniving cunt.
Dino I think we all agree that in cases of abuse, all bets are off. But the other unfortunate thing is that some people (not your mother and sorry to hear that happened) especially with young children, who cannot communicate, will make false charges of abuse. Some people are just plain evil. My ex tried that with me, now my adult children love me, and we spend time with me (one lived with me for a while and the other will fro about a year after university) and will have nothing to do with her. So people who are going through this crap there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
This happens way too often, when will the courts become unbiased, and give men an equal right to see there children? Errr.
How DARE she think she is the ruler of this earth we walk on? I AM. Duh.
Imma cut that bitch’s face.
I agree that all bets are off if there is abuse or other illegal activity. It may not seem fair, but even deadbeat parents (note I didn’t limit that to dads) still have a legal right to access. However, access is difficult to enforce. What are you going to do; bodily haul a bitter teenager out the door of his/her custodial parent’s residence to take part in court-ordered visits? Doesn’t do much to improve the relationship.
Children are often brainwashed against the ex. Many grow up and eventaully ask enough questions to come to an understanding of why the marriage broke up in the first place. Others cultivate a hate that will fester and fuck up their own relationships. Every case is different, but I have no respect for any parent who would not at least try to ensure that their children have a healthy relationship with both parents. Considering that a child receives genes from both, I have to wonder if the kids don’t feel that the bad-mouthing parent must hate that part of them.
It’s difficult not to badmouth the ex — especially if she is a lying, bitter bitch — but hopefully the children will grow up and see her for what she is…
What I find strange and ironic (and excuse me ladies on here..I am simply generalizing :o) )I sthat women today cry that they want to be treated as equals. Equals in life, equals in the workforce, etc. (which I agree with btw). But when it comes to going to divorce court they play the “poor me, I am a defenceless woman” card. And the judges suck it up. All you can do as a Dad (or Mom) who is non-custodial is do the right thing. Pay your support, make an effort to be in your kid’s lives and be a good role model. At the end of the day your kids will grow up and know that you did everything you could and will form their own opinions about your ex.
Bobby33, you are soooo right – I’ve seen men go through this shit with aggressive women who become meek little victims in the blink of an eye. I cannot believe the court system continues to be so unfair to men when it comes to child custody. Just because one is female does not mean they are the better parent.