I’m not saying we need to shame people in the streets Cersei Lannister style, but a little humiliation won’t kill people. We’re so worried about offending people and “scarring them for life” that we don’t even speak up when someone’s being an ass—and if no one speaks up, what reason do they have to stop?
Having people laugh at you for your stupidity or making you feel bad for doing something bad is never fun, but it’ll make most people think twice about doing something stupid or asshole-ish—so long as they aren’t complete sociopaths.
We live in a world where anonymity is way too easy, so the shock of having someone actually call you out—to your face, and preferably with other people around—can hit even harder. At this point, shaming people through the streets shouldn’t even be necessary. Just speak up where other people can hear and maybe the shitheads will realize what they’re doing is wrong, or at least that the results aren’t worth it.
—Being temporarily ashamed and guilt-ridden is better than being a piece of shit
This article appears in Nov 8-14, 2018.
…or you could just mind your own business and not take years off your life stressing about what other people are doing.
I have to assume that whoever you’re talking about really didn’t do anything “illegal”…or “wrong”, other than “wrong” just because you say so.
Be careful getting in people’s face in public. Not everyone has “so much to lose” by losing their shit and you might find yourself in difficulty.
I’m not afraid to speak up.
I think, OB, that you have confused a series of concepts and used words in a different context in an attempt to “correct” behaviors that you find distasteful. And that type of behavior is distasteful all unto itself.
I don’t get to choose your actions, beliefs, thoughts and values. Why are you attempting to dictate mine?
If you look in through my window and see something you don’t like, remember that you looked in through my window (and it’s a big gay party where we use Grindr).
Nice to see that people are against taking action if they see someone bullying another in the streets. Nice to know that people don’t care anymore.
Like WesLee, I’m not afraid to speak up 🙂 I will tell you off when it’s due 😉
Hell yeah OB! Standing up for speaking out! People need to realize that some people need to get called on their shit even if it’s awkward to be the one doing it.
Also @Agra: Pretty sure the OB isn’t suggesting going after people at home. I think it’s more like if you see some asshole hit their kid in public or screams racist/homophobic/sexist shit at people. People like that should be getting called on that kinda shit.
OMG I can’t believe comment left by Resting Bitchface is getting dislikes!!
What hole did you people crawl out of?!