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I keep going back to a guy that likes to be in control. He has shagged others behind my back, breaks up w me, kicks me and kids out of the house for months at a time, hurt me physically. I wish this man had learned, you’re not allowed to hit people. I wish I learned from my mistakes. —Mannikin
This article appears in Sep 19-25, 2013.
25 Comments
Sounds like my house.
You have children I assume (‘Kicks me and kids out for months at a time’), you can’t keep going back to him and endangering their lives. Not to mention your own. Either way, you need some counseling to get over this–even you realize how unhealthy this is.
This isn’t ‘sexy’ in any way, this is a highly disturbed relationship. I find these kind of relationships are hyped up in the media and made to look PASSIONATE/SEXY which is why I felt the need to state how DISTURBINGLY NOT SEXY that is.
He is a horrible person for being able to hit you. Does he do it in front of your kids? Please think of them & leave while you still can. There are shelters like Adsum Women and Children, Alice Housing and more. Please look them up.
http://www.adsumforwomen.org/
http://alicehousing.ca/
Stop being so fucking stupid. There are a number of places you and your kids can go, but I know “you love him”. The only one who can change things is you, but that requires making a decision and sticking to it.
It’s too late BT…once the “Love” word is involved, all reasoning and logic are lost…. Cause I Love this person so much, I can’t leave. Best to leave while you are still able to.
This thread gives me gas.
timbro “Stop being so fucking stupid.”
That’s your attitude towards abused wives who have zero supports for her and her child/ren and see’s no way out of her bad relationship?
..and you mentioned on here before YOU were a cop??!!
It’s no fucking wonder women are too afraid to call police when they’re husbands beat the fucking shit out of them.
In your days as a cop,how many abusive husbands did you not arrest after they beat up they’re wives?
It’s not “LOVE” but a different “L” word that keeps the abused woman from leaving her partner ,”LACK” as in “lack of self esteem”.
WTF?
I know “lack of self esteem” is more than one word and not all of those words begin with an “L”.
I arrested enough and the wives dropped the charges and we’d do it all again and again and again, so excuse me if I sound pissy. Even today when it gets to court the wife will lie or Not remember, etc. You try to help them and they don’t want it.
I can understand an officer’s frustration but,cops should just do the job they’re paid to do and not judge abused women. How many women that have taken out restraining orders on their husbands only to end up dead,murdered by the estranged husband, who tore up the restraining order?
Everyone on this board judges. Why should BT be held to a different standard. He’s human. I can’t imagine how frustrating it would be to be there to help a woman time and time again and see her continue to put herself back in that situation. We all have choices, and in the case of OP she needs to realize the love for her children is much more important then it is for this man. We don’t know the situation, we don’t know if the kids are his, or if she needs him financially for support or what. We just know that she continues to put herself in a situation where she continues to get hurt. Pure logic says to stop being stupid. But love is far from logic, and even though this isn’t love at all! It’s emotional crap that’s confused with the L word.
The worlds been saved. And anyone in this situation would definitely write a local paper about it.
Now, who the fuck disliked my shit?
I wish you did too op. Because you’ll catch an STD from this guy. Either before or after he hurts you enough to put you in the hospital.
If you don’t leave, it won’t change. I bet you a cold thousand dollars. Why would he change? You let him do what he wants. Why would he stop? It’s like if someone kept giving me money, dude i’d keep taking it. Why would i stop? If someone kept handing me money, I’d be an IDIOT to stop.
Stop being a doormat. For yourself, any kids you might have, the taxpayer. Just grow a set and get out. Nothing else is going to work for you. A thousand bucks. I don’t even HAVE a cold grand to throw around. But that doesn’t matter because i already know it’s a bet i’ll win.
Nothing gives him the right to behave the way he does. Except you. YOU give him that right and I’m sorry but about 30% of my frustration is with YOU. He is a bad guy. And you’re his bitch.
You’re better than that.
You’re a cum dumpster to this man – no more, no less. Take care of your kids and stop wasting your life on worthless men.
Given your ultimate stupidity, I shant comment on your bitch other than to say, that ain’t S&M… you’re missing out on all the fun!
Meaty my thoughts exactly.
Boru is the queen of S&M?
What is this crap about not judging people. There is not one person out there who does not judge people on a daily basis, in fact a number of times a day, based on their looks, the way they sound, and a myriad of other things. You also make friends based on how you judge them, how they present themselves, etc. Judging is normal, it is not a dirty word.
Only those who do it properly are allowed to judge people Bro Tim. Duh!
You’re obviously not clever enough to only judge the minorities and people not present. Try judging some young white males, nobody cares what anyone says about those guys!
For the next couple days I’d avoid judging the homeless, people who have loud sex, university, and women. If you got something important to say it’s just not worth the flame war to say it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3hIcKkKID8k
Jesus doesn’t judge, he loves everyone.
Bro tim…. You sure you’re a cop? If you were a cop you should know people don’t lay criminal charges nor drop them. POLICE charge people and the crown drops charges if they agree to a plea bargain. Don’t they teach this @ the po-po academy?
lol
I guess you never heard about “Laying a Private Charge”. Charges get dropped all the time. It may be done by a crown but if the victim (except in certain circumstances like domestic violence but only in the past 15-20 years) says they want the charges dropped, it will be dropped. Of course you would know this if YOU went to a “po-po academy”.
The Brooklyn Biscuit Steve Lombardi
YEPPERS,I am the queen of S and M.