Jesus my blood boiled this week as I was reading the online tributes and condolances people were posting after reading the articles about poor little James Delorey. There was a genuine outpouring of emotion in words and praise for the family and all that participated in the search and rescue effort…..and then BANG!! there it was!! That one comment that I knew I would see from some dimwitted FUCKTARD which went something like this…”Why did it take them so long to find him if he was only 1.3 k from his home” “Why didn’t they act sooner” “why weren’t they more organized” “why didn’t they use search dogs……”why, why, why”.
Look you piece of shit…WHY DIDN’T YOU get off your fat, lazy ass and do something to look for the little boy? Why did you feel the need to make your contribution to the tragedy an effort to point fingers and lay blame, and belittle the effort of so many people who were overwhelmed with a sense of need to find this poor little boy and bring him home safely.
Why are there always negative pieces of shit like yourself who refuse to focus on the positive and instead choose to point out and dwell on the negative in any given situation. Life would be a better place without Douchebags such as yourself. I’d love to know your RL name so if I saw that it was you in the same situation, I could remind everybody that no matter how hard they try and how much effort they put into the search, you would not be satisfied, and would find only fault in their actions instead of praising others for possibly, selflessly, putting their own lives in harms way to help a fellow human being, not for money, not for glory, not for fame, but because they could contribute and wouldn’t be able to sleep with themselves if they knew they could help and didn’t.
I wish I knew who you were in real life, as I would love to walk up to you and spit in your face you piece of shit. That’s a proper way to treat someone of your outlook and mentality. FOAD!!!
—Me, Myself & I
This article appears in Dec 10-16, 2009.
I’m not touching this story for fear of being flamed… though needless to say I don’t think his story warranted the front page for 3 days.
saw that too,they really should have left the comment section open longer tho.but buddy from search and rescue even said,that if they had gotten involved earlier,it might have had a better outcome.don’t blame the person who made the comment,they are already doing that themselves.i fet like bawling when i read that he had died,such a waste of a little life.
so I’m assuming something like
“darwin at work” isn’t going to make me many friends….
zZz, hope your kids die in a fire….
i thought that was a machavailian (spell check) theory
thanks for that… though I’m not sure why this child gets all the attention when this sort of thing happens all the bloody time…. idiots not paying attention and people suffering consequences…not to mention all he needed to do was dig a little hole for he and the dog to climb in (like snow dogs do in the arctic). Don’t they have beavers/cubs/boy scouts anymore?
like I said, I knew my stance was going to be a little controversial (to put it mildly).
shit happens.
I’m certainly not taking the why why why didn’t they do more to find him stance though… I’m wondering why why why the hell did they even have to in the first place..
I think it’s pretty natural to blame tragedy on others. It makes as much sense as a good public whippin’ or lynchin’ staged to satisfy a town of mourners, which is to say it doesn’t but for some reason we think it’s going to and point our fingers anywhere but at ourselves.
If anything this story reminds us it takes a town to raise a child, especially special needs children. Can’t we just look out for each other? Fuck.
I’m with zZz on this; I got sick of hearing about it non-stop. What also annoyed me is how everyone began acting like they knew the kid or that making a Facebook group was going to somehow magically solve the problem.
And how is the dog a hero?
I agree with you all about the maudlin non-stop coverage.
Here comes the however.
He was an autistic kid. And please don’t start with the “autistic just means you can’t control your kid”, you’ll look like the proper tool you are.
zZz, the kid couldn’t talk. Saying “not to mention all he needed to do was dig a little hole for he and the dog to climb in” is just you trying to be a bit of a devil’s advocate and stir the pot. He didn’t understand what was happening to him, or what the outcome of his behaviour would be.
I invite you to come on over to the IWK with me. PM me, you can spend the day with me.
I’m gonna give you the benefit of the doubt that you are more pissed off at the Chronic’s non-stop coverage, than you are the fact that a mentally handicapped boy froze to death.
I know I am
It’s sad how autism is so misunderstood, ML. A LOT of people really do believe it’s a lack of control over one’s children. I have two autistic family members and even the one who is high functioning will never have the opportunity to be fully independent. The other doesn’t have a sense of danger and would walk out into the middle of a busy road no problem without being watched. Thing *is*, autistic children/adults that aren’t very high functioning sometimes need constant supervision so this doesn’t happen, but you can’t watch someone every second of the day. What are you going to do when you have to shower or use the bathroom? Are you just going to lock the kid up? I think if anyone who criticizes why this happened or the events that took place afterwards had to deal with an autistic child/adult on a daily basis, they’d likely be a bit more understanding.
Like ML, I’m really hoping you’re more pissed at the amount of coverage rather than the fact that this little boy died, zZz. And even you too, NGF.
It’s very sad that the kid got died and I’m sure his family is grief stricken, but Nova Scotia has gotten a very bad case of mourning sickness. The whole thing smacks of “Missing White Woman Syndrome” (but with a boy). It feels like Nancy Grace is running the Chronicle-Herald.
I have some friends on Facebook who keep posting about this kid and how sad they are and how much they’re praying for his family. None of them knew the kid or his family beforehand.
I’m getting tired of this publically enforced group grieving we’ve been subjected to in the last couple of years.
@myself
“It’s very sad that the kid got died”
I suck at grammar this evening.
umm sorta on the subject i was watching enter. tonite or something and the panel was all and of course everyone knows what they were doing when they heard jacko died i’m like no are you mental
Sad as it is – noones to blame here and them people that don’t know the child and cracking open grieving groups – cry for your own sadness and tragidies in your life and fuck right off with yourself. Keep in mind i doubt any poster and or grieving idiot that don’t know the family was offerring to come up and help S and R find the kid ? No didn’t think so – be ashamed of yourself – and hide your fuckin head for the incoming shit off that fan your shitting in cause it’s gonna hit you right in the face .
“and them people”… and you call ME a fucking RETARD? You so totally fit in with the sheep here, hog. You just feel free to stay.
Poor kid. I used to be weird and adventurous just like him when I was his age and probably with similar issues, just undiagnosed. I got lost and probably almost died sometimes, too, but to me it was all an adventure. Some of us make it, some of us don’t. Very sad. RIP.
No the world isn’t about you Kay and the comment wasn’t about you – it was a generalization . And yes i fit in here – i’m from here .
“point our fingers anywhere but at ourselves.” Words to live by eh Kay? You seem to be an expert.
While I fully understand that Autism is a very serious affliction and rarely is it ever a situation of someone not being able to control their child, I have to say that the news coverage of the event was excessive. Secondly, I think that people in today’s society are way too disingenuous. I mean, come on, a Facebook group? You want to get involved? Put on a pair of boots and join the search team. Then you get to say that you helped. That is probably one of the worst things about Facebook: create a group for it, and all of a sudden, you’re in a cause or fighting for the freedom of a Canadian journalist.
Elie Weisel once said that sometimes, in moments of grace, kind words attain the quality of deeds. I really think that people involved with those facebook groups or “disingenuous” acts were doing what they could at the time to express a bit of compassion at a time when a little boy lost his life. There’s nothing wrong with trying to inspire a little bit of hope. I would call this a genuine expression of empathy, not “mourning sickness”.
Community is community; and hoping for others to have a community of support around them when it’s needed is a beautiful reason to hope.
just let the dead rest peacefully. i believe the boy passed as a sign for everyone to relize that no-one is promised tomorrow and to be thankful for your own
given the fact that I didn’t know much about the boys condition, I’ll recant my “he should have known how to save himself” line…. though yes, I didn’t like the media monopolizing the front page three days.
I do have a heart… and got caught rampaging on a bad week.
I do like to be controversial sometimes, but perhaps I was a little out of line.
Nice post itwouldhavefit.
Why does the disingenuous act of creating a Facebook page for Caylee Anthony or Tori Stafford worthy of derision but closer to home, Facebook pages for James Delorey are genuine expressions of empathy? Lots of little kids die every year in Nova Scotia but they don’t get Facebook pages with massive followings.
As I said, the family and friends are probably grief stricken and going to be upset and mourning. However, people who had absolutely no connection to the boy but are in floods of tears and grief are just perverting the entire thing. Does anyone even know the names of his immediate family? Probably not.
People on Facebook are not a community, despite what Facebook may want you to believe. They’re random people who rubberneck at someone else’s grief and they’re disgusting. It’s an insane outpouring of grief. Basically “grief porn”. Publically sanctioned and demanded. Grieve for this kid or you’re a horrible person. Next we’ll be walking down streets wailing and scratching at our faces every time we have another missing white kid.
I’m not really a fan of posting links but check this out: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?…
That pretty much sums up my feelings about this.
scratch that… he’s on the front page again and was yesterday…
lovely.
I swear to santa if they run an article tomorrow with “day one of living without James” I’m going to scream.