If one more person tells me I’ll change my mind or I just haven’t met the right person yet, I’m going to fly into a Mel Gibson-type rage. I am 30 years old. Believe it or not, I know what I do and don’t want from life and a baby is on the No Thanks List. This doesn’t make me defective or broken or sad or a liar – it makes me a member of a growing number of men and women that don’t need or want kids to have a fulfilling life. Keep your antiquated opinions to yourself!! —My Vagina, My Choice
This article appears in Dec 8-14, 2016.
Excellent bitch. So tired of people wanting to inflict their misery (having kids – this is not an easy job – no, it’s fucking hard work, a 20 year commitment that will cost you a bundle) on others who have no interest in creating & maintaining a little mini me. My childless friends in their 60s are quite content not to have been part of that life. I applaud & admire your stand on this issue.
Yeah, spend your money on fun; children are not fun. Fucking little albatrosses…
There is a high rate of suicide among old people that don’t have family. One day they wake up and realize that their worldly things are worthless without a family to enjoy it with.
Gv said, “There is a high rate of suicide among old people that don’t have family.”
That sounds bogus to me. Are you making that up or do you have some evidence?
I know about a dozen older people in their 70s, 80s and 90s who are child free and seem quite contented. They all had good careers, travelled, had full lives, and have good social networks. They aren’t and have never been focussed on their “worldly things”. They were and are focussed on experiences. None of them are depressed or suicidal.
The only difference I see between child-free seniors and seniors with kids is that, rather than imposing on their children for care, they have to hire people to clean their place or do home care.
Having children should be something you do only if you want the experience of raising children. Having children just so you won’t be lonely or so there will be someone to change your diaper when you get old is just plain selfish.
BTW, there are lots of guys who don’t want kids OB so no problem there. Just be up front about it.
What a steaming coil of bullshit, Great Value. Grindstone Cowboy said it perfectly.
When a breeder says “You’ll change your mind”, smile and say “So will you.” See how long it takes them figure it out.
Can you please post a link of where you got your senior citizen suicide rate G.V. I think you’re lying.
Suck it up, buttercup willie.
it is no secret that the highest rate of suicide is in the elderly. Each person is unique and so might be their reason for suicide. However, there is a trend that shows men are at higher risk of suicide. and, it also shows that always single and divorced is at higher risk than currently married.
I agree with OB, I am well beyond 30 and very happy with the choice not to spawn; especially after a divorce!
And as a side note, I have no suicidal thoughts.
So GV you are basically indicating that what you are talking about is not relating to children at all.
Also I agree with this bitch. I am 39 and have chosen not to have children. And it is a choice I still have to justify to family or friends or a random stranger at least once a month or so. I even had one person say that the whole purpose of all species is to procreate. And if I’m not fulfilling that purpose I’m either defective or serve no purpose in society. Hopefully these views will change at some point. Also, I’ve always wondered if men are subjected to similar amounts of pressure on this issue or is it just women who are seen as messed up or confused when wanting a child-free life.
Yeah I have to agree with this one. I tell people “it’s not that I don’t like kids, I just like sleeping in and having disposable income a lot more”.
I also call bullshit on the broad brush statement of high suicide rates among the elderly. I’d want to see several studies and their stats before coming to that conclusion. Could you give us the approximate website links to your claim, GV?
If there is a high suicide rate, as you say, it’s probably elderly parents who are totally ignored by their kids (and maybe for good reason).
Sounds to me that you equate having a family with someone to keep you company in your old age. How fucking sad. I would never place that burden on a grown child. Expectations are always planned disappointments.
You might think that everyone rationalizes whatever decision they happened to make, but a 2003 Gallup poll found that wasn’t true. When asked, “If you had to do it over again, how many children would you have, or would you not have any at all?” 24% of childless adults over the age of 40 wanted to be child-free the second time around
http://www.gallup.com
Thanks for keeping the population down.
– Gaia
” The American Sociological Association recently conducted a study …. and found that parents are more likely to be depressed than their childfree counterparts. In fact, people without kids were happier than any other group, including empty nesters.”
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compl…
GV cited … “a 2003 Gallup poll”
I’m sorry but a phone poll is not exactly a sound scientific or sociological study. Numerous in-depth studies have shown the contrary:
http://qz.com/708438/the-parenting-happine…
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016…
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/01/13/c…
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/…
Another recent study says the ‘glow’ of parenting wears off after about 12 months. Now that I’d believe. I celebrated when my sprog made me an empty nester – it meant sprog had the tools to go forward in life solo and I didn’t suffer from one pang of empty nest syndrome. People who expect their children to complete them are in for some lonely times ahead.
Having kids is a money draining, life consuming, thankless mistake, period.
Been there, wish I had not done that!
I fucking love you OP.
They do the same to me as if having kids is this grand achievement 🙂
I agree with realityman.
Everyone I know who has kids complains about having kids!
OP, whoever tells you that is most likely envious that you don’t and wish they never chose to live that way!
Also I just noticed Great Value’s comment. WTF are you talking about!!!
Whatever makes you sleep at night! 😉
Forgot to mention OP. I’m a guy who doesn’t want any 😉
The reason people with kids want single people to procreate is quite simple: ‘misery loves company’.