What is it with all this anti-bullying crap? Whatever happened to people standing up for themselves, and defending themselves? Do these people (who claim to be victims) think someone is always going to step in and protect them for the rest of their lives? How about offering a program and naming it “Grow a set of balls” and teach people to build self-confidence and defend themselves? All this anti-bullying crap is getting out of hand. —It’s All Hype
This article appears in Feb 16-22, 2012.
umm..I think you mean ‘bullies unite’ not anti-bulllies, dumbass. Also, bullies are cowards deep down, so maybe the bullies should grow a set.
Back in my day, when there was an issue it was dealt with one on one, in a traditional manner. These days, people travel in packs for security and things get out of control really fast. Anti Bullying campaigns bring awareness to this and other aggressive tactics brought on innocent people by others who have deep down issues themselves.
Bullying today is very different than it was whenever you were a kid. And it’s happening online just as much as it is at the schoolyard, or anywhere else. To expect everyone to be able to “stand up for themselves” is unfair and just stupid. So if they can’t stand up for themselves they should keep getting bullied?
Anti-Bully campaigns help people gain the confidence to handle the issues they’re facing. It gives them someone to talk to, someone that can relate to their situation and help them through it.
People like you just further their thought that they’re not worthy, or pathetic and ultimately lower their self confidence.
You’re a jackass, OP. I hope you never have kids.
Look ’em in the eye, stare right into their soul, and let that bully know exactly how you feel. Fierce eye contact and an unwillingness to give ground are excellent deterrents to bullies. Cold calculating silence adds effect as well, it also gives them very little to work with for verbal insults. Bullies are stupid, and easily scared by someone who stands up to them and confronts them openly. They fear what they do not understand, which in this case is why the little shrimp of a nerd kid isn’t running scared or crying.
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o.p., let me be one of the first to say it like it is. people today, are fucking cowards, and will not stand up to anyone. men are the worst of the lot. they would even say a word, or lift a finger to help or protect anyone, even their own fucking spouses. i have seen this happen more than i care to remember.
i have stepped in on more occasions than you can believe, and got not a bit of fucking thanks from these spineless fuckers. next time, i will let the woman beat your ass silly.
and then we have the macho type of bullshit here too. mr. high and fucking mighty, butting in where they should stay the fuck out of. and unfortunately, i have been guilty of this a few times myself.
but in respective terms, and conditions, i have helped a lot of people. but no more. if you can’t or won’t stand up for yourself guys, then you fucking deserve, what you are gonna get. i would have more respect for you, if you did or said something, even if you got your ass kicked.yes o.p., there are bullies, of all ages and sex, and there will continue to be assholes that are victems, because that’s what gets them the most pity. so, in passing, people are what and who they are, and nothing short of an accidental radioactive bite or blast, will change their lives from meek and dickless, to a fuck you, bring it on, attitude.
Oh good God … this is what you’re writing about OP.
was that directed at me, donk?
No.
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er.. the title was misleading but I agree with you OP.
Kids are going to grow up into useless weirdos if they don’t learn vital childhood coping skills in childhood. I know because i didn’t. And it was a huge issue for me for a long time. Until 25 i was still figuring things out i should have learned when i was 9. So were most other people my age. Which is why most of us were flakes. Luckily i have figured a good deal of it out but many were not so lucky.
the boy was bullied in elementary and humour saved him. then he grew so big, nobody picked on him
It’s because they are being taught all this touchy-feely crap. I’ll tell you, one good right cross to a bully does a lot more good than telling someone (who usually does nothing). Further, people should be teaching their kids it does’t matter what an asshole thinks of you.
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Your ignorant Op to the serious problems that come with being bullied.
I was bullied for most of my childhood and it had a huge impact on how I interact with people now. Its not easy to stand up for yourself.
I personally blame the parents of the bullies for the bad behavior towards others.
If your child is being bullied the parents of the bully should be fined and the child being kicked out of the school without a sceond chance. If the kid is old enough have the kid charged on top of the fines.
So many do not realize how serious being bullied really is till it happens to them.
Bullies piss me off and I hate them with a passion. Good thing I don’t make the laws up for them.
The way I see it, anti-bullying campaigns aren’t about teaching the people how to defend themselves against a bully or that there is safety in numbers or any such notion. They are raising awareness that it does exist outside the school playground and in a lot of instances, into adult life. It’s not just teachers and parents that should be aware of it, but also supervisors/managers and co-workers. What was once considered simply “bullying” can quickly and easy turn into “harassment” and there are now legal responsibilities and ramifications for those that witness it and are in a position to do something about it, but don’t. Like anything else, by raising awareness, hopefully it will prevent it from happening at all, or at the very least, decrease the number of instances.
The campaigns are also a message to the bullies out there that people are educating themselves now. That as a bully, you are now being watched more closely and your threats and intimidation are NOT acceptable and will NOT be tolerated anymore.
If anything, I think it’s doing the OPPOSITE of what you suggest in your post, OB. It’s encouraging those that are getting bullied to not be afraid and to stand up for themselves and that, there ARE options available if they feel threatened or are endangered.
The campaigns aren’t asking you to fight anyone’s fights for them, but at the same time, they are encouraging people not to sit idly by and let it happen either. As someone who was bullied almost daily in Jr. high and part of high school, I can tell you first hand that aside from any pain and humiliation the bully may have caused me, it was nothing in comparison to that of seeing others just stand by and watch and do nothing to help you. It’s one of the loneliest feelings in the world.
It’s teaching our kids that while it’s good to stand up for yourself, you don’t always have to resort to violence to do it.
But you, OB, you come across sounding like one of those parents that think their son is a pussy if he hasn’t been in a fist fight by grade 2 or that he has to “cross over into manhood” at 16 by going toe-to-toe with his Pappy out behind the wood shed. That his failure to do so would bring your swift comdemnation or, at the very least, call his sexual orientation into question.
**Kids are going to grow up into useless weirdos if they don’t learn vital childhood coping skills in childhood.**
That is true, Ella, but that does not obviate the need for anti-bullying instruction. The purpose of the instruction is to reach the BYSTANDER, who by saying nothing, gives tacit approval to the bully, who will then continue escalating bullying behavior unless and until he/she is stopped. Being a bystander who stops a bully IS a vital coping skill.
Ever read “Lord of the Flies”?
Oh of course! Why didn’t anyone think of standing up for themselves before?! It’s so simple!
Hah. Spoken like a principal, OP. I don’t know if you’re a guy or girl, I’m thinking guy because the shit girls do to other girls is not so easily dealt with by telling them to “fuck off” or make comments about their mothers or something. In fact, that usually makes it worse and they’ll just come back in bigger numbers and think of more clever rumours to spread.
MissPinkey does this issue still affect you? Do you still get the sense that people are sort of fucking you over or, at the very least, not taking you seriously?
I’m just curious to know whether or not this issue ever was resolved for you..
Kids are going to fight. And kids are going to tease each other.
Instead of making noise at the bullies (most of whom are not “bullies” in the “clinical” sense but regular kids out for a piss) why not hold advocacy meetings for kids who are victims to help them better cope with the reality that jackasses exist? Starting with the very simple fact that bullies are doing it, 90% of the time, because you’re reacting to it. The more dramatic or emotional the reaction, the funnier it is.
If you become a perpetual victim, you’ll always be one until something smartens you up. Shitty people come and shitty people go. Whether you like it or you don’t.
Does it mean that it’s your fault you get bullied? Not always (a kid who gets bullied for a lazy eye is clearly not at fault. A kid who becomes a bully’s victim because he is constantly bragging about how much better his dad’s car is than everyone else’s? Kind of has it coming.)
But if you’re focused on how it’s “not your fault” you’ll stay a victim forever. It doesn’t matter who’s fault it is. There is always a way for the victim to make it stop because the bully doesn’t give a good goddamn. All they want is the attention and the reaction.
I won’t talk about it cause its just a touchy topic…Point is OP is ignorant about this topic. They need harsh laws to stop bullies from getting away with it.
OP I couldn’t disagree with you more.
I think the parents of children need to go for training on bullying. These kids are learning it from somewhere. Your kids hear everything and usually they are hearing embellished stories by the time they are told at home. If you sit around the kitchen table talking poorly about family members or someone you work with they hear it and think it is okay to feel superior and exercise that right. The kids are learning this behavior!!! Adults don’t see that they are the problem. Some parents are too busy driving the kids from piano lessons to soccer games to actually teach their kids about human decency and how to treat others.
If you as much as talk poorly about others what are you teaching your children? That gossip and hurtful things can be said behind peoples backs, and that is where it all starts. They learn it all.
Mother Theresa once said, “I won’t go to an anti war protest, but if you have a war for peace I’ll be there. All of these anti war protests are just creating more war!”
Adult bullying.
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I believe what OP has to understand is that victims of bullying have low self-esteem. This feeling of unworthiness means they believe in some way what the bully says and that they deserve what the bully does. People who don’t have this (like OP) can’t grasp the reality. That, while they may seem intelligent and capable, these victims don’t have the wherewithall to deal with this situation. They need to know that they’re not alone and that someone is around to talk to. Yes, most of us can turn on our tormentors when backed into a corner but some can’t, they’re not capable of doing that.
….glad I’m gonna be dead when these “nurtured/well adjusted” kidz are in charge…
by the way o.p., my 4 year old grand daughter will never have to worry about being bullied ever. for her age, she is fucking strong, and i’m teaching her self defence and also attack mode martial arts. some of which, are not even taught in this country.
right now, she is doing judo, karate, kung fu, aikado, haktani, and a couple of other more offensive ones. i have a very good selection for her to choose from. we spend an hour a day, and i bet you, when she turns 10, she could whip the shit out of any instrutor out there today.
and that brings me to this question, why the fuck, don’t more people just take a few defensive course, you only need about a half dozen. would seriously scare the fuck out of any bully i ever saw. first time a guy tried some shit on me years ago, i broke his arm, in 5 places, and asked hm if he wanted me to do the other, to match. that little fuck moved away the next week. his old man, was a drunk, by the way.
and that is the way it should go for the rest who get bullied, break some of the assholes bones, they will think 50 times, before fucking with you, or anyone ever again. and by the way, my bully was about 16, and i was maybe 10, at the time.
” […] attack mode martial arts. some of which, are not even taught in this country.”
Super-awesome-special-black ops training? Sweet. Don’t forget about nunchuk skills, Napoleon.
Why do you care, OB? Does this affect your daily life?