Q Where can a straight guy find a transsexual woman who is NOT a hooker and just wants to be friends (with benefits)? I know of one club where they hang, but they are mostly hookers there. I would like to go someplace where I could meet one and see if we could hit it […]
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Gay deception is Oscar-winning
Q One of my best friends at college is gay. I’m a straight female and I’m in a committed relationship with my own boyfriend. We’re going to be sophomores in the fall, and I feel like this is about the age where coming out to one’s parents is in order. However, my friend’s parents are […]
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Seducing the gun-shy
Q I’m a mostly gay male with a boyfriend who is also mostly gay. We are into BDSM—we are both tops and sometimes play with other sub men. I say we are “mostly” gay because we do like to fuck/top submissive women once in awhile. We haven’t done this a lot, and never together because […]
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No dirty videos without consent
Q I am a 28-year-old post-op transsexual woman. I met a great 31-year-old guy. We have been dating for a year and he recently told me that he didn’t think he was sure he was in love with me. He said that he didn’t know if he could give me any sort of commitment, that […]
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Defective bullshit detectors
Q I read the letter from the woman who had cheated on her ex and now wants to patch it up. I have a similar situation, except it was my ex-girlfriend who cheated on me. We’d been living together for a few years—we were engaged—and then she suddenly moved out “temporarily” to “work out some […]
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Sex, lies and text msg dumping
Q I’m a 27-year-old gay man. I had a really great first couple of dates with a guy, so for the third date I invited him to stay over. I cooked a nice dinner, we watched a movie and we had a lovely time in bed together. In the morning, we had another romp. At […]
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Too much too soon?
Q I am a mostly straight, 22-year-old woman. I am a pretty GGG gal. I am generally not put off easily, even if I am told things that don’t quite do it for me. So I just started seeing this guy. I haven’t known him for long—no serious sexual activity other than mild foreplay. The […]
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Don’t be doomed to lousy sex
QI’m a young, straight feminist male, and I’ve been dating my feminist girlfriend monogamously for almost two years. Recently, I’ve been coming to terms with the fact that I am turned on by rape fantasies. Of course, I find the idea of actual rape repugnant, and this is probably, of course, an important reason why […]
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The honesty policy
Q My boyfriend of almost two years broke up with me yesterday over the fact that I used to be an escort. He went through my emails and saw that I was answering ads, putting ads up, sending photos. We had been planning a future together, talking about moving in, getting married, having kids. And […]
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Double toil and trouble
Q I’m a 23-year-old bi dude seeing a guy who is intelligent, sweet, attractive—the works. We’ve been together for six weeks. The problem is, after our first night together, I lost sexual interest in him. When I do get horny—which is rare at the moment due to work pressures—I prefer to beat off alone, because […]
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Running on empty
Q My husband and I have been married for one year, but we dated for 10 years prior to that. I thought we had a very understanding relationship. In the last couple of days, I have found out that he has a serious obsession with females wearing running shoes. He had in the past hinted […]
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In-flight safety tips
Q I am a girl who sabotaged my relationship. I was angry; I had complaints. But my real issue was a store of repressed childhood trauma, and I was working it out on the closest person to me, my BF. We had something magical, and I destroyed it. I am now willing to give 110 […]