Q I’m a 24-year-old gay male with few resources and no “marketable” skills. I have made a lot of bad choices and now I struggle to make ends meet in a crappy dead-end job, living paycheque to paycheque in an expensive east coast city. Recently, someone on Grindr offered me $3,000 to have sex with […]
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Airing it all out
Q A couple of months ago, I got candida (a fungal infection) under my foreskin. I went to the doctor, picked up some cream and used the cream as directed. The infection went away for about a week and then returned. I got this idea that maybe the cream didn’t work the first time because […]
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Cuckold cock-up
Q I’ve always been a big believer in the common-sense obviousness that monogamy is hard. Additionally, I like the idea of my wife getting fucked. I don’t have any desire to be denigrated or emasculated; I just get off on the idea of her being satisfied and a little transgressive. Early in our relationship, we […]
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Advice from Broadway
Q I’m a hetero guy in need of advice. Back in college, I met this girl. She was into me but I had some shit to work through. So we ended up being a missed connection, romantically. Despite that, we still became fast friends. We each married other people, and everything worked out great. Except […]
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No sex in any room
A Two weeks ago, I announced I would be taking a nice long break from questions about miserable sexless marriages. (I don’t get questions about happily sexless marriages.) I tossed out my standard line of advice to those who’ve exhausted medical, psychological and situational fixes (“Do what you need to do to stay married and […]
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He’s not an AIDS monster
Q I am a straight, married, 38-year-old woman. My husband and I have two children. I have been with my husband for 12 years, married for six. Three years after we were married, we found out that he was HIV positive. We had both had multiple tests throughout our relationship. Both of us were negative […]
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Happy underpants pervs
Q I’m a straight guy, married for 16 years, kids in school. My wife cannot find a way to be intimate with me. We’ve had therapy individually and together. I nearly divorced her, but we decided to stay together—we do love each other, and the economics and child-rearing favour it. After I asked for a […]
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Negative convulsions
Q I am a cis woman in my mid 20s. I get a pang or a spasm of pain in a place deep in my clit/urethra area. I can’t pinpoint which part exactly. It takes me by surprise every time it happens, so I jerk around and press my crotch for a hot second—which doesn’t […]
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Ready to cheat
Q I’m a gay man who is ready to start cheating on my boyfriend. We’ve had a wonderful 3.5-year-long relationship full of respect, affection, support and fun. I love everything about our relationship, and our sex life was great, until he moved in, eight months into the relationship. At that point, he lost all interest. […]
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Defining the boundaries
Q I’ve been dating this guy for almost two months. It’s been pretty good, except the sex isn’t really the best. I have this other male friend who has had a crush on me. Long story short: My friend made a move on me the other night. I told him I couldn’t, and he knew […]
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I fell for my FWB
Q I’m a 26-year-old single bi woman. Sometimes my roommate/best friend and I have drunken threesomes with men. We’ve had some great one-night stands (less scary with a friend!), but recently we slept with a man I’ve been (drunkenly) sleeping with over a period of months, my “friend with benefits.” I shared my FWB with […]
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Cheer up, sad mama
Q My son, who is almost 30 years old, was married four years ago. He just shared with us that for the last three years, he and his wife have been practicing polyamory. They are committed to their relationship but have each had relationships with both men and women. We are trying to get our […]