QI don’t want to become one of those people who write to you complaining about how I married someone I wasn’t sexually compatible with 10 years ago and now my sex life still sucks. I already know I need to break up with my boyfriend, and I was about to do it when he got […]
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Power players
QHere’s a non-COVID question for you: I’m a queer white female in a monogamish marriage. I vote left, I abhor hatred and oppression, and I engage in activism when I can. I’m also turned on by power differentials: authority figures, uniforms, hot guys doing each other. Much to my horror this thing for power differentials […]
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It’s time for you to make a bold move, Libra
HAPPY BIRTHDAY GEMINI! (May 21-June 20) “The very least you can do in your life is to figure out what you hope for,” writes author Barbara Kingsolver. “And the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance but live right in it, under its roof.” According to my […]
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Is it a problem if my horrible boyfriend leaves?
QIt’s taken a lot to do this, but here goes. I am a 38-year-old gay male. I have been dating this this guy for one year and 10 months. It’s been a lot of work. He cheated on me numerous times and he lives with me and doesn’t work and I’ve been taking care of […]
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Love is a superpower you can use to make practical miracles
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TAURUS! (April 20-May 20) Of all the signs, Tauruses are among the least likely to be egomaniacs. Most of you aren’t inclined to indulge in fits of braggadocio or outbreaks of narcissism. (I just heard one of my favourite virtuoso Taurus singers say she wasn’t a very good singer!) That’s why one of […]
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One marriage, two sex drives
QI’ve been with the same amazing man a dozen years. We’ve had our ups and our downs, same as any other couple, but these days life is better then it ever has been for us. Except in the bedroom. A few years ago he started having fantasies about sucking dick. Specifically, he wanted to suck […]
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Use the Global Healing Crisis to discover what’s absent in your life, Aquarius
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TAURUS! (April 20-May 20) “The future belongs to those who see possibilities before they become obvious,” says businessperson and entrepreneur John Sculley. You Tauruses aren’t renowned for such foresight. It’s more likely to belong to Aries and Sagittarius people. Your tribe is more likely to specialize in doing the good work that turns […]
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How much libido is too much libido?
QI’m a 31-year-old female. Last week I suddenly started to experience an overwhelming, compulsive and near-constant state of physical arousal. I’ve masturbated so much looking for relief that even though my entire lower region is super-sore and swollen and still, it’s like my whole body is pulsating with this electric arousal telling me to ignore […]
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It’s time to give yourself permission to ask dumb questions, Sagittarius
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TAURUS! (April 20-May 20) Is there an area of your life where you would like a do-over? A chance to cancel the past and erase lingering messiness and clear a path for who-knows-what new possibility? The coming weeks will be an excellent time to prepare—not to actually take the leap, but rather make […]
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Have compassion for your failures and weaknesses, Leo
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TAURUS! (April 20-May 20) Renowned Taurus composer Johannes Brahms (1833–1897) completed his first symphony when he was 43 years old—even though he’d started work on it at age 22. Why did it take him so long? One factor was his reverence for Ludwig van Beethoven, the composer who had such a huge impact […]
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Stop with the secrets already
Q I was raised in a religious home and didn’t lose my virginity until the embarrassing age of 26. I was told by the church to save it for marriage, and I was a virgin until I met the woman who would become my wife at a party. I said to hell with it, we […]
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Don’t do boring stuff, Cancer
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ARIES (March 21-April 19) Aries artist Vincent van Gogh got started on his life’s work relatively late. At ages 25 and 26 he made failed attempts to train as a pastor and serve as a missionary. He didn’t launch his art career in earnest until he was 27. During the next 10 years, […]