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You’re about to have a strong need to be seen for who you really are, Gemini
HAPPY BIRTHDAY CANCER (June 21-July 22) Some readers wish I would write more like Cormac McCarthy or Albert Camus or Raymond Chandler: with spare simplicity. They accuse me of being too lush and exuberant in my prose. They want me to use shorter sentences and fewer adjectives. To them I say: It ain’t going to […]
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The missing link about kinks
QI have a question. I’m a gay man in a relationship, and we’re both really happy since we met a year ago. We’re “open” in the sense that he wants the option to be intimate with someone else if a connection happens, and in turn he said he would be supportive of me being involved […]
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Don’t be surprised to find yourself in a controversy, Capricorn
HAPPY BIRTHDAY CANCER! (June 21-July 22) “Who would deduce the dragonfly from the larva, the iris from the bud, the lawyer from the infant?” Author Diane Ackerman asks her readers that question, and now I pose the same inquiry to you—just in time for your Season of Transformation. “We are all shape-shifters and magical reinventors,” […]
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I don’t care about all those sexts blowing up my partner’s phone, but…
QI’m committed to my male partner and he’s committed to me. (I’m a woman.) But we both understand we need to flirt and that we will both want to sleep with someone else at some point. We live together, we have a dog and neither of us believes in marriage. We plan to purchase a […]
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Straight guys doing gay things
QI’m a 32-year-old straight guy. My wife and I have been married for four years and together for nine. We have a great marriage and all is well. We have been quarantining at home since March. During this time, we have been exploring things sexually, which has been really fun. We have also been talking more […]
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Prep for a phase of sweet harmony, Aries
HAPPY BIRTHDAY GEMINI (May 21-June 20) “A finished person is a boring person,” writes author Anna Quindlan. I agree! Luckily, you are quite unfinished, and thus not at all boring—especially these days. More than ever before, you seem willing to treat yourself as an art project that’s worthy of your creative ingenuity—as a work-in-progress that’s […]
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Bonus quickies from the Lovestream
Hey, Everybody: We had our first Savage Love Livestream event last Thursday night and I had such a blast! A huge crowd of Savage Love readers and Savage Lovecast listeners got together on Zoom for a live online Q&A that raised more than $14,000 for Northwest Harvest, an organization that supports food banks in my […]
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Breakthroughs are available even when you’re feeling bored, Taurus
HAPPY BIRTHDAY GEMINI (May 21-June 20) According to novelist Octavia E. Butler, “Positive obsession is about not being able to stop just because you’re afraid and full of doubts.” That’s what I wish for you in the coming weeks, Gemini: positive obsession. It’s also what I expect! My analysis of the astrological omens suggests that […]
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You’ve got the power to shatter mysterious barriers, Scorpio
HAPPY BIRTHDAY GEMINI (May 21-June 20) “It’s OK to live a life others don’t understand,” writes author Jenna Woginrich. That’s a healthy attitude for an eccentric person like her, who taught herself by trial and error how to run a small farm with a meagre budget while all alone in the middle of nowhere. But […]
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Blinders
QHere goes: I’m a 32-year-old gay male and I have trouble staying out of my head during sex. I feel like there may be many issues. The one non-issue is everything works fine on my own. When I’m single or “available,” I am OK. Let’s be honest: I’m a slut and I enjoy it. But when I invest in […]
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The universe will send you signals, Sagittarius
HAPPY BIRTHDAY GEMINI (May 21-June 20) I’ve got a message for you, courtesy of poet Lisel Mueller. I think her wisdom can help you thrive in the coming weeks. She writes, “The past pushed away, the future left unimagined, for the sake of the glorious, difficult, passionate present.” Of course, it’s always helpful for us […]