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After everything I do, you still refuse to get yourself help. Depression can’t be cured without talking to a professional. I hate to see you rot away in your dark little hole, but I don’t know how to help. —at a loss
This article appears in Dec 5-11, 2013.
11 Comments
Wow, how hypocritical of you OP. Speak for yourself, and take your own advice – deal with your shit already.
stay far away, be it Vancouver or wherever you usually run from facing reality
The OB is correct, thee are many with mental illness who either refuse to admit they have it or after they are on meds for a bit, stop taking them because they think they are cure. You can talk to them all you want, but if they refuse to go for treatment (and yes, I know it is difficult to get at times), there is not much you can do to help them. The type of help they usually want is the enabling kind (money, food, etc) s they can keep on doing what they do, even though it is not good for them. Sadly, those who get entrapped by someone who doesn’t want help, wind up much poorer and emotionally drained.
^^ And the same could be the opposite, many with mental illnesses/ conditions will refuse to admit they have problems, and may continue lying stating that they have dealt with their problems – then deflect and project it onto others saying that another individual is the one who needs therapy, to try and make themselves feel justified in their continued behavior (because they may believe that it’s easier to behave the way that they are accustomed to). It’s a bad thing to lie or manipulate to a professional, then turn it against people who are in fact not with issue but concerned about the one with the unresolved deep problems with trust and with how they view themselves. My advice for the victim and aggressor, is for the victim to cut ties and stay away, for the better of themselves and the aggressor.
“after everything i do”
haha.. really?
Nobody dealing with severe depression needs to be surrounded by victims. If this person’s sickness is making you feel like a victim, you need some space.
If you feel you’ve done all you can, then step back and just be there when needed. You tried and failed to get your friend help, but you tried, and that’s what matters.
Whoa. Hobo’s back ^^
Some people just don’t want help and that’s their prerogative.
Just leave them be, already.
I knew someone who confronted me saying I was depressed. I had to inform her that she had never been around when I was talking to other people, and that I just wasn’t interested in anything she was talking about.
When someone feels there’s no hope, no light, and no purpose…
why the hell would they reach out to anyone?
AND… why would you even want to be there when they don’t even care…
http://fc05.deviantart.net/fs71/i/2013/097…
see Daniel that’s another thing.. some people think you’re depressed because you’re just not like them. They think that people who lack pep, who choose not to interact, who prefer to be alone rather than in a crowd are (obviously) depressed. When the reality is that they are just not blatant extroverts.
Or, the even more sinister… those who dislike you MUST be depressed instead of just secretly wishing you’d go away forever. Nobody wants to face the reality that someone they care about may secretly not like them so they do everything they can to prove to themselves that their “friend” is in dire need of intervention rather than dire need of some space from YOU.
Op i don’t know your situation. I’m just saying that these two scenarios are pretty common too.
I’m not depressed, I just don’t like people.