If I have to hear another person complain about how small and shitty Halifax and surrounding areas are for meeting “queer significant other type” people – I’m going to implode. Please consider getting the fuck out of the bars and going offline for meeting people. I know, novel concept – but it works. Gays/gayelles are actually everywhere all over the city and not all only balled up in a tiny firetrap club hovels. Yes, yes, drowning one’s sorrows for being a minority is fine once and awhile, and a concentration of people that are similar in one character/trait can be convenient, but holy shitballs are you guys/gals missing out on the variety that is life. Join a sports league, volunteer for a politician or NGO, work a job, take a course, hang out with a non-typical group of friends. We all don’t go to the bars, I promise you. If you do decide to join team “no clique” I guarantee at least 10%-20% of the people you meet will be some type of queer who don’t hang out with other queers because they have DIVERSE aspects to their personality. At least a quarter will be dateable/crushable and single. If you actually do a hobby you enjoy you might even meet someone that you have something in common with besides drinking (I know – drinking is a good hobby). When all else fails, remember this is a navy, student, and rural convert town (as our rural provincial counterparts move in). It’s a quick turn over and the next crop is just a few months away. —Miracle Finder
This article appears in Apr 18-24, 2013.
tho not single, this is good advice for anyone. i’ve made friends in unexpected places
If you’re looking for love – stop. Go do the things you love. The person you’ve be waiting for will be there.
Sage advice.
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People complaining about Gay Halifax being small and shitty is a reflection of the lack of community we feel here.
It’s worsened by people’s sex-negative, victorian attitudes.
The final stake is being gouged by our community – the cost of going out to a gay venue is $8 – $10 JUST to get IN, then the cost of a drink?; $20 for the baths?
“Gays/gayelles are actually everywhere all over the city and not all only balled up in a tiny firetrap club hovels”.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PKivFKqLasA
I can’t understand why a person HAS to go to a nightclub or on-line to get hooked up, whether you’re gay or straight.
I met my wife at a small town billiards facility. Not the kind of place I’d expected to meet someone, but it wasn’t a meat market.
I love who ever wrote this! And you are right! I love the gay community we have here in Halifax.. it isn’t as out and open as other places.. and people don’t usually push their gayness in your face. Best way to meet a lover is to become their friend.. or network through other friends and take an active stand in finding new gay people to connect with.
For those who go downtown to bars and online looking for love.. sadly most of what your going to find is other people wanting sex, a good time, a good laugh or to take advantage of someone.. and that goes for straight and gay people. Meeting someone is the same process no matter what gender your looking for.
“…people don’t usually push their gayness in your face.” Oh, like straight people don’t push their straightness into out faces? LOLOL! Given we (all) live in a hetero-centric world…
And if we do, then what?! We become unaceptable? Too gay? Not straight enough?
Do you REALLY mean that missy-j, or did you mean something else…?!