Listen, I know that your self-esteem is completely shot and has never really existed. And I understand that you have an overwhelming urge to push anyone who gets too close away from you because you don’t feel you’re worthy of anybody’s love and fear they’ll abandon you anyway. But you have got to get over it. You need to risk being hurt and cut completely open if you ever want to find true happiness. You are so much stronger than you give yourself credit for, and you ARE a good person. You will find someone who loves you, scars and all.—Inner Voice of Hope
This article appears in Apr 4-10, 2013.
I think you need to give yourself some time to be you and not worry so much about relationships. The stronger and more confident you feel inside, the stronger the aura you will have. In time, that special person will get pulled into your orbit.
easier said than done.
To enjoy the niceties of relationships and to be loved, must one endure pain analogous to being “cut completely open?” Is this pain necessary to receive love? Must relationships or love always come with compromise of the self and agony? I don’t think it should. I think love should be able to exist without constantly enduring pain and without the great compromises of self. And if two people are meant to be together, they complement each other. It should be easy. Not hellish – like pulling teeth or locking horns constantly! You should feel happy most of the time, instead of feeling like you’re being “cut open” and ripped apart. I think if you’re feeling like that, they ain’t the one!