I’m a 37 year old guy. I have no car, no house, only make about $25K, and share a two bedroom apartment with my 26 year old sister and her boyfriend. On top of that, I’m not that good looking. I’m also a man with a big heart. I love my mother, I love my her dog, I love my friends. I would do anything for them. I would like a special lady in my life to treat like a queen.
Finding any woman who would look past my mediocre looks and low salary seem to be an inpossible feat for me. I’ve been set up many times, and it’s the same thing every time. The girl is interested…until she finds out I take the bus and don’t have my own apartment. So I make only $25K, I take the bus, I rent an apartment with my younger sister, and I’m only a 5/10 in the looks…so what? Are you women really that shallow?! I’m a really good guy who would treat my girlfriend with upmost respect and give her an amazing, safe and happy life. But that doesn’t matter…I guess I need to face the fact that I’m single for life. Sigh. —Low paid dude without a girlfriend
This article appears in Sep 15-21, 2016.
At 37, you should be making more money. Do you not work full time? If so, maybe you should make a bigger impact at your work, move up the ladder. Or just whine some more, I heard women love men who whine.
Well ladies?
Your insecurity is what’s tripping you up here, bitch boy. It reeks from your bitch & most women would run a mile before engaging with a ‘woe-is-me’ type personality. It has nothing to do with what you make or how you look. I know plenty of lowly-paid, ‘average’ joes who have women in their lives. That’s because those dudes don’t come across as self-pitying wonks.
On the other hand I’d like to know what you would settle for in a “girlfriend”. What if she is not that pretty, well off, takes the bus herself, lives with her brother/ mother? Will she be a good catch or just better than nothing?
A big heart and lots of ‘love’ for many things / people is fine and honourable but some of what you say about yourself also describes a bit of a doormat. And in general most people tend to shy away from people like that. Especially someone, women or men, looking for a possible mate unless they are looking for someone to boss around forever. Also, the rather low salary and seeming lack of ambition does not help either, though not every one can be filthy rich. Start looking for ways to increase your self confidence, perhaps increase your education and or work skills and you may cure several things over time. Start now and you should hopefully start to see positive changes in many areas of your life over the next few years. Yes, it is hard work but the results should be better better than where things will be in those same years if you do nothing. It can be fearful to make a change but fear can be a good motivator at times, so take a deep breath, take stock and get cracking.
A low salary isn’t a huge issue for every woman, but it does speak of your lack of ambition, which IS a major turn-off. I recommend moving out of your current situation and live on your own. Take up a hobby; running, trivia, a cooking class, a library program, something that gets you out and around different people at least once a week. You might meet someone there and/or find a new passion that makes you more attractive to a potential mate.
Men often treat women like sex objects.
Women often treat men like wallets.
The universe is in equilibrium…
Funny how its not mentioned what he expects in a woman. Makes one wonder if his expectations are a little high for his current living situation.
They’re afraid of your chances of getting bed bugs.
“Funny how its not mentioned what he expects in a woman. Makes one wonder if his expectations are a little high for his current living situation.”
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Right?! This sad sack is probably asking out attractive career-driven women who make twice as much as him…and can’t seem to understand why he’s getting turned down…
37 years old, makes 25K, lives with his baby sister, and has a “oh poor me…why won’t women date/fuck me” attitude…just what I’ve been looking for all my life!
You never know. Lol. Some of those men out there have high exceptations for being in a rut themselves.
Mizznyowie: So should “attractive career-driven” men not date women who make half as much as them..?
Thank you for proving the thesis, that women (at least attractive career driven ones) do indeed see men as wallets…
Sad part of the dating life. Its a dog eat dog world. Everyone has there own standards. Some are too low or too high. Then occassionally someone has a level headed set of standards that is fair. But that is rare. Hense why do many stay single instead. Unless they cross paths with crazy people. That can make you have some pretty high standards for safety reasons haha.
All I’m saying is, a lot of women, myself included, don’t want to date a man they might have to support. I’ve never had, nor expected, a man support me. I make a decent amount of my own dough, but I’ve worked hard to get to where I’m at.
Being a 37-year-old man who can’t afford his own one-bedroom (or even a bachelor) apt, this dude comes across as a huge liability to me. Plus, he doesn’t seem to have any ambition as others have suggested. And I’m sorry, but I agree with the first commenter on this thread – a 37 year old man should be making more than $25K, or at least working towards making more (eg. going back to school, etc). This guy is pushing 40 and living like a college student ffs.
This is such bullshit. Anybody who sets this loser up with a friend of theirs will have in all likelihood have prefaced the arrangement with a Coles Notes version of the dudes deficiencies. They’re going into this with full disclosure and open eyes. Maybe you’re an asshole?
“I would like a special lady in my life to treat like a queen.”
With 25k a year, she could be the queen of spryfield.
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LMAO….can’t afford his own place yet thinks he could treat a woman like a queen. Living in poverty is NOT treating a woman like a queen!
OP, you just need more confidence man! Smile and the world will smile back 🙂