Hi, A sweet smile is fine. A second look is somewhat acceptable. But if you stare at me like I’m a walking dessert menu and lick your lips, it’s disgusting.
Men: I know you are trying to be… I don’t know, flirty, or think it’s a compliment, but it’s not. It’s creepy to leer at someone because they are showing some skin.
When it’s 20 degrees outside for you, it’s 20 degrees for us too. So yeah on that freak nice Tuesday, I was wearing shorts. And a tank top. Then i was stuck on a stuffy bus being eye-fucked by 2 creep shows. I didn’t want to put my uniform shirt back on because it was too hot in the tank top so the canvas chefs jacket wouldn’t have been better.
And why should I change MY appearance and suffer the heat because YOU can’t control your behaviour in public? I know some women go outside dressing and acting like trash for attention. Give them the attention. When women are sitting quietly and reading, playing with their iPod and totally disregarding you, it’s a hint. Piss off. I will tell you off next time. —Six stars
This article appears in May 20-26, 2010.
I woulda just embarrassed them. So, what, we’re supposed to suffocate because some dude gets a stick when we wear a tanktop? Ugh.
well sweetheart, if it would have been me, i would have ogled you too, and probably had a hunk of meat stuck out in front. don’t get so bent out of fucking shape over it, you should be glad that you are gettin eye fucked or whatever. one day in the future, you will be old and shriveled up, and no one will want to even acknowledge you are even there. be grateful for what you get today.
so because i happen to have big breasts. which by the way were covered acceptably in the top i had on. i get to be a walking desert menu?
and there is never any reason to be grateful for some asshole with no manners. and to say that i PROBABLY had hunks of meat sticking out in the front….where do you suggest i put them? and considering you weren’t there how can you just generalize what i may or may not have had on?
think…then speak
i wasn’t talking about you having a hunk of meat in front, six stars, i meant the guys that ogle you.as i said, be grateful for the stares you get now, you will grow old too, and then what? your wit and charm will help you. you have too thin a skin.you might be a really nice person, and that i look at you with lust in my heart and eye, should show you that i, as a male, am interested in you as a person, that i would like to be with.yes, this is a generalization on my part, i admit that.but too many divas get too carried away with their own self worth.
It’s effing dirtbags like this that makes me ashamed to be a guy sometimes like for fuck sakes are you new to the summer babe scene hello don’t oggle and self hymotize yourself with bare female flesh; yes you wannum but be a little discreet you efffing moron
I hate to say it, but Mr. SUCKS brings up a good point. While there is never an excuse for people to disrespect others, simply looking is really not that huge of an issue, is it? And while, yes, you have every right to feel however you want to feel, perhaps you should be more flattered than upset.
I’ll use my own dear mother as an example. She used to be quite pretty when she was in her late teens through her twenties and would have guys hitting on her a lot. One of those guys ended up being my dad, who finally grew some balls one day and asked her out before his other friends could. Mom was even still dating another guy at the time even but hey, that’s competition. Anyway, needless to say my folks got married, and then Mom had two kids. She never lost her “baby fat.” Now, she would kill for the male attention that she used to get 30 years ago. She is totally flattered and brags about the few times she thinks a man might be checking her out, even if he is a greaseball (which he usually is nowadays) and looks back on her years as a sexy little tart with nostalgia.
So enjoy it while you can, OP! One day those big titties will be saggy shrivelled lumps of fat that look like a bowling ball entangled in a loose hammock.
A good looking woman showing some skin is going to be looked at. It’s a fact of life, whether you like it or not. Maybe the PC police should be handing out blindfolds.
I wonder what the OB would do if a cut, good looking guy in a muscle shirt boarded the bus?
if your cleavage was hanging out, you brought the stares on yourself.
THE RICKARD’S AD IS GETTING REALLY FUCKING ANNOYING! I don’t give a fuck what it tastes like!
Just thought I’d post that here since there’s no way Moddy would ever post a proper Bitch about it.
Lol qpmz…Propeller is where’s it at anyway…with no annoying ads either
Wow. Blame the victim, eh? There’s no reason for a man to stare so much at a woman that it makes her uncomfortable. There’s a difference between looking and staring. Most guys I know would be upset if some creep sat on the bus staring at them the entire ride too.
Looking and leering are two different things.
As long as he didn’t motorboat your fun bags or start whipping his skippy I’d say King Leer exercised commendable self control. Show your tittage and you are going to be looked at. It sucks to be made uncomfortable but I somehow doubt you would have much empathy for any Orthodox Jewish, Fundamentalist Christian or Moslem passengers offended by your choice of attire.
I agree with BRoc.. there is taking a look and then there is being unable to look away. In all fairness, OP, if I got on the bus to see a hot girl with a smoking body (well defined by her attire…..) I would certainly not be able to ignore that…. And I am sure you’ll agree with that part and it is those “somewhat” subtle glances that allow you to feel complimented.
However, I have seen the creeps that take it beyond that initial gawk of sublime appreciation and stare like it is a 60-foot movie screen. Sometimes even makes ME feel uncomfortable. And I believe OP said her “tittage” was covered acceptably.
Unfortunately, OP, this is something you will have to accept should you want to make yourself comfortable on a hot summer’s day…. public transit means it is used by the public. And our public includes a whole assortment of interesting folk who don’t make a habit of practicing cooth or subtlety.. Maybe next time you could mess with them by stuffing half a cucumber in your shorts and if you see anyone staring unwelcomely just go stand right in front of them…. and put on a fake mustache.
Move to the gay ghetto in TO, OP… somewhere around Church and Yonge. You won’t get any attention there… lol!
i get what you’re saying, six stars. I have no problem if you’re walking by someone, sitting near someone, whatever, and they give you a glance.. hell i do it too… but when you’re in public and someone feels the need to watch your every fucking breath just because they think you’re cute, it’s annoying. I was at a spring garden rooftop patio sitting behind a guy with my female friend and this guy actually moved his chair sideways and was just watching us like we were fucking law and order… my friend and i just gave each other the WTF look and tried to ignore it… it was lunchtime on a weekday.. what are you doing!?
i think you and i should start a revolution of just saying something… like, hi, do you mind? can i help you? what do you want?! AAAAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!!!!!!
Guys and lesbians do have a right to look. But women have a right to dress however they feel and be comfortable. I’ve seen a lot of attractive women become creeped out by guys leering/staring at them and even making loud comments.
FYI, fellas, leering and loud comments aren’t cool, attractive, charming or witty. The gal you are leering at has a right to stink-face you right back or make a snide remark.
While it’s expected for an attractive woman showing skin to be looked at, having some class about looking could be afforded by us males. I love to check out women but don’t glare at them like I’m watching Law & Order SVU. Maybe that’s why so many losers don’t get laid or dates and I get smiles or winks back.
great, now the coors light ad is back…gross gross beer
there is something to subtlety.
not sure why these guys don’t have sunglasses…
and yes, you should totally say something if he’s making you uncomfortable.
“what do you want” would be a pretty good start.
I certainly wouldn’t suggest asking “can I help you?” cause you’re going to get some inevitably skeezy answers.
Just don’t tell them to “take a picture, it lasts longer”…. I think the creep factor would then elevate 1000% percent. Imagine telling a creep it’s ok to take a pic… hahaha. I can just see him pulling out the ol’ cell phone and snapping away.
I believe I read a story in a European paper about , burka’s that were made of a nice light breathable fabric.
You should get yourself one of those OP.
Then you could be absolutely naked underneath, & everyone staring at you would only be looking at the freak in the tent !
Geez guys, ever heard of sunglasses?
Honestly, I try and teach subtlety but it does not seem to catch on… Do these dirt bags really think that eye fucking someone will get them anywhere? Honestly… The car honk pisses me off too… I’m embarrased to be a guy sometimes…
My favourite is when an attractive woman walks by a guy or group of guys and they all glare, comment and smile as if they’re Hannibal Lector thinking about Clarice Starling naked and on a giant platter. It’s not cute or clever or attractive.
What makes this my favourite is the guys are usually busted looking wiggers or poorly dressed wannabe tough guys who think they’re hot garbage for some particular reason.
Panhandlers crack me up also, especially when they have signs. Yeah, as if a gorgeous woman is going to want to date a guy begging other people or change. Have some self respect, fellas. That’s why some of us get the money and the ladies while the chumps get neither.
There was three younger girls sun tanning on Prince Albert Rd Across from Lake Banook that same day during rush hour. I thought for sure they were going to cause an accident, I was jogging by and fella’s were slowing down to get a good look one guy actually pulled over and stopped. I guess these guys never laid eyes on girls in bikini’s before. It made me laugh.
on the other hand; ahh 16 year old girl with the giant rack yea i’m old and yea I would rather not but yea I am a guy and will take a QUICK peruse of your goods sorry 🙂
Just because you’re on a diet doesn’t mean you can’t read the menu…lol.
I have big boobs (and by big, I mean 32EE/F *shot*), and I’m otherwise a tiny girl, so of course it’s even more noticeable. No matter what I wear, I get stared at, so summer time + tank tops = ughhh.
I was walking home the other day (that really sunny, nice 20 degree day we had this week!), and a carload of guys slowed down to whistle/stare/honk at me.
…Not impressed. 🙂
That is all.
Trinket, wanna hang out? I”m much cooler and better smelling than Life Sucks. My grammar is better too =D
ngf, that wasn’t nice, and how would you know you were cooler and better smelling than moi. who gives a shit about grammer, whilst the tongue does the work. but at least i’m not overweight or bald. gots lots of hair, in places where it should be too.trinket, you can have steak=me, or dog chow= ngf.
you both realize you’re doing the equivalent of digital stopping and cat-calling….
like the real version worked so well this’ll do it.
geeez guys, reign it in a bit.
I’m SO GLAD I don’t live in Canada’s armpit anymore. This bitch reads just like my first bitch. Get some class, men of Nova Scotia. The rules about “meat” changed a lot a LONG time ago. Get a hold of yourselves and catch up! Realize everything on the planet fucks and your ability to do just AIN’T SPECIAL. Yuck! Now I need a shower.
The slutty ones should leave the price tag on and stand at the street corners.
I find it funny that women complain about being looked at. I’m guessing these same women would be upset if they went out looking like hot shit and didn’t get one glance all day.
Yes, I check out women when I’m out and about. It’s kinda hard not to with all the yoga pants wearing tank top popping chicks everywhere. I usually steal a couple quick glances and then save the staring for that ass once she’s walked by me. Sunglassses are good to have. And if she catches me, I don’t give a fuck because I don’t know her and will probably never see her again for the rest of my life.
And 32EE/F????? Ho-lee shit! I like how you said you have big boobs and then didn’t just leave it at that. Yeah, girls don’t want attention AT ALL.
I’m just curious here- if clothing with swooping necklines and huggy places (i.e 90% of women’s fashion) was not designed to accentuate and show off the breasts, what’s the purpose of it? Does your cleavage require so much air circulation, or are you all subconscious hypocrites?
Well, I think the OP was upset about the lip smacking behaviour, and not the glance.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PQt5gSAvJM8
There is a difference between looking and being gross.
You’re probably right NTH. My question is a general one, not OB specific.
If I really want attention that badly, I’d walk around in a latex cat suit.
…Hey, maybe that’s not such a bad idea. Hrmm.
There’s also a difference between “attention” and having a car full of people shouting at you. I don’t think anyone is complaining about casual glances or smiles (I’m certainly not — I check people out too!) — they’re complaining about the creepy people who continuously stare and don’t take a hint. *shrugs* There’s a difference.
& I’ve already hung out with NGF. :p And keep running into him at random places like SS! Oh em gee.