Six dates, a few brief meetings, messages every day and you just disappear. You tool! You waste of nine months! OK, that was a little harsh but seriously… Not interested? That’s cool, just tell me. It was casual, I didn’t have set expectations (in fact you brought up relationship couple tripe) so I’d say a phone call would have sufficed. Gosh, even a text. Sometimes people don’t quite mesh, I get it. All you had to do was tell me. You weren’t THAT young (older than 25), certainly older than me and now I’m left seriously rattled by this. Hopefully others out there aren’t so cowardly. I fucking hate you but only because I actually liked you. Silly me. Maybe it’s because I didn’t put out? Did I have spinach in my teeth or say something wrong? Who knows!
I’ve spent quite a bit of time trying to evaluate what I did wrong until a good friend finally asked, “Would you want to be with a cunt like that anyway?” A modicum of respect would have been appreciated, but I guess that’s asking too much. It’s all a mystery to me, and so it shall remain. The only positive to come from this is that I’ve now learned to be more empathetic to others. —Sincerely Good Luck with Life, Love and All The Rest
This article appears in Sep 6-12, 2012.
Really? Get some self-respect and self-confidence.
She didnt bang him so she does have some self-respect. Wondering why someone just disappears is normal and its also normal to be hurt.
Six dates in nine months does not a relationship make.
Seriously.. we’re talking 36 weeks… a whole 270 odd days and you managed to find 6 that worked out well for both of you?
And you’re just finding out NOW that she’s non-committal?
People have spent more time in the last nine months building a relationship with their esthetician getting their crotch waxed than you have with this girl.
I agree Zed……and I have a great relationship with my esthetician, as does my crotch—don’t know if it would be so great if I only saw her 6 times in 9 months though;)
Hello, I wrote this and I meant birthing time. As in the person’s mother wasted 9 months. Sorry, I should have been clearer. What is described happened over exactly 31 days. Needless to say I was hurt. I’ve never had someone to be so full on and then vaporize.
AH, that makes much more sense.
A lot of people are newly single now that school is starting back up.
All those summer crushes coming to their shattering demise….
restocking the pond, so to speak.
At least you’re speaking in past tense… ‘was hurt’…
live and learn.
Hey Zipper…..no babies for me but I am recently familiar with the vanishing act, and at a really difficult time in my life. You are right: it really hurts, especially when they switch from acting like they really dig you to treating you like a zero…..hope you are doing well and that you have people in your life that appreciate you and treat you with respect. All the best, and thanks for the clarity:)
o.p., are you a female, that’s what it sounds like? if so, there are many reasons why a guy won’t/doesn’t get back to you. probly none of what you state. males are a fickle animal.
if you are a male, then maybe, just maybe, you misdirected some of the signals the female got. could be you just want sex, and they wanted a tad more. can you blame them for not just wanting to be a cum catcher?
but really, where are ground rules when you need them. anyone starting out doing anything, should have some to agree or not on.
when i was roaming, it was simply that we were to have fun, at that time. if there was more wanted, then we talked about it up front. if we did not both agree, they went their way, and i went mine.
i have always treated the female that i was with, with kindness and understanding.
we have to have a common interest, or it was just not going to work. and quite a few times, it did/didn’t, but i never gave up. i have four kids, two of each, that i love, and now have kids of their own. each of these two unions lasted about 6 years, unfortunately.
but it was mutually agreed that we split up. conflict of interest after too many conflicts. but cheating was never an issue. i am a faithful old dog, and i would hope the female i was with, would be too. otherwise, there can be no union. you have to set your own guidelines, and get on to your life.
I’m still confused as to what happened and what this bitch is all about.
Houdini apparently. ’tis sad Tim.
Par for the course. Apparently the guy was a douchebag. Not so much as a phone call or a text??? Count yourself lucky OP that you aren’t in a relationship with this asshole. If he hasn’t got enough consideration to call or text someone when he says he will, he isn’t worth anything. You know the old saying about a Man being only as good as his word? Well this guy is crap. You dodged a bullet there OP. Good for you!
I really hate people that don’t keep a peomise.If I give you my word,I keep it.Unless I’m dead.
Maybe he’s dead. Did you read the obits?
LOL…That would explain it.
I was just thinking the same thing! You might want to investigate the status of his existence…Yikes!
…and, sadly, it may be the fact that you didn’t put out. If that’s the case, you just dodged a bullet.
Well, it seems fairly straight forward. He was trying to have sex with you with promise of a relationship. You didn’t bite, he found somebody else and now you realize just how shallow that guy was.
Of course contacting you actually involves some sort of class so that’s out of the question.