I haven’t seen you since January. I’ve called you on the phone a few times just to check up on you even though I knew you did not want to talk to me. You used to tell me ‘”When we spark, the world burns.” If I messed up, I wish you would tell me so I can make it up to you. You were the closest person in my life and now you haunt me everywhere I go. You may hate my guts, but I still care about you. You told me once that no matter what would happen between us, even if things did end, we would stay close and I feel like I’ve been keeping up my end of the bargain. So please say something, say anything, that you hate me and I will move on.
All I ask is what you want of me and I will do just that. I’m not ready to say goodbye and I hope you aren’t either. —Your Red Cardinal
This article appears in Aug 16-22, 2012.
I’m sorry, Red Card, but you already have the answer you refuse to see. If you’re the only one contacting, and, as you state you knew the object of your affection didn’t want to talk to you, then you are obsessed and apparently unable to see the truth.
Often two people will see the same situation very differently. If they were interested in maintaining contact, they would. It’s that simple. What we feel and say in the newness of a relationship will often change as we get to know each other. Sometimes we regret things we say when our feelings change. You did nothing wrong (unless you’ve been stalking). It’s over. We can’t be friends with all our past loves/flings/relationships.
It’s been 7 months. THAT is your answer. Don’t make the other tell you that they hate you, aren’t interested in maintaining a relationship of any sort, or are applying for a restraining order.
Try to have a little self respect and look forward, not back. They have already moved on.
Try to let it go. This person has deffinately moved on. I know it sucks BUT move on. Been there. You will find true honest love, sure you deserve it. The silent treatment is wonderful…If its a he…he has no balls LOL. A coward.
Love is hard. Especially when the person you love doesn’t love you any more. I am in the same boat right now but in my case it happened over night. The relationship was 7 months long and one night we were *ahem* and it was great, the next day it was “we can’t be together”. There were valid reasons though, it wasn’t meant to be. What you want to do is go make out with someone, don’t sleep with them or marry them but just kiss em. If that person thought you were attractive then someone else will (or does) too. Good luck!