To the woman I was casually hooking up with for bit there, I ended our fling with you because I didn’t want to have just sex, I wanted something a little more serious. And I wasn’t interested in being serious with you because of personality differences. But I had this impression that you wanted to be official, so I cleared it up with you, ended our fling and said I didn’t want you to think I wanted you as an official girlfriend.
You chuckled at me and your response was something like: Why the hell would I want to be your serious girlfriend?? I have a university degree, a good career and my own place! I’m a successful business woman! You, on the other hand, are 5 years younger than me, work a min wage job, always broke and still living at home! I wouldn’t wanna support your ass! Hate to be blunt, but your good enough to be a fuckbuddy and that’s it… How can you possibly think someone like me would go legit with someone like you?!
For real? This is what you say? Fuck, what an arrogant, superficial, cunt you are! You have more education and money than me so that means you’re better, right? WRONG! I ended it with you because I figured *I* could do better than *you*! I plan to go back to school and get ahead too. Since you showed what a nasty horrible person you are, I realize I made the right decision! A girl with a good personality will be in my near future. And I’m sure she’ll be more successful than you. Know why? Because my personality is what gets me the best girls. GOOD FUCKING BYE! —Looking For a Woman Who’s Right For Me
This article appears in Apr 19-25, 2012.
sounds like you both deserved each other actually.
This bitch sounds fake and recycled from another bitch a while back.
Maybe she was just being defensive over the fact that you had just told her SHE WASN’T GOOD FOR ANYTHING ELSE BUT FUCKING?
Just a thought.
You honestly expected her to be all nice and cheery over being told that?
You’re just as bad as you claim her personality is, OB.
Hmmm, this is one FWB that didn’t go your way ……. so, now you’re bitching because the truth hurts.
Of course, your personality got the *cunt* that ditched you ….. so, not so personable are you …… but, your cock had a good enough personality to warrant return visits.
OP, you have all the charm of regurgitated ferret shit – there’s only one stupid cunt here and it ain’t her. What a fucking putz prize you are.
So, you had a casual fling, (as you call it), with this woman. You ended it because you wanted to have something more than just sex. You wanted something more serious, just not with her, citing personality differences as the reasoning behind the break up. She basically tells you she feels the exact same way and you get all pissy about it?! What are you, 15?? Or is it that you are all pissy because she hit the nail on the head? Hit a little too close to home, did she OB? Maybe the truth hurts a little more than you anticipated?
Sounds to me like you both got what you signed on for…a casual fling. You both had your fun and now it’s over. At least she’s seeing it for what it was. Grow up, put on your big boy pants and stop crying sour grapes over something that you WANTED to end anyway because you figured “*You* could do better than *Her*!”
I dunno, I see this as someone handling rejection in a very immature manner. The way OP tells it he kept it classy and gave her reasons for his not wanting to continue their fling, without insulting or belittling her. It was just a casual arrangement, he could have just stopped taking her calls. Give him some credit for that.
If she really felt like he wasn’t good enough for her why would she get so indignant and butthurt? Why not just say “I agree, see ya” She obviously took offense that he didn’t want to worship her and be her little bitch just because she is older and more accomplished than she is.
This attitude from women is one of my biggest pet peeves.
When someone acts like I should be thanking my lucky stars for being in their presence. Seems like no matter what the guy is always seen as the asshole in these situations. How is he at fault here? How could he have gone about this any better? I’m all ears guys. I’m with you OP, and good for you for wanting better for yourself. A lot of guys will just settle for the first girl who says yes, especially if she’s got those kinds of things going for her.
hurts to be used for sex, don’t it shitbrick?
HUGE fucking eyeroll, Tommy. HUGE fucking eyeroll.
See OB, this is why you should end your “fuck buddy” relationships by text, then block their number. After all it’s just sex with no feelings involved, right?
What kind of moron thinks that they can actually have this kind of relationship without someone, a) getting attached or b) someone having hurt feelings, during or after the relationship has run it’s course?
Right back at ya PK. Answer the questions, what did he do here that was so wrong? He respectfully said I don’t want to see you anymore and she reacted like a child. She needs to get over herself imho.
Did this tommy guy really ask that question? Can you not identify hypocrisy?
Read the bitch again, Tommy — he basically told her she wasn’t good enough to be his girlfriend which amounts to saying “you’re only good enough to fuck.”
Then when she wasn’t all “aw that’s ok!” he got his nose out of joint.
Maybe she is a cunt as a person, but that doesn’t dismiss the fact that she had every right to give as good as she got when she was told she’s basically plumbing. All this chump had to do was say “I don’t think this is working anymore, so I think we should stop fucking.” Not “yeah I want a girlfriend, but you’re just not good enough for that.” THAT’S where he went wrong.
And commending someone for not doing something shitty — giving them extra credit, in fact, is like giving someone a medal for not murdering someone. You’re not supposed to do those things anyway! They aren’t actions that deserve to be pointed out! Being all “oooh he’s a hero because hay he coulda just been an asshole and stopped communicating with her!” is ridiculous.
I luv ya to bits, tommy, but you really have to drop this ‘men can do no wrong, it’s the bitch’s fault’ schtick.
…duelling douches..
OB… you got issues dude.
why throw away a perfectly good fuck buddy, when you haven’t anyone else ?
Now if you had met someone & decided to break it off I completely understand that,
But now you have nothing…no little more serious girl & no older more experienced occassional fuck, looks like its just you & the palm sisters for the immediate future 1.
& to Petty K & Tommy (huge eye rollie & back at you) how old are you 2 ?
13 ? 15 ? sometimes you come off sounding like children ! Christ, if your earlier attempts at a possible relationship failed … move on !
good one, marty
I guess I just fail to see what the problem is here.
Dude had his fling, got his willy wet, wanted to move on to greener pastures and from what I can read, that’s EXACTLY what he got. Full stop. End of.
Instead of whining like a little bitch about who said what to who and who broke up with who first, suck it up and move the fuck on with your life.
It’s like SHITD said above, you wanna fuck around, be prepared to have someone either get attached or have hurt feelings when it’s all over.
Are the schools out early this year? between this Bitch and the one above Titled WTF it seems as if we’re in for a summer of pimply arsed whining of love gone bad, gone good, gone in the wrong hole, STD’s .
Meh, sounds like you hurt her feelings when you decided to end the “fling” so she decided to try and hurt yours. I guess it worked. Mission accomplished 🙂
As for you saying that the next girl will be even more successful, because of your wicked personality or something, well.. I guess you just proved yourself wrong. What an arrogant, superficial cunt you are, OB! Hehe 😀
oi I says to her…”oi sally, i don need dat ass anymore” she responded with “aye….ur a sorry excuse fer a man”. So I feels bad n write up me anger in a bitch post. By god dem women be devils in red dresses…cant trust em, best just to swear em off n come one of dem frilly homersexuals.
some universities are finished, donk has her last exam on the 26th. i know that was a rhetorical question, baz^^ call me crazy, but this beneficial friend fucking thing sometimes ends in tears, like any relationship
No, PK, he said she wasn’t RIGHT for him based on their personality differences. She’s the one who responded by saying that HE wasn’t good enough for HER. He doesn’t put the exact wording he used so we don’t know, but I highly doubt he said “you are not relationship material, I just want to fuck, and I don’t even want to do that anymore” He says he cited personality differences. Even if he did say that, which I doubt, she said the exact same thing back to him, which is exactly what OP is doing with this bitch, which makes them both equally douchey and stupid.
“you really have to drop this ‘men can do no wrong, it’s the bitch’s fault’ schtick.”
PUH-LEASE!! I can all but guarantee if the roles were reversed you’d still take the woman’s side. If a woman says to a guy that she doesn’t want to see him anymore and he reacts by calling her a worthless, underachieving bitch who’s only good for a fuck anyways, I’d say he’s the asshole in the situation. Have some pride and self respect FFS. If she really felt that way about OP, why is HE the one breaking it off with her? And why is she so upset? OP says that he felt like she was looking for something more serious with him and based on her response and my experience he was right. She gave him the “what? YOU’RE breaking up with ME?! But I’m so much better than you! You should be rubbing my feet and running my bathwater and thanking whatever god you pray to that I ever even gave you the time of day!” If she REALLY felt that way she wouldn’t have felt the need to say what she said. She got her little feelings hurt and decided to rage on him, to give him the impression that he was the one losing out.
I encounter women with this attitude every single day and I’m sick of it. The reason this attitude gets developed, imo, is that too many guys are willing to put up with this shallow, stuck up attitude (and a slew of other negative personality traits) for a piece of ass and/or companionship. So good for OP for letting at least one stuck up, full of herself woman know that her shit in fact does stink.
I don’t blindly defend men, I just have no problem calling a spade a spade and that seems to make a lot of people think I resent or dislike women. Nobody likes stuck up people. Never once did OP in this bitch say that he didn’t think she was “good” enough for him, he just said that he wasn’t really a fan of her personality, so instead of just fucking her until it ran its course he did what not many guys do and took the mature route. I get your point about not rewarding people for stuff they’re supposed to do anyways but he made the adult decision and she reacted like a fucking baby.
I’m not really saying one is any better than the other but I can see where OP is coming from. At best, both are equally guilty of being stuck up, at worst she’s stuck up and downright mean and he just wanted out of the arrangement for totally legit reasons. Reminds me of when these D Bag guys downtown try to hit on a girl and get her number and when she declines say something like “you’re ugly anyways bitch! Fuck your number! I don’t want it anyways! Your breath smells like hot dog water!”
I luvs you too Kitty but I think you’re calling the kettle black on this one.
‘zilla’s got the right idea:
http://27.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ktqfablU…
i was thinking the same thing senor, they can’t all be origional bitches, so they have to recycle the shit. the answer is plain o.p., just go and do your own thing, and stay away from smart, college educated women, and also, the ones that have a super job, and need no man, just a dildo, to keep them happy.
there are too many self indulged bitches out there, that think they are all this super model goddess, but ladies, you are dead wrong, and will be old and lonely and miserable, with all your smarts, money, and good job, til the day you croak. and you have no one to blame, but yourselves.
my advice to any one here like that, is to get the fuck over yourself, pronto.
The girl seems to be in the right here, next time keep your flings to craigslist and you wont have to deal with this.
OP why WOULD any hardworking person want someone dragging them down? I probably wouldn’t want to date some dude living at his mom’s house either.. I gave up awkward making out in the basement when i was seventeen.
This doesn’t make her a nasty horrid person. it makes her a goal-oriented person who sees a certain future for herself.
Get over it dude. Chicks put up with being fucktoys all the time. Guess you’re getting a taste of what we go through ALL THE TIME.
Stop whining and get on with figuring your shit out. This is what it means to be an adult buddy. Don’t let the world move on without you because it sounds like that’s exactly what happened to you. Stop blaming other people.
Sounds like, OP, you were playing a little power trip here doesn’t it?
And you lost.
I agree, crayons…I wouldn’t want to start up a relationship with someone who’s future looks that shitty. Maybe she didn’t bring it up sooner, because she was happy with the arrangement, and just wanted FWB.
She sounds like a chick with priorities, and supporting his ass ain’t one.
“I plan to go back to school, and get ahead, too”-YA, sounds like a solid plan to me.
Any girl with a good personality, who is more successful than her, OB, would also be a bit put off by the idea of dating someone who lives @ home, and is always broke. Especially if he says she’s not suitable for him in the long term.
SHE’S NOT NASTY & HORRIBLE, SHE’S SMART!
*shakes head*
I think some of you ladies are just reading what you want to read.
I’m about to shit on the idea the guy is being an asshole parade I see here. What if it’s another woman?
Round 2, fight.
“so I cleared it up with you, ended our fling [b] and said I didn’t want you to think I wanted you as an official girlfriend. [/b] “
Sounds pretty clear to me.
I wouldn’t care if it’s a male or female saying this to someone — it’s a shitty thing to tell someone the only thing they’re good for as far as they’re concerned is to fuck.
That’s NOT cool, and in no way is it the person who got told this’s fault. Period.
Sure, they knew what they signed up for, but MY GOD have a little respect for others.
Last FWB I had (a long while back) was a huge tool, but pretty hot so we’d hook up here or there. When I wanted out (because he started asking me out on actual dates), I politely said I wasn’t interested in continuing our arrangement. That’s it — I didn’t ever feel the need to say “yeah, you’re a tool so I don’t want to date you so buh bye.”
I don’t think OB wanting out or to find someone new is wrong — he didn’t do anything wrong in that regard, he just could’ve handled it A LOT better.
The fact that he hurt someone’s feelings and then bitched because they got defensive shows just how high this guy is on himself. He really sounds like he has to get his shit together.
PS: More-on — tommy and mine’s flirting on here is just for fun. We’re friends and I’ve never thought of him other than that: a friend. He’s a cool guy to talk to/hang out with. And considering we both have our own things going on, you can piss right off 😉
You know the fuuny thing is I was in this position fifteen years ago. I was unemployed, moved back with my parents to save money and took on odd jobs.
When I asked my future wife what attracted her to me, she said, “I looked at your U.I. check and you were making more than me working. So I knew you had potential.” True story.
The stinky sneakers is another story.
Whoooa. I know for a fact that Tommy hates women equally as much as he hates men.
More is just jealous Kitty, you’re actually everything he’s ever wanted in a woman.
The only reason a woman gets treated like a “fuck toy” is because she let’s herself, due to some self esteem issue or another. As far as the career thing is concerned, she’s 5 years older (that’s enough time to get a degree and start a career) so comparing the two would be pointless seeing as his plan is to further his training or education. Who are you to judge wether he will or not?
What kind of shallow douchebag judges someone based on income anyway? As if richer people are more morally sound, and make all the good decisions. Money can’t buy you honesty, dedication, respect, humility or a personality, so I fail to see that as a compatability issue (based on career and income alone). It costs nothing to go to the library and read books on any subject, boosting general knowledge and conversation topics. Also, what’s wrong with a woman being the breadwinner in a family? It is possible for that kind of situation to be advantageous to the career minded woman who wants a family with little to no interruptions (career wise). It’s nice to know that the old ways of the man being the provider have never left the modern womans psyche.
But none of this matters because even with her money, education and career she still doesn’t have enough of a personality to permanently attract a “loser” who lives in his moms basement. Another win for the woman with everything!!
Lesbians are crazy! That’s why I stick to beer and wrestling magazines.
And he’s everything I NEVER wanted in a man, Mel!
AHAHAHAHA.
I *heart* you!
Here, here Mr. Harper the income issue, that she is a successful business woman and he works a lowly minimum wage job is a low blow. She was lashing out at him.
I really see nothing wrong with what he did. They had a relationship based on sex, he wanted something more (with someone else because of personality issues) and sensed she wanted to go “official”. When he brought it up, I guess those personality issues came to the forefront, she immediately threw all his perceived shortcomings in his face.
In short, he tried to use class and she tried to use crass.
tact: 1. a keen sense of what to say or do to avoid giving offense; skill in dealing with difficult or delicate situations.
Listen. SHIT Devil, no one was judging OB based on his income, or whether or not he will further his education.
HE made the choice that she wasn’t good enough, and she let him know that wasn’t on her radar anyway. His reaction to HER reaction was the sole reason for this bitch, and it speaks volumes about his mind set…
He should date within his own income/age range, if he doesn’t want this to happen again. (Or learn how to word break ups nicer.)
Maybe SHE wasn’t the one being used as a “fuck toy”.
AND why should women be the breadwinners, we freaking do everything else. It should be equal, for the most part. When I met my current partner, we had NOTHING. We both worked really hard to get where we are.
It’s our prerogative to choose a life with someone who will work with us to make it comfortable, and EASIER. It take 100% from both sides, but if your 100% is a lot less than mine, then…SEEYABYE!
Well said, Mr. Harper
Methinks OP was finito … told the “bitch” to get to steppin’ and didn’t quite get the response he wanted. Got one that bruised his ego … probably further solidifying his choice for “letting her go”. Sure, what she said wasn’t the most tactful (+1 for B) but I’m sure what he said didn’t make her feel too good either … “Hey babe, you possess none of the qualities I want except a warm hole. You’re cool with that right?”
This whole bitch feels like fighting between 12yr olds … I’m better, no me, no me … smh.
Well then Cuntee, perhaps you missed most of the actual bitch and only read what you wanted to hear. It was your, and eats crayons posts I was addressing, perhaps you should go back and read the tripe you spew before you respond to my post. You are a prime example of the type of person that I was talking about.
Let’s get this straight before I start… I do not make minimum wage, am university educated, and make more money than my wife. Does this matter to me? No. If she advances her career to make more money than me, should that bother me? No, and it wouldn’t. But with your criteria and your disdain for people who don’t chip in for exactly half or better, I should dump her and move on. Sound about right? Pretty shallow, huh? If you what to be a conceited bitch, go ahead. It doesn’t really concern me one way or the other, but don’t judge me for being non judgmental. I came from a family where character was much more important than money, and the ability to not judge people by financial status was equally important. See, I can be happy with what I have, and don’t care a lick for what anyone else has, as long as I’m happy. Let’s suffice it to say that we will probably never go out for beers, not based on the fact that you probably make more money than me, but, because I don’t like judgemental douches like you.
Meh, shit devil You know what they say…opinions are like arseholes, everybody has one.
And you are wrong about me. I’ve always been poor, never ever had anything. I know what its like to love for personality traits, but that don’t pay the bills honey.
When you are struggling to get by, you don’t need to carry anyone else. He says he’ll improve? Actions speak louder than words. Talk to me when you can afford it.
And i don’t drink beer with shit devils who don’t like my douchery. Yer soooo easy…hehe
I was just reading all the responses & i want to point out something about people who live with their parents… all of them arer not losers or users !
I know 2 people, one a girl & one is a guy, they are both in their late 30’s early 40’s & both of them are the youngest children in their families & both of them still live at home. THe guy has built an apartment in the basement of his parents home & she lives at home with mum & dad.
They do it for a reason, their parents are in their late 70’s & both of these people have decided to stay around to help out their parents.They make sure snow is removed from driveways & steps, that their parents get to medical appointments, take their meds etc.
They both have jobs, the guy is a friend of mine & he ownes 1, 3 bedroom home that is paid for & has recently bought half a duplex & rents them out.
The girl owns her own Hairstyle/Esthetics shop & employes 3 other people.
I’m just pointing it out because IMO.
You can’t judge everyone by the same measuring stick
No man! It’s perfectly fine to fuck someone and then say “I’m not looking for a relationship with you. I just wanted some fun”
Lord god, does every guy i fuck now have to become my boyfriend?
Oh you young people. lol
so…… how many “boyfriends” would you have then crayons?
Damn I wish I could be buds with crayons. You know, just keep it on the humble.
So Kitty, cause OP said ‘fling’ and ‘girlfriend’ that means it’s pretty clear to you? hahaha You’re a moron.
More: Sure there are always exceptions to the rule, (an ill parent or whatever) but for the most part, people in their 20’s, 30’s & 40’s still living with mommy and daddy are pathetic…. I dated a few of these gems in my day: Quit taking advantage of your poor parents and fly the fuckin coop already ya damn low life broke asses with no sense of responsibility.
No_fool, I don’t actually know anyone who stayed at home into their late 20’s & older.
But that doesn’t mean I never dated a ‘gem’ or 2.
I ended up marrying a girl who ended up turning into a completely different person.
But the Doctors told me some people who go through heart attacks & near death incidents have personality changes. Which is fine …shit happens to all of us. I moved on & got my wish to live out in the country ~:)
I guess I’m pathetic then *shrug*
not according to my notes
ooo, missed the boat on this shit-fest here….