To the woman who left me a note instead of a tip at my restaurant because I was saying “hey guys” or “thanks guys” to some customers of both genders… please be a human being and politely point out (to my face please) that YOU are offended by my use of gender specific titles for groups of people and maybe suggest a better way. I mean no disrespect and have never had a bad reaction to saying “guys” even to girls. Your note and your behaviour were extremely judgmental and rude, claiming that I was ignorant and clueless and borderline sexist and who knows what else you think of me. You don’t know me and you don’t know my intentions… I was raised by a wonderfully progressive mother to respect people of different races, sexual preferences and lifestyles and to never judge them… Your note is completely hypocritical and I will not serve you again unless you apologize and explain yourself to me. I’ve never been so angry at someone in my life. Next time…. if you have a suggestion… find a better more humane way of informing someone. —Recently Judged Human
This article appears in Apr 12-18, 2012.
Don’t feel bad, OB. Clearly the writer of the note has nothing better to do than pick apart minor details.
What a pathetic life they must lead. I feel bad for their dining companions, although they may be as crazy as the writer of the note.
“Hey fellow human beings” just doesn’t have the same ring to it as “Hey guys”.
Dont’ let it get to you OP the note writer is a dip.
try “hey bitches” or my favourite “hello sweet cheeks” luckily my business does not involve gratuities *klingon birds of prey being the exception*
OMG for the love of GOD people that are that offended by something so small should not be allowed to leave the house. WHat has this world come to? Is her life that pathetic that she has to go DIGGING for something that “offends ” her so she can have something to bitch about? I would love for her to get a smack in the face by some trash zooming down the street in this wind we have been having lately!
How dare you write such vitriol about me on a public forum.
that note was meant to educate you on proper usage and respect….
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now hold the door for me like a man should.
RAWK! >: )
I think I’ll be giving this one a miss, if only because I don’t know what the proper collective terms of address would be…
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Just an ignorant pig of a woman that was looking for an excuse to NOT leave a tip. If it wasn’t what you said, it would have been some other stupid minor detail that got you a note, and no tip.
Try using “folks” instead of “guys”. The older crones seem to relate to that one better.
Just a suggestion.
i kinda like “ugly bags of mostly water”
lol..nice Painy. I like it. It sorta just rolls off the tongue, doesn’t it?
How ’bout “bloody hairless apes”?
Or ‘meatbags’ to quote Bender of Futurama. By the way, I’m an old meatbag and I always use ‘guys’ regardless of whether it’s males or females or mixed ferrets. Anyone who doesn’t like it can go pound sand.
I fail to see what the problem with using ‘guy’s’ in a situation like you described OB.
IS this the place to call the customer who wrote you the note a S.E.T. ?
I believe it is.
guess what you are saying is a damn sight better than<" here's your food, bitch". although, maybe next time, give that one to them, and deny like a motherfucker to your boss that you ever said it, if they complain.
IS IT POSSIBLE NOT TO BE JUDGEMENTAL?
“Your note and your behaviour were extremely judgemental and rude…” (Recently Judged Human.)
“Judgemental, a. the forming of an estimate, notion, conclusion as from circumstances presented to the mind.” (The American Collegiate Dictionary)
My argument is not on the side of the waitress or of the customer but rather with the activity of judgement itself. How, if one is a conscious rational human being, can one NOT be judgemental, where to be so entails the forming of an estimate, a notion, and so on?
Clearly, the customer was judgemental but then so is the poster, the “Recently Judged Human.” Whether the one or the other is vindicated in their judgements is, of course, the conclusion drawn from circumstances presented to the mind, of a further judgement. And, by extension, whether THAT judgement is vindicated is the conclusion drawn from still yet a further judgement. In other words, is the activity of judgement itself a matter of infinite regress? Is there an end-point in being judgemental, a Newtonian gravitational point zero so to speak or, rather, is it an open-ended concept?
I bet you’re already being judgemental about this comment.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
I bet the woman who left the note would drown if she was walking outside in the rain withought an umbrella.
Oh my goodness! Did I just judge the snob?
Sounds like the kind of fucktard that gets a red face when a boy says “I want to be a fireman when I grow up!”
She wasn’t offended just cheap.
Was that a Buck 65 reference Paingirl?
no, it was a star trek reference, apparently it’s “ugly giant bags of mostly water” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LAlqp0_a0tE
SUNDRESSES ON S.G.R.!
Allllllrrriiiiiight.
bit nipply for that^^
GIGGITY! >; )
Whassup in your hood, Painey?
I think it is okay for this customer to state how she felt. I am sure she wrote it so it didn’t become confrontational. Relax people are just telling you how they feel about the way you address them.
good day, better than yesterday, when i just blubbered like a baby rooooooooooooooooooooo
I hear ya, buddy. Rooooo, indeed. We got La Traviata at the Met & a mawkish Titanic event in the Grand parade tonite. I’m surprised the Occupy gang haven’t scheduled a steerage passenger zombie walk. Just dealt with an insufferable cupid stunt who had all sorts of terrific ideas for how to improve our establishment . Passive agressive dumb insolence Rawks. I just smiled and thought of Rick Grimes putting a .357 magnum hollow point in a walker’s forehead. >: )
hahaha, i have images of zombies in 3d on the titanic. i better tell jimmy c my idea
I just know that at some point tonite I’ll be hearing some amateur warbling that effin’ Celine Dion toon. Irish chocolate milk(Guinness) for me tonight. *glug*
Hey, Ivan, lets go to that Kony rally next week that those high school kids are organizing. I’ll wear a feather boa and doo-rag like Jesse Ventura circa 1988.
I was sort of thinking “Child Soldier Zombie Walk” I could cook a leg of lamb (rare) and pretend to yank it out of your sleeve and nosh on it. Back in the 80’s I used to have a really cool toy AK-47 that I bought at the Zellers in the spryfield mall (no, I’m not making this up).
Damn – I wonder whatever happened to it. >: (
That would work! You have to dress up like Gorilla Monsoon though!
Fuck Yeah!, I could totally pull that off.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYL_wf_uHrk
HERE COMES BRUTUS!
LOLz
J.V.: “You can’t do this to me. I’m a former governor, and a Navy SEAL. I thought this was America”
G.M. ” I’m a Bilderberger, and a member of the Tri-Lateral Commission, and the Council on Foreign Relations, and the I.M.F. and F.E.M.A, and I’m a Mason, and a Shriner.
I OWN you, Beyotch”
…and a gurkha, sorry i’ve posted this before https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/_kIWY2DV…
I less than three those little guys. Back in the 90’s a Gurkha pipe band performed at the Tattoo and Don Tremain had to explain to the crowd that they march at a faster pace than most military units and combined with their small stature it can appear comical. Now, it’s perfectly acceptable to laugh WITH a Gurkha; you never, ever want to laugh AT a Gurkha.
The crowd was decorous, but afterward, SOBova said, “I know they are superb warriors with a long history and tradition, but they’re just so damned cute…”
…and they should never be confused with these.
http://www.google.ca/search?q=picture+of+g…
I wish OP had provided a little more details about the woman. Some commenters have assumed she was a senior–it’s possible, but I don’t think so. My guess would be either middle-aged ‘new money’ (old money has more class), or a grizzled veteran of the gender wars.
In my experience, it’s probably the latter. The world is full of 50-something bureaucrat ladies who are auxiliary volunteers in the PC Language Police. The ‘sexist’ comment is a pretty strong sign. In her mind, she’s probably still be fighting the battles of 1975. How dare you objectify/infantilize those people, or whatever.
You could always through it back at her with some modern nonsense about gender being a spectrum, and the importance of avoiding content-laden gender labels.
“guys” has become a gender-neutral word.
What a sexist bitch. I can totally be one of the guys if i want to.
I’d also hate to be called something that earns %30 more for doing the same job….
Me thinks it’s an easy excuse for a cheap ass to not leave a tip!