I clearly remember what happened Friday night so I couldn’t of been that drunk. A certain bar downtown, kicked me out Friday night, I was shocked because I was not overly drunk, I was with my friends, I was having a great time, then the one time I went to the washroom a bouncer grabbed my arm and told me I was too drunk and would have to leave. Did I refuse to leave or put up a fight? Nope, I just let him escort me out without saying goodbye to my friends. Clearly I am very loveable and gay. I had a couple of straight guys who were actually my friends’ boyfriends that were dancing with me. I also had another guy that was hitting on me and I only had one beer at the bar. Yes we did pre drink but I can clearly remember having a great time with the girls and the guys I was with. However they did take me when I was not with my friends. I am a mature guy I know when I have had too much, I know my limits. I would hate for the reason that they kicked me out was because I am gay and I had guys dancing with me and flirting with me. However after I was kicked out, the other fella that was hitting on me left and went to the gay bar down the street. Guess what? I got in. Just saying. Great night but really disappointing. Should I go back and complain or tell them my thoughts? —All Comments Welcome
This article appears in Feb 23-29, 2012.
Everyone thinks they’re not that drunk when they are drunk. Probably you were pretty drunk.
I think you should definitely go speak to the club owners about it. Although, they probably won’t care, or will pretend to take action. But, I think it will at least make you feel like you’re doing something about it. I hate to hear people being discriminated against, but it happens around here all the time.
I’m sorry you were treated this way OP.
I am sorry author. I cannot answer your question as I was not there. How much did you have that night? Height? Weight? Tolerance? It is very difficult for others to make a judgement call on this. If you feel you were wronged then persue the matter. If not, it’s not the end of the world. Afterall you got in somewhere else and presumably had a good night in the end.
Many people think they are not as drunk as they think they are be it male, female, white, black, pink with purple polka-dots, mono-sexual, bi-sexual, tri-sexual, or whatever.
Couldn’t have*
Going back to complain to management now, while may make you feel better, would be pointless OB. Ultimately, it’s your word against that of the bouncer who kicked you out and now, you’re sober so how do you argue your level of intoxication? Unless you can find witnesses other than your friends that would be willing to back you up, you’re SOL on this one, I’m afraid.
It definately sucks, no doubt about it, but when it comes to the clubs in this city, they can pretty much pick and choose who they want in their bar and if anyone questions them on it, all they have to do is play the “drunk” card.
As it turns out, it sounds like you had a good night dispite the early ejection.
You could always go back another night, I suppose, but this time, don’t drink anything harder than Pepsi and see how you get treated. If they go to toss you out again, THAT’s when you demand to speak to someone in management.
Or maybe you WERE drunker than you thought.
I’m guessing you were drunk.
if you knew you were being wronged and were going to tell someone about it, you would have gotten the bouncer’s name or some other identifying details…
OR you did and forgot them… which leans more on the drunkard side.
just let it slide and don’t go back.
there are plenty of other places to mingle.
waste of time o.p., it would always be their word over yours.and yes, they would win. fuck them. there is a new bar ban in effect in halifax now, get banned from one, gets you banned from all. let it go for now, and wait for another night to go back. don’t say a word about it to anyone, or management will toss your ass again, this time for good.
these fucking dumps don’t care about one or two people getting tossed, but if a bunch were to go out at one time, then there is a case maybe, for human rights. right now, i really just don’t see it. be cool friend, and don’t look back.
Bouncers and bar staff can have a patron removed for whatever reason he/she wants and the establishment does not have to explain itself or offer a reason. I’ve been asked to leave bars before but never thought it was because I have blonde hair or dig chicks.
..actually yea sound like annoying little bitch..maybe that’s why you got turfed ..
I think you should go back, but this time get it on camera, make certain you don’t drink too much. Although I don’t agree with gay, I agree that there is no place for discrimination.
As this wasn’t a gay bar, I have a bad feeling you might be correct OP. Guys don’t mind girls dancing together but watching men dance together threatens them and makes them uncomfortable.
Lodge a formal complaint for your own personal satisfaction.
Who cares why? If the establishment and staff made you feel uncomfortable in any way, why would you want to go back? Look, the staff at this establishment made you feel alienated when they singled out your behavior, and decided it was inapropriate enough to ask you to leave. Unless you are a regular, why does this bother you? It doesn’t have to be a gay thing, and even if it was, the chances of anything good coming of it by talking to management are about nil. There’s something to be said for picking your battles, and this one, my gay friend, is just not worth your time or thought.
Don’t play the Gay Card.
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although I don’t agree with gay
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Fair enough. I don’t agree with green eyes, curly hair, and moles on necks.
Wp
Like others have said, complainig to management probably won’t do much good.
But you could always organize a boycott. Write a review, and post it in the resturant/bar section, you can name names there.
I have green eyes Wheelie 🙁
Cheese and rice, Mel, don’t tell Donarious!
Your green is very moral and suitable, Mel.
I meant (obv.) some arbitrary colour of green, that makes as much sense is “I don’t *agree* with GAY”.
My self important “approval” of an arbitrary characteristic like hair or eye colour makes as much sense as GOof Value’s belief he has “approval” of something like an affectual orientation.
Next he’ll say he doesn’t approve of black, or Samoan.
You are just as God (who doesn’t exist, btw) made you, Dear Mel!
Don’t change a thing!
Your friend,
Wp
I knew whatcha meant Wheelie, I was just effing with you ;D.
Why PK?
He’s got a HUGE THING for girls with green eyes.
IF he was hittin’ on ya before… WATCH OUT NOW.