So Booty wants to get banged , then gets knocked up.
Let me set the record straight here , professionals both of us , over 40 , both wanted no kids , then she goes off pill without me knowing , gets knocked up and causes major fuck up ! 2 year booty call gone bad.
Why didn’t she just put me to sleep like everybody else ?
Child priority , booty mother piece of shit. Had I known she’d do this purposely would have cut my nuts off. Bitches like her cause system to fail , child support till 70 !
—Men unite !
This article appears in Oct 1-7, 2009.
She could have gotten pregnant without going off the pill. But, regardless, at 40, she can most likely take care of herself. I mean you are only a bootie call. It is likely you are worrying about paternity issues for nothing since you have already served your purpose–so, get lost…scram! And I don’t want to see you back here in 9 months crying about how you have rights, and how that bitch won’t include you in your baby’s life.
When you use condoms you will learn.
No deposit means no return.
I can’t beleive that there are still people who live in this world who don’t wear a condom for a booty call. Are you insane?
Beautiful tags.
Sadly, this child will have to come into the world with half your genetic material.
If you REALLY didn’t want a kid, then put a bag on your fucking dick. FFS.
I agree with ‘jennier’. You never know, she may have given you something in addition to a baby …. condoms, people, condoms!
If she’s a booty call, are you sure it’s your baby?
Better yet, bag your whole body, OP. It might be slighty suffocating but at least you wouldn’t bring another child into the world who’s going to end up with ‘Daddy-Wasn’t-There’ issues. That poor, poor kid. All he or she will ever have is your bitterness and resentment for the crime of being born. You sound like the type of immature creep that expects the woman to take all the precautions.
OP – lie and say you never met the woman.
Don’t want kids? Maybe a vasectomy is for you! But you’ll still need a condom for protection from diseases. Dying from HIV/AIDS negates child support payments in a most permanent way.
Yep the OB fucked up by not wrapping and worst of all trusting. Be prepared for 18years plus child support. If you think she’s not going to go after it you’re nuts. She can’t be trusted. Well it takes two and you’ve learned a very valubale and expensive lesson the hard way.
“men unite!” I got a kick out of that! hahahaha, no I am not united with losers that don’t understand to wear condoms. What is this the 1950’s? You did the crime now pay the time daddio!
“You’re both professionals and over 40” but use such degrading terminology, even if it is just a booty call, as you so delicately put it – I feel sorry for the child. Let’s hope the other half of this arrangement has more class.
Please follow through with the part about cutting off your nuts for the gene pools sake.
Ya, talked about something similar last week. -How depressing. Man and woman have sex. Woman gets pregnant. Man says he doesn’t want child. Woman decides to keep child. Woman ignores man’s wishes then insists that he lives up to his responsibility (mostly financial). Is it really impossible in these modern, enlightened times, to separate the notions of sex for pleasure and sex for parenthood? Sex is not just for babies. All this crap about “he had sex so must live with the consequences” is utter bollocks. There is no equality between the sexes while men are forced to accept ‘responsibilities’ that they did not want foisted upon them. If the boot was on the other foot women would find it completely unacceptable. The courts have backed women whose partners have objected to abortion. I agree that women should have the right to choose to either have a baby or to abort it (or give it up for adoption). But surely if they have the right to make the ultimate choice then the ultimate responsibility is theirs and theirs alone?
If a man doesn’t want to pay for an unwanted child for at least 18 years and doesn’t want an ongoing relationship with that child (and, by extension, its mother) then surely that should be his prerogative. If a woman wants the experience of motherhood, custody of the child and the authority to make all the big decisions in the child’s life then she really shouldn’t expect to be bankrolled by the poor sod who was simply having consensual sex for pleasure.
Ya, it was a selfish act. Who loses? It’s the kid.
Seriously, what’s your name and detailed description so NO ONE has to suffer your halfwit DNA. YOU ARE 100% at fault here buddy. You didnt wrap it up so dont look for sympathy when the stork comes calling. and Balls, seriously? You give neanderthals a bad name. Please, for the sake of humanity, dont procreate, willingly or not. Just bag it up.
Wow, sodeypop, Basil Fawlty and Matthew Luthor (all men, I presume)…I am so impressed! You skipped the head nodding empathy and nailed the very real fact that if he plays Russian Roulette, he must bite the bullet when he gets nailed with it. Either load the gun with blanks or don’t play.
How fucking numb are you?? This isn’t a piece of trash ffs, this is a LIVING, BREATHING, HUMAN BEING!!
Get a brain. When this kid grows up, don’t you dare tell him he was an accident. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe this kid was destined to live.
um actually I feel for the OP… it sounds like the OP and the bootycall discussed use of contraceptives (she would be on the pill so he wouldn’t have to use a condom) it WAS a 2year relationship- do you people honestly think 2 40somethign professional just neglected to have the ‘we dont want kids’ talk- if she went off the pill this is 100% HER fault (ps- Iam a girl so don’t be all “mysogynistic hater”) one party clearly failed to fully disclose the status of their contraceptive : THE WOMAN
A 40-something, professional female in a ‘just a bootycall relationship’ sounds pretty independent. Only if she actually deliberately went off the pill to get pregnant and sues him for child support do I feel sorry for him. But, that does not mean that he is without responsibility. She still could have gotten pregnant on the pill, especially if she had to take penicillin (it weakens birth control).
Accidents happen, there are more than enough of us walking around to assert that fact. The pill is not 100% effective in protecting against pregnancy. If you were certain that you did not want to have children why didn’t you get a vasectomy or at the very least use a condom and some spermicide? Why is birth control always the woman’s responsibility? Had you taken more of an active/responsible role in the selection/use of a birth control method you probably wouldn’t be facing 18 years of child support payments. Good luck to you and good luck to the kid, they’re going to need it.
Just out of curiosity, did this 40 something professional work in an office which was cold, thus causing hard nipples that could cut glass? If so, wooooooooooooo
protect your sex man….use a condom…you took the chance babies can happy even with protection …and frankly if you were so serious about no babies…why didn’t you just snip snip!
No method of birth control is 100% effective, except, of course, abstinence. Which is why I use 2 methods of birth control simultaneously, 99% of the time. You can never be too careful.
I can’t get over the fact that this is someone “over 40” talking like they’re 15…
I wonder what the OB had planned for when the wife’s too old to take BC and the doctor stops prescribing it but wile she’s young enough to still ovulate?
Personally, I think everybody should take responsibility for their own reproductive wishes… buddy, if you didn’t want to knock her up your should have found a different soft spot for it! Creativity is allowed. At the same time, if my husband all of a sudden became an idiot Oceanlady and decided he needed to “protect” himself from catching AIDS from me after 18 years of marriage he’d be quite single quite soon after pulling out a condom (that’s why Oceanlady is so so single).
All that said, if your wife led you to believe she was on the pill when she was not, don’t plan to PAY child support, COLLECT it from the bitch who presumes to teach your children how to be lying, conniving, selfish scum!! *shakes head* It’s more than your responsibility. It’s your right!
NGF, kay can’t read either. The OB wasn’t married to the booty (more a FWB or a long term convenient fuck) and nowhere does the OB say he is married at all.
2 words…. coat hanger
Funky White Boi?
Yep, at 40 that was a cruel joke. Then again look at the young ladies today
looking for a free lunch, no b/c and the man pussy struck and no condoms.
The churches rely on these unwed careless people to marry, even if not a church goer. The churches have a lot of problems, where is the redemption being taught.
No condoms, no sex! Sex before marriage……wrong, wrong. wrong. When will
people get smart? Time to get back to the basics when you make a mistake….redemption and stop making your own rules.
Rob 4444: Whose rules should we obey then? The rules of an imaginary friend dreamed up by a bunch of out of work painters almost 2000 years ago? The same rules that have allowed disgusting degenerate twisted sickos like Raymond Lahey and countless others ruin the childhoods and lives of thousands of young boys? The same rules that provided safe haven/passage to the Nazis? I’ll pass thanks. You can take your “rules” and put them where the sun don’t shine. Sideways.
Come on people. Its not HIS fault, its not HER fault, its BOTH of their faults. He didn’t use a condom and she went off her birth control for whatever reason.
Who’s to say shell even go after him for child support, which is what he’s so worried about.
And yeah, 40 year old “professionals” shouldn’t type like some 15 year old wanna be gangsta.
Perhaps OP is a professional gangstra???
Kay >>> The credibility of your comments would be better validated if you actually comprehended the issue being discussed.
This situation has absolutely nothing to do with your marital status or mine. I never once suggested that you, personally, need to introduce condoms into YOUR situation, nor did I state that married, monogamous couples need protection from diseases (booty-calls are a different matter) so I find it curious that you would take a remark I made to the OP and twist it to suit your own agenda. Sometimes things are just not about you.
BTW: Lots of married people have thought they were safe in their monogamy against diseases but have still acquired them from a straying spouse.
There you go all victim again *rolls eyes*
Oceanlady, have you ever heard the phrase “if I were you, I’d…”? You’re right, “this situation has absolutely nothing to do with your marital status or mine”.
You’re an idiot.
Kay you fucking troll…!!!! Oh never mind..
Ya know..not all women rake their ex’es through the coals for child support.What a crock of shit.I don’t ask my childs father for anything,other than to leave us alone and stay out of our lives.He’s a selfish,egotistical jackass,and frankly,my daughter can do better than him as a dad.I only wish i had shown better taste in men at the time and never laid eyes on him,but then,i wouldn’t have my daughter if that were the case.She’s the ONLY good thing to ever come out of our relationship.He can keep his measly paycheck.I make my own money,thank you very much!
Such vitriol Kay! Get over YOURSELF! You, lady, are under some strange illusions including the one where you think I am a victim (yeah, right!)and (chuckle) the idea that you think you know who I am on an anonymous message board when in fact we have never met. Sheeeeeesh…some people!
Ocean, methinks kay is gettin’ scared rock star hubby will come home with something he didn’t leave with.
Clearly she feels threatened by my posts even when they have nothing to do with her or her situation…hence the hate-filled responses. HPD comes to mind.
so much “natural charm” in Nova Scotians *barf* You’re all the fuckin’ same.
That’s just one of the many shitty things about us Nova Scotians. We force people to stay.
I fail to see what another degree under my belt is going to do to improve your attitude.
you poor fucking muffin, i feel your pain, fucking not, asshole.
The best thing about Nova Scotians is their low bullshit tolerance!
Why do you bitches complain when I become one of you? Tolerance? I used to have that.
there’s nothing going over my head… you’re all the same, day in day out and from one sock puppet to the next. Ironic, isn’t it? Either a bully or a victim or simple know-it-all-kids (who are actually quite interesting but they’re mean too, and worrisome)… save maybe kitty who also tires of the bait day in day out from one sock puppet to the next and actually contributes to the OB if she bothers to get involved in YOUR trollary *forgive me, I just invented that word*. *yawn*
Why shouldn’t this guy count on raising his child and collecting child support from a woman without a sense of reproductive responsibility? As far as we can tell he was no ‘sperm donor’. What’s so daring to suggest a man has equal RIGHTS to the custody of the child? I’m not trying to be a lawyer, you fuckin’ hounds.
I make a simple observation that fertile woman can’t safely take the pill their whole fertile lives so wonder what the OP had planned for that occasion since he didn’t plan for this one. Is that such a bad contribution?
I carry on including retort on some of the bitch’s comments to the post and now I “can’t fuckin’ read”. Clearly.
I make a generalization about the introduction of condoms (or even the maintenance of condoms) in a long term relationship/marriage (mentioned in one of the comments) and, all of a sudden, I don’t know what I’m talking about!?! Do you ALL have to be so fuckin’ DAFT and narrow minded?
I throw in a dig at Oceanlady who thinks everything is about her and projects this fact onto me consistently. What do you care?
Perhaps, this makes me a bully. Good. You get what you give, bitches. You keep telling me that and what a bunch of asses you’ve turned out to be.
You’re SO very predictable missing the play-by-play of your behavior shooting only to be the sheep you can be. Why don’t you try to at least entertain, contribute to the bitch or or or… holy fuck, you’re pathetic. You embody so much of what Nova Scotia really is with your comments, it’s no wonder this kind of blog exists at all.
Couldn’t be bothered wasting my time with a proper response. (yawn)
Why is birth control solely her responsibility??? If you don’t want kids, wrap it up! It’s not that difficult of a concept. Take some responsibility for your own actions OP. Hell, if you’re determined to never have kids, get the snip snip, no more worries!
Vasectomies are not 100% guaranteed, Tanzy. People wearing seatbelts can still get killed in automobile accidents you know.