OK, so I am single mom and I don’t mind being single, but it would also be nice to meet a great man. But it seems they are in short supply around here. I tried the online scene, and most of the men seem like hillbillies: they look like they need a shower and shave, they love NASCAR and shooting things. And they can’t spell. Why don’t people who put a profile on a dating site at least try to edit the thing?
Honestly, the best looking and interesting men are the younger ones, which gives me hope for the next generation, but the men of my generation really need to work on themselves. Not to say I am perfect, but come on! Clean yourself up for the photo please! Do you really think the mullett and beer T-shirt is going to attract the ladies?
The few that are good looking, ambitious and so on, are also married and looking for a piece on the side. I want to the PRIME piece.
Oh, and I’ve dated men outside of the online world, too, and they aren’t much better.
—Single Forever?
This article appears in Sep 24-30, 2009.
So to recap.
On-line men suck.
Off-line men suck.
Men your own age suck.
Men who like NASCAR suck.
Men who make spelling mistakes suck.
And on to infinity….
Are you sensing a pattern?
I think the whole “single mom with an attitude” is very telling.
Well let’s seeeee…the scruffy ones are looking for a LT relationship and might be fabulous if hillbillies but we’ll just dismiss them for the looks. And that piece of prime you want seems to be interested only in adultery according to your anecdata research. Uhuh. Single mom with a pound of sand up the snatch, maybe.
“I don’t mind being single…but it would be nice to meet Mr. Right”
Sweet blistering jesus, how often has that phrase been used ?
If the other phrase “you can’t judge a book by its cover” is even close to correct, the OP has eliminated 99% of the male population, & has actually left herself with no choice, because the one percent that’s left has probably been discarded on looks before she’s ever gotten to know him ! ! !
Don’t give up! I met my partner through a reputable dating site. I know others who are also married to folks they met online. Be prepared to spend some money since those free sites are littered with the cheaters (will cheat if it’s free, I guess) and low lifes because you DO get what you pay for. I know it’s ridiculous how some people don’t bother to comb their hair for the pic, or take the booger out of their nose but hey, look at it as making it easier for you to dig through the dirt to find that gold nugget.
The women on the dating sites can be just as bad so it’s not actually a “man thing” to be a pig or a loser who doesn’t spell check. It took me three years of online dating to find the right guy for me and I have to say that I did the “catch and release” with a few men who were of high quality but just not right for me. Perhaps they are still there, circling the system, waiting for someone like you? Don’t give up…there are still lots of quality singles left in HRM, just not me or my partner anymore..LOL! Sounded like you needed to hear a positive story about online experiences. Best of luck!!
I am/was a single mom and it took almost a year but I met my boyfriend of 3 yrs online. On a free online dating site. But I’m starting to think I just lucked out or something… So many woman complain that they can’t find anyone so maybe I’m the exception?
Just a small suggestion …change how you have been thinking about yourself…instead of viewing yourself as a single mom…the title. Say you are a mom, a woman. The word single is a heavy word and I believe we are what we think. If you say SINGLE mom then you will always be single in my view. You are a mom. Start there. I think you will find someone thrilling soon after you just master not thinking you are sooo single. Sends out a needy vibe rather than a fun love seeking vibe….so who do you meet? hillbillies and the very thing you were afraid might be out there…if you say it is hard it will be hard…if you just break thinking about being single and rather you are now DATING MOM. it is now fun wondering what each day may bring you and voila you will be a
dating a man mom…and so on…Try to remember how it feels to be in love and feel that way when you are out in the world…if you can’t you may be depressed due to circumstances and really not as ready as you think to date quite yet? Dating requires that YOU get in shape too not just the guys with bad pictures…it may be your own sign that you need a little TLC too ! Have FUN! Smile and enjoy your kids!
Maybe watching Nascar is the trade-off for dating someone with a kid?
I don’t watch Nascar myself but I wouldn’t really be wanting a long-term with a single mom that’s on the woman’s terms.
Sounds like OP is looking for someone to take care of her but isn’t allowed to have any baggage themselves. Maybe because her issues take up the entire closet or living space.
OP here … I am not talking about looks here; I am talking about polish. If men aren’t willing to clean themselves up for a dating profile, then I am willing to bet they just look like that all the time. Polish! A haircut, a shave, a clean shirt. No big deal. I am too old to take on a fixer-upper. I may be no raving beauty, but I try to look nice for someone I am dating.
As for the kid thing, I usually only date men with kids because they seem to understand that sometimes when you have kids, you can’t just do whatever you want, whenever you want. Sometimes you’re home on a Friday night watching cartoons. It’s not baggage, but I doubt men without kids would be willing to deal with that.
honey,you should be meeting me then, i don’t care if you got 50 kids, it’s you that i would be sleeping with. and maybe you are looking at the too young immature types that just like playing video games. i know some games we can play, and they are veideo games.get hold of me.
Maybe if the OB graduated Grade 6, she could get something better than a hillbilly. BTW Elly Mae Clampbett was hot. Better than Daisy Duke.
You had me until you drooled praise all over younger men. Yeah lady, you’re right, the majority of late teen to early twenties guys have it all together. Yep.
Really eh, refined! As if the average 25 year old has more going on in his life than the average 35 year old.
And the next generation? Ha! Enabled, entitled and uneducated.
qpmzwonxeibcruv is available, and he seems like a nice enough guy. Although, he appears to be absent tonight…
OMG qpmzwonxeibcruv, did you score a date?!
I they’re not cleaning themselves up on the profile picture then you could say they’re being honest.
Hah, thanks HKM! Wasn’t expecting that. Nope, not really a date, just hanging out with an old friend and spending some money that I don’t have to spend. Besides, being unemployed and living at home (all temporarily, of course) isn’t exactly the best way to score a date!
I was actually going to suggest that “HfxGurl” and “LIFE SUCKS” get together. He asked first, anyway, plus he doesn’t even care if she has 50 kids. He’s truly pimpin’.
If the only people replying to your adds have boogers in their pics, I’m guessing you’re not a stunner.
Ah nice one Yorkke … but I block the ones with boogers in their noses.
Sooo… HfxGurl, LIFE SUCKS… what do you think?
I don’t know … does he shower and shave?
I’m sure he can shower and shave for you! Don’t worry, he’ll be back.
yeah, the cat came back,when you want to meet.i can give you an email that i use.and yes,i will shower, shave, and keep the drool to a minimum,unless you are one hot lady.i get busy,so i don’t get a chance to be here much anymore.
Right on LIFE SUCKS! And hey, if she’s good looking but things just don’t happen to work out between you two, she’ll know which LTWWB poster to call next, right?
Whoo hoo for me! Two possible dates! So when are we on, Life Sucks?
gary_450@hotmail.com
i will be away til wed., you can leave your contact info and some detail.
what the hell is wrong with watching cartoons on a Friday night, exactly?
you know what your problem is?
you’re a hoser.
so,hfxgurl,where are you at? i left my email here, and just got in and checked it, but not a note even.oh well, maybe it’s your loss.
HfxGurl, right this way! Hahah.
qpmzwonxeibcruv, it looks like Life Sucks bombed (maybe it was the drool thing). So, now you have a shot. Let’s hear it…what’s your best pick up line?
We’ll have to see if she comes back first! It could’ve been the drool comment, perhaps the broken space and shift keys… who knows.
My best pick-up line? If I could re-write the alphabet, I would put U and I together (stolen from a bad 1990s MT&T commercial and I’ve been using it ever since).
Hey, it made me smile = )
Maybe we should go out some time then! I promise not to pick my nose, at least on the first date.
Oh no, I can tell you are a heartbreaker = (
Me, a heartbreaker? No, I’m a cross between an angel, a puppy, and an Adonis.
Really Q? I thought you were a Russian warlord and played the harp.
Shh Dino, don’t cramp my style, or I crush you.
sigh…so tempting…a Russian Wolfhound puppy that plays the harp and speaks Greek. But, I am a ol’ mangy bitch sleeping on the porch whose chasing stick days are over.
Well alright then, your loss (and maybe mine). I guess I’ll never get the opportunity to woo you with my harp and puppy whimpers.
*Puppy dog eyes*
Hfxgurl, how can you continue to ignore those puppy dog eyes! = (
And just imagine my puppy dog whimpers, too. They’re only getting louder and whimperier!
This bitch has been hijacked! As for the other bitch — me — well I got a date! Taking a chance on a NASCAR hillbilly …
And you know what zZz, I like watching cartoons with my kid on a Friday night. The problem is many — but not all — men without kids would rather date women who weren’t sitting home with kids on a Friday night.
“Taking a chance on a NASCAR hillbilly …”
LIFE SUCKS? In all seriousness though, good luck… sniffle.
not me people,she lost her chance.
No hard feelings though.
Oh you two … I am not dating anyone. Going to be happily single for a bit!
Well, just because you’re going to be happily single for a bit doesn’t mean you can’t still have some fun! Leave an email address here and I’ll get in touch.
Ohh boy, I am getting a bit desperate aren’t I… fuck it! Time for something bold.
yeah,let’s get it on. or are you chicken?
HfxGurl, if you have an ounce of pity, please (PLEASE) take qpmzwonxeibcruv out for the evening. (Nothing personal, LS). He really, really needs attention = ) You might have to treat him, but I suspect it will be worth the entertainment = )
Well, I need some details and a pic first.
you have to write to someone to get a response don’t you.you got my email. go for it,and qpmz, hey good luck too.we will be waiting for you mail hfzgurl.
keep us all updated
Thank you HKM, I guess, and I agree: although you may have to pay, HfxGurl, I will more than make up for it in entertainment and fun (but what do you mean I really need attention?). Just leave your email here and I will send you a pic and some info.
All I can tell you right now: I’m 24 (age is not an issue, as long as you’re above 18 and under 45), male, 5’11 (that’s almost 6 feet!), 165 pounds (of pure muscle), dark brown hair, currently unemployed (hence all my free time) but that should be changing soon, I like cycling, swimming, socializing, long walks on the beach, candlelit dinners, and candlelit dinners on the beach. What more could you want in a man?