This bitch is for the longtime friend who initiated a sleepover with me, spent much of the next day lounging around in my bed, claimed to want a relationship..and hasn’t talked to me since. Oh, you’ve called up mutual friends and asked about me, but you still haven’t returned my call and I have yet to receive so much as a text. WTF??!! So you’re just not that into me. Got it. But I would think our friendship warrants an explanation to that effect. Chaulk it up to a drunken mistake.. give me the friendship spiel..but for gawdsakes, SAY SOMETHING! We’re not 17, it’s not that big of a deal, and I love you enough that I’m content to simply go back to being platonic friends (as we’ve always been) if that’s what you want. I just wish you would talk to me again.
—I Feel Terrible
This article appears in Sep 10-16, 2009.
I’m going through a bit of a similar situation at the moment – actually, when I read the first few sentences, my heart stopped a bit since I thought this could have been about me! The best thing to do is forget all your worries and everyone else in your life, including family and close friends, and post bitches on the Coast. Believe me, it can be very therapeutic! Works for me.
More seriously though, just do other things that are unrelated to this person, like working out, working, walking, reading, surfing the Internet, seeing other friends, talking to family, drinking, smoking, anything really, to get your mind off this person. It’s no good dwelling on it. If the friendship / potential relationship means that much, they’ll come around. If not, you’ll be happy enough doing these other things anyway and will eventually move on. In the end the pain and hurt will make you a stronger person.
Good advice, qpmzwonxeibcruv . I hope everything works out for you, as well =)
Thanks shoe_chick! Only time will tell…
The BEST way to fuck up a perfectly good friendship is to fuck your friend. Use this experience to think twice next time.
qpmzwonxeibcruv, “In the end the pain and hurt will make you a stronger person…” I disagree. A life of pain leads to fucking-bitch-syndrome. Nobody should have to feel this way and we should all do our best to feel better. When we embrace the pain we catch the the poor-me-I’m-a-pathetic-victim or the fucking-bitch-syndrome. Either way it results in poor character and a lonely life.
My advice to the OP is to replace the fucked friend with one you like as much but don’t fuck this one this time, okay?