This is a personal bitch to myself…for all those times I screwed up something with a great girl and never got to experience something special..too shy sometimes..too bold at other times..’there’ll be plenty of girls’…for those of you who think this when there’s a perfectly awesome little creature on your arm, don’t be a dumbass…take a chance..or add it to the pile of regrets. If there is such a thing as soul mates, it does not mean love will automatically drop in your lap. Maybe its not soul mates, but a destiny-linked connection that has to be recognized and acted on. I’ll find true love, but I’m gonna work my ass off for it, and make it right..
—Forlorned
This article appears in Sep 10-16, 2009.
BRAVO! Unlike the hordes of people out there who never recognize this simple fact, you did and that means YOU will find what you want. Good Luck and congrats!
Emo line forms to the right.
When you get sad, do you cut yourself…..
another piece of cheesecake?
You might have better luck if you refrain from referring to girls as “little creatures”. What are we, shrimp?
OK:
It’s not about “soul mates” (or whatever new-age Harlequin Romance soap opera bullshit is circulating around the blog-o-sphere on any given week) It’s about:
• kindness
• acceptance
• trust
• honesty
• fairness
• respect
• affection
• shared interests
• being eachother’s best friend
• enough self-confidence to maintain your own identity and not be threatened when your partner asserts theirs
• mutual sense of what’s fun/thrilling/exhilarating for both of you and what’s not
• being in it for the long haul
• sharing the burden/lightening the load
• sharing the grand, glorious adventure that is LIFE
that makes a relationship worth having and keeping.
It’s easy to find someone to help you make it through the night. Much more difficult, and much more worthwhile to spend one’s precious time with someone who will help you make it through this life.
Don’t waste your time trying to find that one “reincarnated soul” that you were supposedly “meant to be with” in some other past lifetime—that’s literally what a “soul mate” supposedly is.
Take a look at who is around you living in this world HERE, NOW, TODAY and build something worthwhile with someone you love who loves you, warts and all.
I know it’s presumptuous of me, but the idea of “soul mates” is causing more relationship heartbreak than almost anything else I can think of these days.
(Besides, I would bet we were all probably bugs or slugs or something else equally disgusting in our “past lives” rather than medieval princes and princesses.)