My “better half” tells me to save money and goes on a fucking shopping spree that same day? what the fuck is that!?
—lost soul
This article appears in Jun 4-10, 2009.
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“What the fuck is that?”
Typical woman behaviour? 🙂
agreed.
She said for you to save your money. She never said anything about her not spending it. You forgot that magic mantra “What’s yours is hers and what’s hers is hers”.
Hey Hey now! Don’t be hatin, not all woman are like that…and who’s say’s it’s not a gal writing the bitch(although I highly doubt it).
I don’t see anywhere in the original post that this is a man bitching about a woman. Talk about sexist.
highly doubt it is a female writing this….guys dont go on “Sprees” we see something…buy it…dont try it on… leave the mall as fast as we got there….if it fits great if not oh well.
It’s safe to assume it’s about a woman. But I was joking in my original comment – hence the 🙂
not all guy’s. I’m a gal and I fit the description you just followed. If I got to a mall with a guy, they usually take their dam sweet time picking something out and I’m the one waiting on them. So it can go both ways.
dammit I fail at typing lately…*go
If I’m on ebay or amazon I typically go on “sprees”, especially if it means combined shipping, shit those words make my mouse finger twitch with buying excitement. In a mall? I try on one item and if it fits I buy it in 3 different colors. As Homer once said, I just tripled my productivity!
Sure guys go on sprees. Maybe instead of buying a purse they buy a $1000 guitar. Assuming all men are financially prudent and all women are idiots tossing their money wily-nily is stupid. I’ve known men who have “no money” for rent but lots for drinking and drugs, and women who buy all their meat on sale and freeze it to save 35 cents. And vice versa. It depends on life experiences, not physiology.
As for the OP’s complaint, why do you have to save money just because your SO tells you you have to? And I hope you have a separate bank account. It sounds like you have major communication issues.
I hate malls with a passion. I go clothes shopping about 2 times a year…once for shirts, once for pants.
Fortunately (and unfortunately) my girlfriend thinks clothes make great presents. Fortunate in that she has better taste than me. Unfortunate in that I usually want gizmos and gadgets (grown up words for toys).
I’m also wondering where there was any mention of breaking up? Nope, none there.
I think pretty much any relationship related bitch qualifies for a boring break up story tag.
Perhaps your hideous wardrobe took precedence over a little extra cash in his book.
I’m still waiting for the bitch about a couple who breaks up over reading Dan Savage’s shitty column while riding on a Metro transit bus. How will you tag that one?
OP – just don’t take your “better half” out to dinner or movies or dancing or anything like that.
And if they ask to borrow money, say something snappy like, “Sorry, babe. I’m trying to save up the funds. Can’t afford to fund your latest spree.”
Incomplete story. Perhaps your BH saved the money she’s now going on a spree for. Just tossing that out there.
or OPs BH wants the OP to save up so the BH can shop with OPs $.
“I’m also wondering where there was any mention of breaking up? Nope, none there.”
Won’t last the summer.
do you mean spending spree as in buying groceries, toilet paper and the necessities in life that you yourself never has to get because it just always seems to be there? Is that the spending spree?
That last post makes me wonder if there’s a major sale on Big 8 products and toilet paper now.
Bitches are notorious for doing this shit. I’m sorry, it MAY be sexist to rag on women and stereotype them into this role, but…it kind of *is* a female trait.
Although, I firmly believe that in a relationship women shouldn’t believe they’re entitled to being bankrolled by their bf/husband/whomever the fuck they’re with. I pay for my own shit, make my own money and don’t feel entitled to anyone else’s money. Perhaps that’s just how I was raised though — my mom and dad combine money for expenses, but mom has her money and dad has his and they both fund their own personal shopping adventures.
OP you better not lend that chick/dude any money.
I’m a girl and I definitely get the look from my SO when I go out for dinner with my friends and spend money on things, but then he’ll drop a few grand on one of his “toys” and that’s ok.
It works both ways, and ebay is the easiest way to spend a hundred dollars without noticing, so addictive, so amazing.
Retaliation is in order. Go out and buy yourself something nice and if he bitches, tell him to stick his finger up his ass and rotate on his elbow.
PAS – I’m curious, do you and the SO live together and share bills? I ask because I wonder if money is a major issues for couples who live together and those who don’t live together.
My personal opinion on the issue – in whether situation – is that a person can do whatever they want with their own money. Its nobody else’s business what one person does with their revenue.
But a couple living together have more in common (rent, bills, food, etc) so I can see how and why money can be an issue for some. As long as the bills are paid and you have some change in the pocket then its all good.
A dating couple who live apart – I can’t see why an SO would stick their nose into one’s bank account and spending. If it has no negative affect on the other, then its none of their biz.
Also, PAS – a girls night out is nothing. Everybody needs some time with the pals and a night out for a drink and some good eats. It pales in comparison to dropping several grand on some stupid “toy”, which is somehow justified. Sounds like your beau has bit of a double standard which makes absolutely no sense. Ever compare your dinner receipts to the big toy invoices? lol
You could just cooly say to your SO, “See, I have money to go out with the girls since I don’t drop a grand or two for a hunk of metal that just makes noise and looks shiny.”
I think it depends on the couple’s priorities. If one person’s priority is spending money on immediate things like food and alcohol and trips and entertainment, and the other person really wants them to have a house/car/kids together and save up for fancy bedroom sets and so on, I could see them trying to put pressure on the other to get on board with that plan financially.
I mean, not that it’s right, necessarily. I think people should think long and hard before they settle down with someone who just doesn’t share the same goals in life.
We do live together, and that’s why he questions my spending money. I honestly don’t mind when he buys guitars and electronics, because i know he’s got the cash for it, but because I don’t work as often, but make more per hour than him, he assumes on the one hand that he shouldn’t have to buy my dinner, but also that I don’t have enough money for other things.
It probably comes down more to what individuals consider a waste of money. He thinks going to dinner is a total waste of money, but I don’t, because it’s about a fun evening. However I would pack a lunch everyday to save cash, whereas he just goes out and buys lunch downtown whenever he wants.
But I definitely agree with you that the SO’s money certainly becomes more of an issue when you’re wondering if the cash they’re spending on random whatever is coming out of the grocery budget.
Miles! twice a year! you’re a connoisseur for a male shopper! why the hell do you think there’s no selection?
I go shoe shopping about as often as I renew my life insurance.
woops… I don’t think anyone complains when they finally have something to wipe their ass with. well, at least I don’t.
PAS, I actually can sympathize even though I’m on the glorious end of the stick. If’s he’s not basing the expenditures per month based on PERCENTAGE of wages earned (so it’s basically the same burden on each of you) then he’s not really thinking your job is worth it. See, percentage wise, he’ll still have a bit more, but it would be the same burden per dollar you earn.
Think about it.