Its official, I’ve given up on women. I love women, but trying to have simple fun sex with a woman has become an endless quest. Sex is fun, its good for you, its natural, its healing, its free!!! Why have we all forgotten this? I’m in my 40’s, average looking, healthy, mentally well, and very horny. The women that are attracted to me try to use sex as a tool, they dangle it in front of me. They wonder if sex on the first date is bad. They are upset when I’ve had sex with them then I don’t want to start a romance. Women are not happy with their bodies which leads to bad sex. Fuck!!!! I’m sure that younger woman today have fewer hangups but they don’t want me. In their eyes I’m an old perv. I’ve had the opportunity to sleep with a couple really wonderful “sluts”, as society likes to call them. Thank you for an amazing, guilt free romp session, I wish there were more like you. I love and respect women, I understand how society and men in general have shaped you into what you are today, but I still wish we could just drop all this bullshit around sex. Sex is beautiful, it does not have to be this way. —fucksex
This article appears in Mar 26 – Apr 1, 2015.
SEX AS SPORT
“Sex is fun, its (sic) good for you, its (sic) natural, its (sic) healing, its (sic) free!” fucksex
Why not take up badminton?
A pleasure as always,
Cheerio!
Well, have you ever thought about men? Gay men see sex as recreational and have built successful businesses around just that…
Seriously. If anyone asks, tell them Jesus said it’s okay…
women don’t want to have meaningless sex with you so you’re giving up on them? perhaps the real problem is your definition of love and respect.
The issue here is that you’re probably looking for a number of women to share this kind of experience with and, at your age, that could be a challenge. Most women your age have married or are in a relationship. If you could tap (excuse the expression) the younger market, your chances would be better. Your 40s isn’t that old, if you take care of yourself you might find a few late 20s/30s ladies to spend some time with. Then there’s always men and their inner slut is close to the surface. Good luck.
how can you say you love and respect me as a woman when you can neither accept nor appreciate that it’s in my very nature as a woman to perceive and experience sex on more than your base superficial level? how do you say you love and respect me and then run away in a snit without any attempts to understand why i won’t sacrifice myself for the sake of your pleasure and release? and if i ever did decide one day to give it up for the hell of it, why the fuck would i turn my self over to your average looking, selfish, boring ass? stop being such a dick!
I think I recently overheard a twenty something guy who is going to end up middle aged and bitter like the OB. He was saying that he decided that his relationship needs to be “open”. Translation: he wants his current girlfriend to be a backup in case he isn’t very successful in his new playboy lifestyle.
Good luck with that boys!
Maybe the OB just prefers his women like a type of Kleenex
Soft
nice smelling
disposable
~;p
It’s okay to have recreational sex.
Sorry guy.
What you are looking for just does not exist for most younger guys, let alone a guy past 40. There just simply isn’t some hidden room somewhere filled with attractive, readily-available, “fun-loving” gals waiting around to have meaningless sexual encounters with you. Maybe if you were 20 and lived in a university dorm you’d possibly have access to some form of this fantasy, but at your age any gals willing to play that game are long gone.
“Let me have sex with you, then you go away” is not something most women find appealing. (What, are you still secretly hoping that she’ll turn into a pizza at 2:00 am?)
This may come as a shock, but most women really dislike being treated as cum-dumpsters. Sorry if this rains on your fantasies of liberation and a 1960s-style “Summer of Love,” but there are reasons why that experiment petered out very quickly. It just doesn’t work.
Most women want actual relationships with people who care about them and who want to spend time with them. Most women are not out there looking for lonely old strangers to give random sexual experiences to. Most women want to find someone to share a life with, and eventually build a permanent family with. Perhaps this doesn’t match your fantasy, but it is reality for most women, and it isn’t going to change just because you wish it should be otherwise.
Most women are actually quite busy with some combination of jobs, family, friends, school, fitness, community involvement, etc. They don’t really don’t have a lot of extra time or desire to add “be used and discarded by random strangers” to their day.
Sadly, there is a whole cohort of guys like this out there, still creeping around The Dome on Saturday nights, and hanging out with their bitter curmudgeonly friends at McFattie’s and Timmie’s in the afternoons, acting all confused about why attractive young girls aren’t lining up to have sex with them.
Well, I’ve just answered all your questions, but I have a suspicion that you will still be mystified by these answers.
Angel, it’s okay to have recreational sex…
Oh, it’s perfectly fine–don’t get me wrong. I’m not approaching this from a morality standpoint (despite my “angelic” screen name).
For guys like the OB, the odds just aren’t in his favour. He wants random strangers to find pleasure in pleasuring him . . . and then be discarded. There just aren’t many ladies out there who fill find equal pleasure in that arrangement.
If he can find them, well then great for him . . . but I think we all know the kind of guy that OB is–like I said, you see them around and recognize them immediately.
The girls just don’t want what he wants.
I think they do want what he wants, bit won’t allow themselves because of arcahic constructs. It’s about how we perceive things. If we perceive it’s not okay, it never will be okay. I can give you all permission but until you all do, we will live with Victorian era values that ultimately don’t serve us and helps to perpetuate sex and gender conflicts.
I think what the OB is really looking for is prostitutes but he either doesn’t want or can’t pay for it.
So, this may be his best option: http://www.kaboodle.com/reviews/hey-mcclou…
Why buy the car, with all of the upkeep and maintenance, when you can rent it when you need it.
Well, Jesus, while I may WANT to have sex without attachment for the pure pleasure of sex, I’ve come to understand that I CAN’T. Not because of what he might think of me or what society might think of me but on account of the fact that my sex is a powerful force, a valuable gift, and a sacred act that also has emotional, spiritual, and psychological impacts. I have deluded myself into thinking otherwise from time to time, but my experience has taught me otherwise and so i don’t recommend playing fast and loose with horny boys to anyone. Amen.
So can you please explain the emotional, spiritual, and psychological impact of being puked on, having a big dump laid on your chest and getting a face full of pee? Not my thing personally, but the Germans seem to like it.
it’s a ritual to act out issues of shame, power, and control. it has the adverse impact of perpetuating the cycle of shame, creating the illusion of power, and strengthening the psychological defenses that keep people bound in spiritual sickness. that would be my best guess.
“Women are not happy with their bodies which leads to bad sex. Fuck!!!! “; “Why have we forgotten this?”;…”younger women today have fewer hang ups but they don’t want me.”
Yeah the problem couldn’t possibly be with you could it, fucksex? I have a feeling you’re that creepy dude in the corner of the bar ogling women half your age.
Sex isn’t free – it just doesn’t usually cost money (though may I suggest you consider going that way). There is always a level of investment an element of risk. It’s part of the game and is super fun if you learn to do it right. I’m not talking those ridiculous “Pick Up” culture books, either.
Welcome to the real world – some women use sex as a means to an end, the same way some men flash cash or cars to attract women. I can’t believe you’re in your 40’s and haven’t figured that out yet. Accept it. Christ.
Based on your rant I’m going to say your problem is your terrible attitude, your twisted ideas of “respect”, your misplaced confidence that you “understand how society and men in general have shaped you into what [women] are today” while perpetuating the same societal ills, and the fact that YOU ARE DESPERATE to a pitiful degree. My friends call desperation “the stink”: women can smell it a mile away and it repels them.
Swallow the hard truth: you don’t get laid because you don’t deserve to get laid. Women owe you nothing. In fact your post speaks to their good sense.
Take a protip from a guy a younger than you who is well contented with women in friendship and physical relations: stop whining, go read a book, make yourself interesting, get a hobby, invest in personal development, spend less time thinking about your eleven-finger and more time using your ears. Chill the fug out.
Another thing, dude, don’t use the word “slut” – women are working hard to reclaim it from out of touch guys like you. It’s not yours to use any more than the N-word is white peoples’ to use when referring to people of African descent.
Sex is beautiful, and it isn’t like “that” – whatever the hell you think that means. It is like “this” for you because you brought it on yourself. You old perv.
OB, as a very wise associate recently clarified, the transaction between Johns and “professionals” is that they are really paying them to GO AWAY after sex. It sounds like you want your conquests to go away so it would not surprise me that they, in turn, do not want to be made to feel like “professionals”.
I know you won’t get it but there it is.
TS dear, as long as you tell yourself that you CAN’T, you never will be able to let go of the constraints that prevent you from enjoying your life. You are the embodiment of my argument. People, learn from Twisted Sister. Learn exactly how you imprison yourselves, creating the conflicts you despite so…
^^^ “the Germans seem to like it.”
In a recent survey of European countries, the respondents in every country (except for the delusional Greeks who nominated themselves!), cited the Germans as the hardest working people in all of Europe. It doesn’t surprise me that many Germans would need a break from their intense sense of responsibility and duty…. and that some of them would choose extreme acts of submission as a release for their stress.
^^It can’t be the fact that the Germans may feel a tingling of guilt for they’re responsibility in 2 world wars and have the blood of millions of innocent peoples on their hands which may lead them to do such demeaning acts as being shit and pissed on during sex.
^^^It’s not fair to generalize. And Canadians get into that too.
Of course I can, Ivan. You’ve missed the point entirely.
^^^”Of course I can, Ivan.”
TS, FYI – the recently departed Ivan Sonofabitch and Jesus Sonovabitch are not the same person. I believe JS brings a gay man’s perspective to the board. N’est-ce pas JS?
Oui, c’est correct. Je suis gai.
TS, no one said you couldn’t/shouldn’t tell yourself that you CAN’T; you have that option – no one can take it away.
Know that choosing to say you can’t means you never will be able to let go of the constraints that prevent you from enjoying your life.
If it isn’t clear, sex can be recreational AND represent your “…powerful force, a valuable gift, and a sacred act that also has emotional, spiritual, and psychological impacts.”
Again, when we say we cannot do something (for whatever reason), we rob ourselves of primal experiences and personal growth. How do you KNOW you can’t without trying? How do you KNOW you don’t like it until you try it?
The good news is that we get to make choices for ourselves; even if we make the wrong choices.
Yes your correct JS, I should not have made such a generalization.
Any sex act consenting adults do behind closed doors is none of anyone’s business.
OP makes me want to give up on men. I just joined Match.com last week. It was the first time I was on there in 6 years and saw a couple of the same guys I met in 2009 on there! Seriously?! The same losers I didn’t want before leaving here are still prospective mates for me…..Has the Halifax dating scene improved at all?? *Sigh* back to my vibrator…..
^^^”OP makes me want to give up on men”
I think the problem isn’t so much a men or women thing as it is a people thing. I have a number of gay and lesbien acquaintances and they don’t seem to have a greater success rate in relationships.
The problem is to not only find someone who is mutually attractive and with similar interest and values but, and this is often more difficult, finding someone who will make a commitment to working through any problems that come up. It’s all too easy nowadays to give up on a relationship when a problem pops up and go find someone else on Match.com or wherever. I would bet that the same men and women keep recycling through those sites.
Your best bet is to just get out and meet more real people (as opposed to the virtual ones on dating sites.) Maybe try co-ed sports. If you like handy men take a carpentry class.
And let all of your friends and acquaintances know you are looking. They will filter out the worst ones and you might be surprised at who they introduce you to.
Good luck and keep an open mind!