I am so sick of Blackberry users, especially the ones who check their e-mail when they’re supposed to be on a date with you. WTF? Is it me, or is checking your berry mail while having dinner with someone the ultimate in rudeness?
And it doesn’t matter if we’ve finished eating and we’re sitting there talking – at least wait till we’ve left the restaurant if you’re that desperate to check your mail.
So no, I do not want to see you again. Take the Blackberry out for dinner instead.
Is there a Halifax Crackberry 12-step program?
—Allergic to Blackberries
This article appears in Apr 16-22, 2009.
Bugs me too. I’m not sure if these people just have no manners, or just want to show off their new toys.
I was out with 8 friends last night and at one point, four of them, at the other end of the table were just texting other friends who weren’t there. Luckily, me and the other three non-texting friends were still having a pretty good time drinking beers and talking to each other.
I’ve been out with this sort, as well. I liked him, and there was chemistry, but I couldn’t help but feel he was checking for e-mails from other prospects (gals), so, if that was the case why even bother on a date with me. I agree, it was rude. It is one thing to text when you’re alone, but a definite faux-pas whilst socializing with others.
In a group, ok, fine, check your email. One on one, see ya, I’d be out the door, or at least go the the washroom to check it.
Yeah, It’s becoming a little too accepted to do these things now.
I’ve always made a point to NEVER answer my phone, be it text, email, or call, at dinner as I think it’s just proper manners… I believe the right thing to do, if it’s an emergency, is excuse yourself at least, otherwise it’s just plain rude.
I work in IT and some of my co-workers have no choice but to have it on their person at all times…there are correct and logical reasons for Blackberries, but I think the wanna-be yuppie crowds have abused them. But before you judge the otherwise great prospect..be direct, ask them if it’s necessary or if they are just being rude, pretty simple check will either confirm or disprove your assumptions.
The only time I’ve ever answered my phone whilst dining with someone else was when I was with a certain poster on this board who shall remain nameless…but we’re hommies and it usually includes some sort of fast food so it doesn’t really matter — I wouldn’t give a shit if he answered his phone either. I’d probably tell him to fuck off, but I’d expect a fuck off too so it’s all good. I wouldn’t DREAM of answering my phone when I’m with others. I find it HORRIBLY rude, unless it’s someone you’re tight with (like I don’t give a shit if my mom answers her phone when we’re eating out, for example).
But, when you’re on a DATE with someone — an actual romantic date (especially with someone new), leave your fucking crackberry at home (or, I dunno, turn it off or put it on silent). Have a little fucking respect. But, if you HAVE to, I agree with bullet: go to the “washroom” to do it.
I also agree with DER. Some people NEED them (I have a friend who’s a doctor and if she had a blackberry I certainly wouldn’t be pissy if she checked it when we’re hanging out since you know, she COULD be on call, although I think she uses a pager for that)…but it’s become all too common for every schmuck and their dog to have a fucking blackberry or iphone…esp in the younger university crowd. Every 20 year old bimbo I go to school with has a fucking smart phone….It hasn’t been that long, really, since I was 20 and I had a decently active social life and no I didn’t NEED a cell phone let alone a smart phone…although, I WILL admit that without the internet (gogo msn) I probably wouldn’t have half of the friend base I do…still.
There is a big difference between an emergency call and texting your friend about nothing. I have a cell and if I’m on a date it’s on vibrate and chances are I won’t even look at it. There is nothing that’s going on that requires my immediate attention. My Lord what did people do before Crackberries and cell phones.
As for people saying they have more friends because of technologies? I say get real. I love it when people have 100s or 1,000s on their Facebook, etc as friends. They might be aquaintances (if they’re even real) but chances are high you’ll never meet them.
Nope texting etc during social activities is just plain rude.
I have to say, I have a very short msn list and that’s my main method of comms with my friends….I hate the phone so all plans/chats/catching up is done on msn….so…I suppose my social circle would be quite different if there was no internet 😛
But my GOD, I’m not chained to my macbook…I don’t NEED to log onto msn or FB or even text when I’m away from my computer (i.e. out/in class/just chillin away from the comp)…damn. I don’t get why people feel the need to be SO available ALL the time. I kind of like it sometimes when people can’t reach me.
Maybe the email he’s reading is more interesting than the date he’s on…
I kinda agree with most… I mean, he should be in date mode. He ruined his own chances…. but really it was his choice and that’s how he’s going to be. Either he thought perhaps he was missing something in the outside world or had a work mail or whatever come in…..
Just find some other guy who isn’t paying through the nose for a data packaged cell. Just don’t be surprised if he does this when you texted him in the first place to line up the date.
I used to be “addicted” of sorts to my BlackBerry but now I only use it at work or if i have to at home. Most times I leave it home when my GF and I go out unless she wants me to take it for some reason (usually to browse the internet on it or use the GPS). I rarely even check it at home anymore… if its extremely important… call me!