I am so sick of Bi’s. Do us lesbians all a favour and stick to your own kind. Here of just a few examples of your predictable and pathetic behaviour.
Telling us after we get to know you that your married then asking if we’d be interested in a threesome or at least having your husband watch. EAT SHIT AND DIE! No chance in fucking hell! Why Oh why is it that when a Bi is in a relationship with a man it’s automatically acceptable that she can sleep with other women?
Oh yeah I love this one, “I love women but when it comes to long term relationships I prefer it be with a man”. Ummm why’s that? Is it a financial security thing or just a plain old afraid to come out of the closet? Just stick with your own kind please! Oh what’s that? “It just doesn’t work because then the husbands gets all cock swinging over other guys watching their wives that your cut off from other married women” I see, so you have to lure us lesbians into your fucking game. Do us a favour and just keep sucking his cock. He’ll make sure you get that trip to the tropics every year and he’ll even let you fuck as many women as you like … just so long as he can watch. Have fun with that. Yeah, just not interested, and you gross me the fuck out!
—keepyourdiseases2yourself2
This article appears in Apr 9-15, 2009.
You sound like a lovely person.
This lady went to the wrong place for a pickup. She should have stuck to Kijiji or Craig’s List and spelled out her request so there would be no misunderstanding. I agree that it would certainly be a turnoff for you, OP. Having any guy watch the action would be a turn off for me as well.
Most of your post doesn’t even make any sense. I’m really trying though. Here’s what I’ve managed to parse out of it:
– We withhold the fact that we are bi/in a LTR with a man. That’s called lying, and it’s common to many different groups of people. I agree people should be upfront. But maybe if you don’t ask, people assume it doesn’t matter. Do you see where I am going with that.
– You don’t want to be in a threesome or have someone’s husband watch. Fine. Move the fuck on and stop screeching like a giant, judgey baby.
– If a man is in a relationship with a bi woman, she’ll always get to sleep with other women, but the man won’t. Yeah, that’s probably common. But if the man doesn’t like it, he’s free to move on. He probably doesn’t need your sympathies. Especially if jerking off to his hot girlfriend and her fuck buddies is A-OK with him.
– Some bisexuals have preferences when it comes to who they’d like to fuck around with/have LTR with. This is bad, because the only reason a bisexual female would have this preference is for his money or because she is a self-hating secret lesbian. It’s hard for me to articulate why this makes me want to punch your face in so hard. Something to do with strict gender binaries you’d like to force on other people to make them fit into your little box. A box which conveniently contains someone you can control on a long term basis. Oh, and there’s nothing like calling into question someone’s sexual orientation to really get across that you respect them as a human being. I’m sure no one’s ever done that to you though.
– “It just doesn’t work because then the husbands gets all cock swinging over other guys watching their wives that your cut off from other married women”
I’m sorry, I have nothing on this one. I just KNOW it means something, but I’ve already been concentrating real hard and I’d like to save the rest of my brain cells to get through the evening.
– Anyone who claims to be bisexual is really a secret lesbian! And they just suck teh cock to get money! No, sorry honey. A bisexual is a bisexual, and a lesbian is a lesbian. Secret or otherwise.
Sticking to your own kind is great advice, maybe you should take it. Just round up all the other douchebags and you can go live in a colony somewhere away from the rest of us.
I’ve got fuck all to add to this commentary, not my area of expertise, plus reading Mole Rat’s extrapolation of a Bi’s lifestyle, makes me feel woefully inadequate to even pose a thought. Now if the topic was hermaphrodites, I might be able to pose a thought or two :p.Joke ppl, easy up already if you have the poison pens ready.
Soo you know men can be bisexual too right? Because you just seem to be hating on the ladies, which leads me to believe that bisexuality isn’t your real issue, here.
I think you missed the s there swampdonkey.
IssueS, she has issueS….
lots of them.
several….
a plethora in fact, just going by this post alone.
Mole Rat has it about spot on, it’s funny that a “alternate lifestyle” person is on here , excluding people based on their preferences, but probably walks and talks loudly in the pride parade for equal rights. Fucking dyke hypocrite. Go fuck yourself.
Dude… I’m a lesbian too, and this was really uncalled for. It sounds like you’re barking up the wrong tree women wise, because it doesn’t appear that girls are actually bisexual.
While I agree with most of the posts on here. I do see where the OP is coming from.
How often do you go to bars and see all these supposedly “Bi” girls grinding up on each other, and some even making out, but won’t lead to another. A lot actually do it for attention, which is the worst kind really, doing it for all the wrong reasons.
Some are genuinely Bi and actually enjoy it, and they have been bi since they were 14 or 13. I know a girl who has been bi since she was 11. She has met girls, been with girl, been with guys, but prefers to have a relationship with a guy than a girl. She explained that it was less of a headache.
On the other hand, I met some girls that were only bi when they felt it benefited them. Like getting them attention from supposedly hot guys, which are actually douche bags at the clubs! These girls were only bi for 2-3 years max.
There was a time, and still is, just not as much, when being a bi girl was the “IT” thing to be, the cool hip thing to do.
Kinda like getting the tattoo on the lower back. They no longer do that, so they have to fill the voids in their lives with something else to get that attention. The tattoos were overdone, so let’s start the bi trend. I met a girl who actually did it just to say she did it, before she got married, and got married a week later!
I think that’s what’s frustrating the OP.
I agree with your post Randomness, but painting ALL bi people with the same brush is uncalled for. The OP was obviously mislead and is pissed off about it, but man, get over it, shit happens. Some bi people aren’t as forthcoming when meeting people and maybe prefer to aire on the side of caution. Why do, from a lesbian perspective, they have to out themselves and face the same shit as the OP is spewing. I will agree, there are some idiots out there that are in it for the attention, but there are some people out there that aren’t out to cross a rigid lesbian, but are out to have good experiences. Running into people like the OP is the reason some of them don’t.
I agree with bullet, if I had a few shitty experiences with lesbians, I wouldn’t be all like “friggin lesbians and their devious ways.” It’s not like I’ve actually taken a survey or something. The OP came off to me as having an axe to grind with the concept and existence of bisexuality moreso than any specific experiences…it’s like what came first, the shitty attitude or the shitty experiences?
what i have to say OP is for someone who is a lesbian and i assume expects society to live and let live regarding your lifestyle, you seem extremely judgemental on the choices made by others.
people experiment in many different ways, and yes sometimes they end badly. however, i think insisting these people stay to there own kind is rather insulting and offensive.
OP does make a good point though. There’s a LOT of twinks in HRM who think they’re bi/gay or ‘claim’ to be bi/gay just because they “like to look” at members of the same sex.
It started years ago, but the trend (yes, for many its just a trend) was “its cool to be bi” or “its cool to experiment”. Experimenting with your sexuality is fine and expected, however, if you KNOW that you’re straight or gay OR you “prefer” one to the other – then be up front and honest with others and especially yourself.
If I were gay or lesbian and some twink strung me along or had me put up with their ridiculous surprises, I’d be upset too.
Saying, doing, and being are all entirely different things.
Alright ladies…
Bisexuals do exist. While there are some men and women who fall into the “bi now, gay later” category, there are legitimate bisexuals in existence. Typically bisexuals find different things attractive about different genders, but tend to be attracted to people rather than genitals.
Gay and lesbian people often find those who identify as bisexuals attractive because they more often exhibit stereotypical traits of heterosexual men and women. It is the fantasy of having what you can’t have. The only person who is responsible for any potential disappointment is the person who went into the situation thinking it might change after the initial contact. Bisexuals are typically, though not always, up front about who and what they are looking for in an intimate encounter. If this is not something you are prepared to accept, then don’t assume you can change that situation with enough time and effort. You can’t. You are who you are. No one should expect that to change, right? So why do you feel justified in expecting such a change from someone else?
Ah, the lesbosians always gotta be protestin’s somethin’. It’s in their DNA.
This one will soon be organizing a candlelit vigil outside of Venus Envy immediately preceeding the “Take Back the Dykes” march to City Hall, where she will make a small but important womyn’s film about the heteronormative pressures on lesbians that subject them to male hetero econo-sexual domestic-rape-slavery despite the advances of the womyn’s movement, all supported by a soundtrack of Sleater-Kinney, Land of Talk, the Vivian Girls, and Cat Power.
“I am so sick of Bi’s.”
I’m sick of flamers. I don’t care what you suck on, but why you seem to think everyone around you needs to know about it is beyond me.
I need a “I HAVE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE WITH WOMEN BUT NOT MEN AND ENJOY IT” t-shirt.
Did you even read the post or any other comments before you put up a completely irrelevant comment, JimmyDumbass?
all this talk of lesbians is fogging up the windows….
unfortunately, they make the trivecta of trouble:
1. painting all with the same brush
2. being judgmental when they are part of a minority that has been suppressed and is constantly fighting for people to be less judgmental.
3. include sentences that no-one can easily decipher.
all I can say is I’m glad your a lesbian. You’re some unfortunate woman’s problem now….
I am so glad to be out of that dating scene. I think I know what you mean OP. There were a lot of Bi’s to sift through when I was dating and many were not initially upfront about it. There does seem to be many Bi’s that are “Bi now and Gay later” as Matt stated. I think there are more gays in transition than there are true Bi’s. I know of two former Hetero relationships where the guy felt it was okay for his gf/wife to fool around with other women but not men and had hoped to watch and/or participate. Funny both of those situations the women ended up leaving the guy because she discovered her true self as being a lesbian. My brother happened to be one of those guys.
You have to make sure you make it clear in the beginning that you are not interested in Bi’s and they will leave you alone. It’s been my experience to not get mixed up with them too only because the ones in transition of figuring out who they really are can be a little messed up, that is until they get their lives in order.