I don’t care if it makes you feel old when I call you Sir or M’am. It’s what I was told to call people when I was younger to be courteous and polite. So don’t tell me how old it makes you feel or that your real name is Lester; I didn’t want to talk to you in the first place. Sir or M’am, I just wanted you to get the fuck out of my way so I could get into an elevator without smashing you with my gym bag… and sometimes I just want to thank you politely for putting my groceries into the bag, Sir or M’am.
I wasn’t putting you down, I was doing my best to show you respect. You don’t have to get upset or start a conversation about how you’re not a “military officer”. I know you’re not a military officer, you’re packing my fucking groceries. —Hey YOU
This article appears in Feb 24 – Mar 2, 2011.
People complaining about being treated with courtesy? Is it any wonder I’m on my way to full-blown hermitage. Keep doing what you’re doing OP. And grocery-boy, this army-brat cordially invites you to take a flying screw at the moon.
I agree with this bitch too. I also use ma’am and sir sometimes and more than once I’ve gotten “oh god, don’t call me that, it makes me feel so old”. Jesus, woman, what do you want me to call you?? I don’t mind getting called ma’am and I’m waaaay younger than you!
Though, I must admit that sometimes it rubs me the wrong way to be called “sweetie” or “darling” or “dear” by strangers – usually of the wait staff variety. Sometimes I can handle it, but it’s waaay overused and you feel like saying “excuse me *ma’am*, but you’ve never met me before and I’m not your sweetie”.
100% agree with this bitch and with ralmn! I hate being called “sweetie”, “hun”, “dear” by perfect strangers..
I once told a brittle,arrogant, passive agressive sales clerk “I don’t have antlers on my head and don’t recall ever seeing you bouncing on my dick, so “dear” just doesn’t cut it.” She may not have called me what she really wanted to, but she didn’t call me dear again.
Fuck sakes some people need to get bent. You COULD’VE been rude and referred to them as “hay you” or not even acknowledged them at all! OP, the subject of your bitch is a jerkface. Valid bitch imho.
I worked for the military a few years back and my 24 year old self was all “M’am? I’m not old!,” then one of the female officers (who was quite insistent in telling me this) said that being called “Miss” would be the same as calling a guy “Son” and that it’s derogatory when it comes down to it.
You should’ve said to the dumbass bitching at you “I can call you dickwad instead if you’d like!”
Next we’ll be hearing about a woman floor dropping a guy for holding the door open for her. I don’t see a problem with Sir or M’am.
Next time some woman comments about Ma’am making her feel old, simply reply: ‘That’s ’cause you are, Grandmaw.’
Everyday I am told “DONT CALL ME SIR, IM NOT OLD/IM NOT IN THE MILITARY”
Knights are referred to as sir, if you’ve done a knightly act or I just want to give you heaps of respect I’m going to say sir.
I once started saying sir to women but got a few really “YOURE SEXIST” remarks. duh, should have expected some of those. Though, I really liked when they would respond with a “you’re welcome m’am” and a smile.
I’m just not attached to the definite meaning of a word. If I feel like this word works, it will for me. If you wish m to stop I will, but it will confuse me.
if you ever said shit like that to me, you wouldn’t have a fucking tooth left in your head. who the fuck do you think you are? king or queen shit or something. if you ddn’t want to talk, then just keep your own fucking yap shut.
and lester, yeah, i gt that you are one ignorant little pig shit mother fucker. i think we all get that.so go get fucked asshole, from another lester.
As a Yorkshireman I miss it when you’re waited on, or deal with someone you know and they call you “love” – it has to be said in a proper accent though!
Sebastian just admitted he’s fine with being called ma’am.
I wonder if some Japanese people get bent out of shape if they use a higher form of honorific than they deem necessary?
NGF – just asking, but I’ve noticed that your posts of late related to Sebastian have a bit of a nasty edge, care to share with the class why that is?
My wife and I are in our late forties. Sir or Ma’am are fine with me and wife. My wife calls me fidiot. So I don’t mind Sir.
Hi, Basil. Seb asks for it. And this wasn’t nasty, you silly bear.
I agree with this bitch, as a relatively young person, I call older people “Sir” or “M’am” when I don’t know their names because I was raised to be polite like that. However, I find myself hesitating to do so usually after someone gets offended by the “It makes me feel old” bit. It’s always the people who are on the cusp of old age that get pissed off by it.
Well guess what? Relative to me, you ARE old. You are WAY older than me, you might as well be my grandparant. People who grow old kicking and screaming desperatly trying to look younger than they are and getting offended by being called “Sir” or “M’am” only end up looking older and more miserable.
You are getting old like every single other human being (after medical advances increased life expectancy) has done before you, it’s happened billions of times before, it’s really not that tragic and you are not the only one who has experienced it.
You should be grateful you get to live that long in the first place! If you were born a century or two earlier chances are you’d have most likely died as an infant or lived to maybe forty if you were extremely luckey. You get to live TWICE as long as your ancesters did! That’s nothing short of amazing as far as I’m concerned. Stop fighting it and enjoy it.
And none of that, “You’re still young you don’t know because you havn’t experienced the unending misery of aging” bullshit. Shut up, I can think of thousands of things worse than living a long life into old age and getting to see my children grow up and have children of their own. There are worse things in the world than wrinkles and liver spots. How about dying young for starters? That would suck balls. At least if you’re old there’s chance of dying peacfully in your sleep, but dying young is guarenteed to be something gross and unnatural like a death by car crash induced lacerations or blunt force trauma or, or, death by… laser beams…and robot ninjas.
Until we master human genetic engineering, nanotech med, mind uploading, and cloning, you’re just going to have to settle for growing old and wrinkly and not being immortal. (BAAHHH the horror!)
Age gracefully. Accept it. Embrace it. Be thankful for it. Get over it.
Or at least stop complaining about how rude todays youth is at the same time.
You do not have the right to call anyone anything you wish.
yes, but in polite society, it’s generally proper to call someone “sir” or “m’am,” fatima.
I love it when these n00bs come on here and make random/stupid one sentence comments and fail to explain themselves.
Though, a few dumbass regulars do the same thing too….so….I guess I expect too much.
well now, from reading some of the comments here, you can expect me to call you asshole the next time. how does that make you feel, useful now. well, now respect being a thing of the past, with the younger generation of today, we can all expect to be talked to, and treated like shit. and kiddies, that can come back and really bite you sometime. give a big fucking monste dude, that attitude you idiots have, and watch your lips get smashed.
oh boy, i would fucking pay to see that. just one more thing, if you are older, and don’t like being called sir, or ma’am, then don’t expect any sympathy from me or them. youth today, should have been aborted, before some of you were born. and drop all your holier thanm thou bullshit, you are just fucking hypocrites.
If I don’t have the right to call anyone anything then I cannot call fatima a ding dong and fatima is a ding-dong!
Short of slander and hate speech I do believe that technically we have the right to call anyone anything we want.
“Thank you, sir”
“I am SOOO suing you for libel!”
You know what, it could probably happen in the UK…
Sometimes I type something out, and realize no one cares, and backspace it all.
Sometimes I feel like if some others were to do the same it wouldn’t be the worst.
But I agree with fatima. I can not just walk around calling everyone fucktards because it’s “how we respect each other back home”. But I feel comfortable saying sir and m’am around here, as this is where I was raised and that is how I was raised.
Like I said, if there is a problem I won’t continue. It stops being respectful as soon as someone doesn’t want it, and so long as you tell me respectfully I will respectfully respect that you wish to be respected in another way.
Perhaps if we all wore name tags?
Mine would read “Stop Staring At My Man Teats, You Stupid Fuck!”
Aliar…you said it best. I respect others…and hope that if I called someone sir they would understand I’m being respectful..not rude and accept that. It may drive me crazy to be called sweetie and dear and hun by strangers…but I let it go out of respect that I know that they mean no harm or disrespect.
Ivan you’re so funny.
In the military, you learn how to say “Sir & Ma’am” with the inflection of an insult.
Too true Hugo. And in retail you learn to say Sir in such a way that the person instinctively knows that you are spelling it C-U-R.
Thanks RC. ♥ Glad you’re feeling better today.
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