To the creepy old men of the northend of dartmouth, I am a 17 year old girl and I’m sick of walking down the street and having 40 year old men stare at me and say “Hey.”. Like GO, what make you think I’m interested in you? Your old. And I hate when people like break their necks in their cars to turn around and look at you, like watch the road not me. I’m not even saying I think I’m hot I’m just really sick of it. So please stop. Thanks.
This article appears in Aug 7-13, 2008.
you know what I hate? when people sprinkle the word like all over their posts like some sort of seasoning…..also, sounds more like bragging than bitching to me. yeah, ooogling sucks. but it could be worse- they could be whistling.
I know a lot of girls that wish they got that sort of attention.Humans are given hormones, its natural for guys to perform our form of the mating dance. It’s beautiful in its way, like a male peacock spreading his tail to attract the female. I can smell it… love is in the air!
Gotta love those skanky tight clothes:) And see-through at times.. Check out the waterfront during the buskers. Full of them!
Thats why I love going to the waterfront Coyotex, for the scenary.
I hear ya. They even come from PEI and NB:) then they complain about the “bad” attention they’re getting.
40 oogling 17 is a little sick.
There was a teen working at my workplace a while ago. The older men there were always ogling her and making comments after she would leave the room. She wore skin tight clothes and heels that you would only see on hookers! She also onlly seemed to go into the lunch room at the time when all these older men would be around (they were there at the same time each day) and she would sit on the counter or flick her hair back in an over exaggerated motion. Made me sick to have to watch and hear the comments!
I bet the 17 year old was dressed like a skank about to head to the dome. Nothing more tasteless then a child dressed like a skank.If you don’t like people staring then wear a sweater.
Why assume she dresses like a skank? Because old guys only oogle girls if they’re dressed sluty? Not likely. I’ve been oogled while on my way to work (no make-up, dirty jeans) and while pregnant, and surely I’m not dressed like a skank on all of these occations (if ever)!All I can offer, OP, is that it gets less and less as the years go by…or maybe you just learn to ignore pervs as you get older????
I agree with Lori, I’ve actually seen some terrible men around here. Some seem like they’ve never seen women. At the same time, there are a lot of girls that really dress like something you’d see in a porn movie and they brag about it, yet they hate the attention, well stop asking for the attention.
Coyotex, that’s why God created porn,,, for losers like you that can’t get any the normal way…
Porn is good for everyone…..not just losers……(-;
Floyd, I think that is why god created prostitutes (for losers who can’t get any the normal way). Porn was created for impoverished losers who can’t afford to get any the prostitute way.
Good points Lori & Miles…But keep in mind, that my advice was for Coyotex, and I was going on the basis that even the skankiest crack-ho out there wouldn’t be desperate enough for my boy Coyo here…So I just skipped that step and suggested he go straight to the porn…
Miles holy fuck you almost made me pee my pants! Now does that include my brother inlaw for that comment? lmao
They say porn prevents unwanted pregnancy. But, “they” say a lot of things.
Back on topic… Most of these guys must think what they do affords them some anonymity because they’re just driving by, and has no impact because it’s so fleeting. But girls and women remember this stuff. It’s denigrating as hell, and it really doesn’t matter how you dress, it happens all the time. There’s always an asshole sneaking around somewhere waiting to pretend the world is a candy bowl for his passive-aggressive sexism, younger women are an easy target, and less likely to respond in the moment.I suggest the old standard “what the fuck, you old pervert? I’m 17!” very loudly, with a real emphasis on the last part. And write down plate numbers while they’re looking, or yell their plate number at them.
You may not be interested in them but they are interested in you. Ever hear the phrase “sugar daddy”? Might just beat the hell out of the typical backwards-ballcap pimply-faced 19 y-o types.
ok raise your hand if you’ve been to SOuth America…want oogling? check out that shit! seriously, Canada is so mild in comparison I don’t even notice it here!I dunno if it’s some sort of latin machismo, but guys down there whistle, do this hissing thing, snap their fingers, and yell things AS WELL as look. and while you can yell back (in fact it’s almost encouraged to let loose with a stream of english profanity if you’re white), it’s not recommended to do it to the guys with the machine guns- who could be military or you know, mall security.anyway what I’m saying here is that in the grand scheme of things, Canadian men are far far far more civilized about it all then most others. and if you are offended? I find a good hard eyeball on their crotch generally makes them scamper away- oogling back scares the hell out of them!
First this is leaning into the creepy old man territory, hell I am a 40 year old man and I find it creepy. But I must defend some men who say hey or hello or good morning to you when you pass by are simply being nice. Some of our generation was taught to do this when a woman of any age passed by or entered a room , like opening a door or letting them have a seat on a bus. So please don’t paint us all with the same brush.So the big question, when does admiring beauty become ogling. That is the question all people must ask themselves before looking at anyone, female or male.
Good Point Hedgy HogI use to live in Central America, and its incredible the difference. Almost every guy I knew down there would do this “Pssssssssssssst” thing to girls. “Hey beautiful”. It was an every day occurence there. I’ve never seen anything like it here. And speaking of which, it happened to me down there. I would hear “Psssssssssssssst” and “Hey Pretty eyes” from girls all the time. But thats the advantage of having blue eyes in Central America.
To address Anubus’s question, I think it becomes creepy when the girl feels creeped out. If you are paying more attention to the body than the person, you are probably being creepy. If you are paying attention to the person, you will know when they are feeling creeped out and you can politely back off. Most girls will take a compliment from a gentleman, but not a perv. Depending on the reaction you are getting from women, you should be able to tell which one you are. Apologies to the ladies if I am way off on this too.
I’m 24 and it has happened to me on several occasions– men, young and old, checking me out, whistling or hollering– and sometimes when I’m not even looking my best or wearing a low-cut top or something. I’m not even hot, just moderately attractive. It creeps me out sometimes (when it’s an old guy), but if it suddenly stopped happening, then I might think ‘Guess I’m getting old and unnattractive’. That would be depressing.
Coyotex: I know! It does seem that some of these men haven’t seen women. I mean I got whistled at one time and I was in my work-out clothes! I’m not even hot!