I’m feeling pretty darn used. Like a balled up piece of trash. I’m not new to the world of polyamory but I’ve never been treated quite like this. You decided to open up your relationship. YOU suggested me and your partner spend time together and when we did you became emotionally abusive. Casting threats and shade- after one date. I’m a human being with feelings and dealing with this emotional violence is not what I consented to. I’m not a play thing. I’ve been reading back over our text messages to get some kind of signal that I missed but I hit a real dead end. I was vulnerable and open. You folks lied and put yourself in a bad spot. But discounting my feelings just because you feel hurt is compassion-less living. And you should probably make that pretty clear before you “invite” people into that mess. —Not My Circus, Not My Monkeys
This article appears in Nov 2-8, 2017.
Were your eyes wide shut to begin with?”Open ” relationships were invented by men in order to have their cake and eat it too.
I dont think thats true. If it was… then there would be no such thing as open relationships in femme queer communities- which there is. and I think your comment is missing the entirety of this piece…intimacy does not give someone the right to be emotionally abusive.
Emotional violence? LOL. So dramatic. There is no such thing. If you’re subjecting yourself to a partner fucking you around, take some responsibility and leave the relationship.