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Re: “beater

Actually, no.

Comments on this thread actually seem sincere. Disagreements were for the most part handled with maturity. And if you're suggesting the original post is a fake then I think everyone can agree that it really doesn't matter. If it's a fake it's a fake, maybe someone in a similar situation will stumble across it. If it's not a fake then there's someone out there for sure who really needs to hear all of the great advice that was given.

kudos to Nanners, Bastard Fish, and Pretty Kitty for having the guts to apologize to Black and Blue and to each other. Not an easy thing to do. This topic, fake or not, deserves the level of maturity you guys have shown.

Posted by trey on 03/10/2009 at 2:19 AM

Re: “beater

For anyone who has been dogging on Black and Blue for:

being an idiot for not leaving
being at fault for not leaving
being a coward for not leaving...etc.

There are lots of reasons why women stay in abusive relationships. A lot of the time they are afraid that if they try to leave their abuser will get worse if they find out beforehand, come after them once they're gone, etc.

Black and Blue sounds like she's very concerned about having a place to stay, she didn't seem to know about the two safe houses in our region so lay off. She's not stupid for being reluctant to become homeless and perhaps even financially unstable if her boyfriend controls her income, like a lot of abusive partners do.

That said, Black and Blue, here's a great website based in Alberta, that helps women understand the legal implications of all different kinds of abuse. It outlines how to get out, how to get the police involved, and how to protect yourself with the law. It talks about assault charges and restraining orders as well.

http://www.violetnet.org/info/toc.htm
Again with what Todd said, wipe the computer history, don't let him know you're leaving.

This information will help you, but your first priority should be to get out, call one of the safe houses TTFN and Todd mentioned. Best of Luck!

Posted by trey on 03/10/2009 at 12:03 AM

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