Dick monsters

Dick monsters

You don’t have to be kind to aggressive randos just because they brought booze. Plus: Reaching the limit with intolerant parents.
Q I'm a queer girl living with a male partner.

Advice speed round

Dan answers some leftover questions from his talk with Esther Perel at Vancouver’s Orpheum Theatre last month.
I was honoured to appear with Esther Perel at the Orpheum Theatre in Vancouver, BC, a few weeks ago to discuss her new book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.

The Daddy files

Should a man consider letting his wife have two “Daddies”? Plus: A plenthora of other Daddy issues.
Q I'm a 40-year-old bi man. I've been with my 33-year-old bi wife for three years and married for one.

Degrading games

A handsome gay has a potentially ugly problem. Plus: What to do when your boyfriend’s dad is more than a bit of a creepy dude.
Q I am a pretty handsome gay (I have been told) and I am dating a gorgeous man. I am 34, and he is 31.

A bit of brief necking

A not-so-kinky dude is in an awkward situation. Plus: A woman fears her boyfriend needs saving from his Captain Underpants.
Q In a frank exchange early in our courtship, I told my girlfriend that I have no kinks.

Parental Controls

Dan Savage tackles teen boy behaviour and family affairs.
Q My only child is 16 years old. He was curious about sex from a very young age and very open with me, so his interest in sexual matters gave me ample opportunity to talk with him about safety and consent.

Poly wants

Dan dishes out advice on the polyamorous “relationship model.”
Q I'm a 25-year-old woman currently in a poly relationship with a married man roughly 20 years my senior.

’Bate and snitch

Is raunchy roommate behaviour wrong? Plus: Circle-jerking and buddy-bating: Dudes who do it together.
Q I'm a 22-year-old straight male dating a 23-year-old woman.

Quick hits

Dan visits San Fransisco and answers questions about serial first daters, bride-zilla, married life and cannabis lube.
I had a blast hosting Savage Lovecast Live at San Francisco's Palace of Fine Arts.

Character conundrums

Why can’t I accept my girlfriend’s revelation? Is my poly partner really happy with only me? Why am I awful to my husband?
Q I am a 35-year-old straight guy.

Girls and women and sex

Requesting required reading for my lesbian daughter. Plus: Is demisexuality real? (Spoiler: it is.)
Q My teenage daughter just came out to us as gay.

Foot-worship etiquette

Should I tell my roommates about my foot fetishist slave? And how? Plus: What should I do about my kinky kid?
Q I'm a lady considering taking on a foot fetishist as a slave.

Pining for the past

Less sex, more love this week, as lonely and broken hearts look for advice on how to get over someone (if they should).
Q My brother just broke up with his girlfriend for the second time in eight months.

Father figuring

How do I forgive my dad for blowing my family apart with a sex-worker scandal? Plus: There is no reason on earth to fuck a nazi.
Q A few years ago, my dad was busted by the cops for using an online forum to solicit escorts.

Quick hits

Get through summer’s waning days with a wide-ranging column touching on porn, dating sites and dick size.
Q I've been wondering: Since there are lesbians out there who occasionally crave cock, does the reverse also happen?

Commit to something

Perhaps your polyamourous BDSM relationship is not the right fit for you. Plus: Amending the Campsite Rule.
Q My boyfriend of eight months, K, and I are polyamourous.

Somebody else’s clothes

This week Dan advises men who like to dress up as women, and what to do about their wives, fathers and randos.
Q My wife has been seriously ill for three years, and I have been her sole caregiver.

Papas, don’t creep

Dan takes on a couple dads (and one stepdad) who are much too invested in their daughters’ sex lives.
Q I'm a reader in Kansas with two teenage daughters, 16 and 18.

How to come again

I married the best man I’ve ever dated, and now I can’t come? Plus: How can I help my teen friend deal with her skeezy co-star?
Q I'm a 35-year-old straight woman, recently married, and everything is great.

Clinical fantasies

What’s a medical student—with a medical fetish—to do? Plus: A bit of blowjob advice and sexting honestly.
Q I'm a gay medical student with a medical fetish, and I can't even open up to my therapist about this.

Is happiness possible...

...when way deep down you want different things sexually? Plus: I think my boyfriend is more into my cat than he is me.
Q I'm a 29-year-old straight woman facing a dilemma.

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No need for sex


No need for sex

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 28/15

I haven’t had sex in nine years and I don’t care. Am I asexual? Plus: Does my boyfriend’s love of thongs mean he’s gay? comments      0

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Vol 25, No 25
November 16, 2017

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