Slight Christmas

Family sucks but porn on Tumblr didn’t. Plus: Age is just a number, but a number not worth lying about.
Q Straight and married but not boring, and heading to my parents' house for our first family Christmas since my asshole MAGA brother "stumbled over" the Tumblr blog where the wife and I posted about our sexual adventures.

Cringe and purge

Urologist Ashley Winter talks penis problems. Plus: Being practical about anal-sex exploration.
Q I'm a 59-year-old man in good health.

Shake that moody

Thoughtful questions about the difference between “risky” manic bipolar sex and kink. Plus: Drag ≠ blackface.
QI'm a 30-year-old, Asian American, hetero-flexible cis woman.


When to tell your partner you’re thinking of escort work. Plus: “Do some women actually enjoy anal?”
Q I'm a recently divorced single mom and full-time student.

Bound and gagging

When browsing for bondage, education comes first and play partners come second. PLUS: Is “trying to be cool” worth it?
Q I've always wanted to tie girls up, but I can never convince a woman to let me. Lately, I've been exploring "bondage singles" sites online, but I'm totally new to this.

Is my normal abnormal?

Seeing his peers settling down and having kids, a kinky bi guy wonders if he’s broken. Plus: A brother’s rubber love.
Q I've been spending a lot of time lately thinking about myself and my sexuality and my romantic self.


How to help your vag bounce back from baby birthing Plus: Which is better for getting my kink fix: dating apps or an escort?
Q I'm a 40-year-old married straight woman.

Meow and forever

Amp Somers paws out advice on kitten kinks, queens and toms. Plus: Friends who abuse your boundaries are not friends
Q Hi, Dan: I am a homosexual young adult seeking advice about kitten play.

Jerkin’ Jacks

What to do when your employee shows up at your local Jacks club. Plus: How do I get used to my wife's budding bisexuality?
QI have a secret: For the past three months, I've been attending a local Jacks club (a men-only masturbation event).


Dan dishes the dirt on kid kinks and old virgins. Plus: Relax, nobody “just knows.”
Q I was involved with a straight man who enjoys cross-dressing and taking explicit photos.

Hearts and mindfulness

Can two people in a loving, committed, no-sex relationship restart their sex life?
Q Is it even possible for a couple that stopped having sex to start back up again?

Needs and deeds

The fine line between “carefully broaching” and “being vague” Plus: Cuckqueans and cuckolds
QI'm a 62-year-old woman.

Fresh starts

When really good head still can’t get you out of your head. Plus: Alternatives to telling your ex you’ve moved on via Instagram.
Q I am newly divorced and have started a relationship with a man I've known and deeply cared about for decades.

Gay and lonely

HuffPost reporter Michael Hobbes’ advice for the ugly and aged.Plus: The bad news: “You might not ever meet anyone.”
Q I am a gay man in my late 50s and have never been in a relationship.

Cuckolding fetish: Explained

“Cuckolding isn’t that hard to understand,” says Dan. Plus: Is following up on your rejection OK?
Q I'm a cis woman in my mid-40s, and my significant other has a cuckolding fetish.

Quick hits

Simple answers to complex questions—from no-strings BJs to introducing your boyfriend to your husband.
Q This woman has gone down on me (I'm a man) more than half a dozen times in the last three months.

Pickles & surrogates

Learning to enjoy intimacy instead of freaking out, even when there’s a teeny tiny bit of blood involved.
Q I'm in a pickle.

Secret perving

Wearing your ethics on your sleeve in the world of kink Plus: Girlfriend’s got a ’gram issue
Q I've been enjoying consensual nonmonogamy for the past two years, in part thanks to your column and podcast.

Après pill, the storm

When ditching the pill has you pining for pleasure. Plus: We’re all the same in our wedding present plight.
Q I'm a 27-year-old woman living on the east coast.

Reconcilable differences

How to fix a “straighty” partner, mental-health issues dragging a relationship down and stank-ass dick.
Q I'm gay and have been dating a guy for 10 months.

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Savage Love

No need for sex


No need for sex

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 28/15

I haven’t had sex in nine years and I don’t care. Am I asexual? Plus: Does my boyfriend’s love of thongs mean he’s gay? comments      0

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Vol 26, No 29
December 13, 2018

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