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Dick monsters

Dick monsters

You don’t have to be kind to aggressive randos just because they brought booze. Plus: Reaching the limit with intolerant parents.
Q I'm a queer girl living with a male partner.

By Dan Savage Apr 20, 2017

Character conundrums

Character conundrums

Why can’t I accept my girlfriend’s revelation? Is my poly partner really happy with only me? Why am I awful to my husband?
Q I am a 35-year-old straight guy.

By Dan Savage Sep 21, 2017

Girls and women and sex

Girls and women and sex

Requesting required reading for my lesbian daughter. Plus: Is demisexuality real? (Spoiler: it is.)
Q My teenage daughter just came out to us as gay.

Sep 14, 2017

Foot-worship etiquette

Foot-worship etiquette

Should I tell my roommates about my foot fetishist slave? And how? Plus: What should I do about my kinky kid?
Q I'm a lady considering taking on a foot fetishist as a slave.

By Dan Savage Sep 7, 2017

Pining for the past

Pining for the past

Less sex, more love this week, as lonely and broken hearts look for advice on how to get over someone (if they should).
Q My brother just broke up with his girlfriend for the second time in eight months.

By Dan Savage Aug 31, 2017

Father figuring

Father figuring

How do I forgive my dad for blowing my family apart with a sex-worker scandal? Plus: There is no reason on earth to fuck a nazi.
Q A few years ago, my dad was busted by the cops for using an online forum to solicit escorts.

By Dan Savage Aug 24, 2017

Quick hits

Quick hits

Get through summer’s waning days with a wide-ranging column touching on porn, dating sites and dick size.
Q I've been wondering: Since there are lesbians out there who occasionally crave cock, does the reverse also happen?

By Dan Savage Aug 17, 2017

Commit to something

Commit to something

Perhaps your polyamourous BDSM relationship is not the right fit for you. Plus: Amending the Campsite Rule.
Q My boyfriend of eight months, K, and I are polyamourous.

By Dan Savage Aug 10, 2017

Somebody else’s clothes

Somebody else’s clothes

This week Dan advises men who like to dress up as women, and what to do about their wives, fathers and randos.
Q My wife has been seriously ill for three years, and I have been her sole caregiver.

By Dan Savage Aug 3, 2017

Papas, don’t creep

Papas, don’t creep

Dan takes on a couple dads (and one stepdad) who are much too invested in their daughters’ sex lives.
Q I'm a reader in Kansas with two teenage daughters, 16 and 18.

By Dan Savage Jul 27, 2017

How to come again

How to come again

I married the best man I’ve ever dated, and now I can’t come? Plus: How can I help my teen friend deal with her skeezy co-star?
Q I'm a 35-year-old straight woman, recently married, and everything is great.

By Dan Savage Jul 20, 2017

Clinical fantasies

Clinical fantasies

What’s a medical student—with a medical fetish—to do? Plus: A bit of blowjob advice and sexting honestly.
Q I'm a gay medical student with a medical fetish, and I can't even open up to my therapist about this.

By Dan Savage Jul 13, 2017

Is happiness possible...

Is happiness possible...

...when way deep down you want different things sexually? Plus: I think my boyfriend is more into my cat than he is me.
Q I'm a 29-year-old straight woman facing a dilemma.

By Dan Savage Jul 6, 2017

Quick hits

Quick hits

Dan visits Chicago for a typically wide-ranging conversation, including these audience questions he didn’t have time to get to.
I had a great time at the live taping of the Savage Lovecast at Chicago's Music Box Theatre.

By Dan Savage Jun 29, 2017

The reluctant energizer

The reluctant energizer

The guy I’m into waited to tell me he’s poly—is he using me as new relationship energy for his own? Plus: The reluctant cuckold.
Q I am a 34-year-old straight woman.

By Dan Savage Jun 22, 2017

Virgin territory

Virgin territory

A whole host of difficulties has left me alone most of my life. How do I find someone now? Plus: My boyfriend does this one thing...
Q I'm almost 30 and I'm a virgin.

By Dan Savage Jun 15, 2017

Make love not porn

Make love not porn

A new site aims to open the porn loop to expand it beyond what straight, white men want. Plus: Pulling the trigger on leaving.
Q I hate how my boyfriend has sex with me. He is 40 years old.

By Dan Savage Jun 8, 2017

Looking for Mr. Not-Right-Now

Looking for Mr. Not-Right-Now

How do I use Grindr do make friends first, -with-benefits later? Plus: I’m a Slytherin and come off as intense.
Q I'm a middle-aged homo trying to figure out Grindr.

By Dan Savage Jun 1, 2017

An airless agreement

An airless agreement

Is there a legal document I can draw up with my partners who are into breath play in case of an accident? Plus: An apology.
Q I have two female sex partners who want to be breath-play dominated.

By Dan Savage May 25, 2017

Child-bearing excuses

Child-bearing excuses

It’s possible having a baby isn’t the problem with your wife’s orgasms. Plus: Should I tell my girlfriend I’m bisexual?
Q I'm a happily married man. My wife, who is 33, cannot orgasm through intercourse since we had our last child.

By Dan Savage May 18, 2017

Casually scared

Casually scared

I’m worried I wouldn’t be able to keep a casual relationship very chill. Plus: How do I get past my teenage trauma with oral sex?
Q My husband is nearly 20 years older than me, which was never an issue early in our relationship.

By Dan Savage May 11, 2017

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I haven’t had sex in nine years and I don’t care. Am I asexual? Plus: Does my boyfriend’s love of thongs mean he’s gay? comments      0

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