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Quick hits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 17/17

Get through summer’s waning days with a wide-ranging column touching on porn, dating sites and dick size. comments      0

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Commit to something

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 10/17

Perhaps your polyamourous BDSM relationship is not the right fit for you. Plus: Amending the Campsite Rule. comments      0

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Somebody else’s clothes

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 3/17

This week Dan advises men who like to dress up as women, and what to do about their wives, fathers and randos. comments      0

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Papas, don’t creep

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 27/17

Dan takes on a couple dads (and one stepdad) who are much too invested in their daughters’ sex lives. comments      0

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How to come again

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 20/17

I married the best man I’ve ever dated, and now I can’t come? Plus: How can I help my teen friend deal with her skeezy co-star? comments      0

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Clinical fantasies

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 13/17

What’s a medical student—with a medical fetish—to do? Plus: A bit of blowjob advice and sexting honestly. comments      0

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Is happiness possible...

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 6/17

...when way deep down you want different things sexually? Plus: I think my boyfriend is more into my cat than he is me. comments      0

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Quick hits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 29/17

Dan visits Chicago for a typically wide-ranging conversation, including these audience questions he didn’t have time to get to. comments      0

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The reluctant energizer

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 22/17

The guy I’m into waited to tell me he’s poly—is he using me as new relationship energy for his own? Plus: The reluctant cuckold. comments      0

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Virgin territory

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 15/17

A whole host of difficulties has left me alone most of my life. How do I find someone now? Plus: My boyfriend does this one thing... comments      0

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Make love not porn

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 8/17

A new site aims to open the porn loop to expand it beyond what straight, white men want. Plus: Pulling the trigger on leaving. comments      0

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Looking for Mr. Not-Right-Now

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 1/17

How do I use Grindr do make friends first, -with-benefits later? Plus: I’m a Slytherin and come off as intense. comments      0

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An airless agreement

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 25/17

Is there a legal document I can draw up with my partners who are into breath play in case of an accident? Plus: An apology. comments      0

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Child-bearing excuses

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 18/17

It’s possible having a baby isn’t the problem with your wife’s orgasms. Plus: Should I tell my girlfriend I’m bisexual? comments      0

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Casually scared

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 11/17

I’m worried I wouldn’t be able to keep a casual relationship very chill. Plus: How do I get past my teenage trauma with oral sex? comments      0

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Quick hits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 4/17

Dan answers some Savage Love Live leftovers less than live, here in print, better late than not at all. comments      0

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Is sexsomnia real?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 27/17

And could I have it? I’m scared of what I might end up doing. Plus: My wife wants to open up our marriage but I’m not sure. comments      0

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Hard limits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 13/17

Is our age difference going to get us in the end? Plus: Despite his desire for me, I think my boyfriend is secretly gay. comments      0

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It’s not your kink, it’s you

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 6/17

Tips for an overbearing Dominant lady. Plus: Don’t send brags in the form of a question, this isn’t Sex Jeopardy. comments      0

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A big little lie

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 30/17

My hookup could be more—except he lied about his HIV status. Plus: I’m hornier than my husband, what do I do about it? comments      0

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Quick hits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 23/17

Dan visits Toronto and answers some questions he couldn’t get to live in the room. comments      0

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World-wide kink

Mar 16/17

Is it my cultural bias that makes me think Islam and kink are incompatible? Plus: Kinky sex with my bf hurts my feelings now. comments      1

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Yeast inspection

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 9/17

Did I give my wife a yeast infection through oral sex? Plus: The adventures of a young gay man on his cumspringa. comments      0

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We’ve all got issues

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 2/17

“I can’t win,” declares man re: sex. Plus: I’m turned on thinking about my ex with her new boyfriend, should I pitch a three-way? comments      0

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Vocalize your fantasies

Feb 23/17

How do I ask my great, giving wife for new things in bed? Plus: There’s more than meets the foot to this pervy story. comments      0

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Isolated incidents

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 16/17

Advice for an asexual in Halifax and a Mormon lesbian living under her parents’ gay-hating thumb. comments      0

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Quick hits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 9/17

Dan visits a couple of colleges and answers a few questions he couldn’t get to—straight guilt, FMK, open marriages—here. comments      0

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International mailbag

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 2/17

Sex issues are the same no matter where you live, featuring cuckolding fantasies, dead relationships and bicuriosity. comments      0

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ITMFA!

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 26/17

A call to impeach the American president comes back around, 10 years later. Plus: Making piss play normal takes the fun out of it. comments      1

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A fetish or three

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 19/17

Dan tackles a few very particular and extreme fetishes, including ear sex, homelessness and suicide. comments      0

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Locked for laps

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 12/17

What should I tell the dancers if my junk is locked up? Plus: My straight boyfriend wants me to call him a gay slur. comments      0

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Just drinks

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 5/17

Keep it subtle when you’re hiring escorts and taking your cam-girlfriend to parties. Plus: Alternative places to meet people. comments      0

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Quick hits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 22/16

Dan digs into his Christmas Spectacular mailbag to pull out some of the things he couldn’t answer live. comments      0

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Slouching toward 2017

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 15/16

Searching for answers in a pre-Trump America, including tips on how to survive his presidency. comments      0

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Getting me back

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 8/16

If you’re just out of a bad relationship, here are some steps to getting back into the game of life. Plus: Dick pics. comments      0

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The diddler

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 1/16

My boyfriend thinks it’s fine to play with himself whenever he wants. Is he right? Plus: Sucking and squeezing. comments      2

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The vore you know

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 24/16

My boyfriend’s into vore—the fantasy of being eaten or eating another creature alive. How do I accomodate? Plus: Toy shopping! comments      0

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Mourning in America

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 17/16

What’s to be done now, in the face of president-elect Trump, and his documented hatred of nearly everyone? Fuck, and fight. comments      1

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What’s in a name

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 10/16

My poly primary doesn’t want me dating anyone else with her name. Is that fair? Plus: Should I settle for a just-OK guy? comments      0

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Wish me cuck

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 3/16

Dan dives into the world of cuckolding: Those who love it, those who want to and those who are scared of it ruining everything. comments      0

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Expecting too much

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 27/16

I want sex every night, but my wife is only offering one. I don’t like porn. Now what? Plus: Breaking up is not a conversation. comments      0

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Defining The Trump Talk

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 20/16

A reader suggests the conversation we have with our daughters about terrible men be dubbed The Trump Talk. comments      0

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Senior moments

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 13/16

Advice for the aged, including tips on how to find a younger woman, pleasing your porn-obsessed lady and cuddle buddies. comments      0

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Vulva culture

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 6/16

I can’t solve my recurring vulva problems! Plus: I’m a lady who loves biking but not crotch pain. Can you help? comments      0

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The one-time cheater

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 29/16

If you’re sure it was a mistake, maybe keep it to yourself. Plus: Is my boyfriend’s online behaviour racist? comments      0

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Ready to date, now what?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 22/16

Whether you’re a twentysomething teacher or closeted 64-year-old gay man, it’s totally possible! Dan shows you how. comments      0

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More Hands, fewer butts

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 15/16

Dan fields readers’ personal requests to porn stars and Instagram celebrities. comments      0

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Breast is best

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 8/16

Is letting guys pay for my breast milk technically sex work? Plus: My husband uses porn even though our sex life is great. comments      0

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Support your sex worker

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 1/16

What you can do—namely, say something—to help sex workers fight unfair laws and stigma. Plus: Parenting advice. comments      0

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Feelings vs self-respect

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 25/16

Dan’s final fill-in (call him Daniel Savage) tackles inexperience, strap-on purchasing etiquette and handjob fetishes. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 18/16

Another round of queries answered by Not That Dan, including boring relationship sex, gay porn and STIs. comments      0

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Love and basketball

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 11/16

A different, sportier Dan Savage takes on this week's queries, which include open relationships, sex frequency and UTIs. comments      0

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Pokémon no

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 4/16

Your husband isn’t just obsessed with a game, he wants out. Plus: On the topic of sneaky facials, the consensus is “uncool.” comments      1

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Interabang

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 28/16

I’m an intersex female—is it uncool to keep that a secret from my new love interest? Plus: A musical tribute to GGG. comments      0

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For the love of Pete

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 21/16

A series of “Peter”s this week, featuring Peter the Liar, Peter Who Misses Dick and Peter Who Saw A Friend’s BF on a Hookup Site. comments      0

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Settling down, settling for

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 14/16

They go hand in hand in matters of the heart (never forget, passion is fleeting). Plus: Blowing two loads into one condom comments      0

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Scenes from a marriage

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 7/16

Were the last 17 years too good to be true? Plus: Is it creepy to swipe right on a guy I hooked up with three months ago? comments      0

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Little white lies

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 30/16

Is it offensive to lesbians to lie about being one to shut down a man? Plus: Do I violate my marriage’s “don’t ask, don’t tell” rule? comments      0

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Puppy playtime

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 23/16

Is it cool for my co-worker to ask me to call him by his puppy-play name? Plus: Dan on Orlando: “Get out there and fight.” comments      0

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Diaper safety

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 16/16

Is my new bf’s diaper thing a burgeoning kink? Plus: Defining a bi-classic and being a straight woman watching gay men. comments      0

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Dick dilemmas

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 9/16

Problems of the penile kind: Makeshift lube, doubling up on condoms and telling the wife about your humiliation fetish. comments      0

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Me and The Kid

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 2/16

Is my long casually sexual relationship with a younger man ruining his real relationship chances? Plus: Telling the sleazy truth. comments      0

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Playing identity cards

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 26/16

How do I refer to my abusive ex, who transitioned after our breakup? And how do I deal with my bf’s super-straight friends? comments      0

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Giving back to porn

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 19/16

Porn performers are notoriously underpaid—how can I donate? Plus: Creepy dads and poly husbands who can’t get any. comments      0

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A sexless life

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 12/16

As a 48-year-old father of three, did I sign up for a life without sex? Plus: Being a bi guy, and an “accidental” anal follow-up. comments      0

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Virgin territory

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 5/16

Variations on virginity, from “what’s wrong with me” to “what if I end up trapped?” Plus: Avoiding accidental anal. comments      0

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Our hookups, ourselves

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 28/16

Sex as a trans man may take different forms than you’re used to. Plus: Don’t ruin your friend’s marriage—they’re perfect together. comments      0

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Barf bag

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 21/16

Should I revisit my vomiting fetish with my husband? Plus: I’m in love with a long-distance hook-up who treats me terribly. comments      0

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Sweaty stuff

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 14/16

Is it cool to ask my hot, straight friend for his underwear? Plus: Sex secrets worth revealing and role-playing monsters. comments      0

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Risky role-play

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 7/16

How do I, as a Jewish woman, approach Nazi role-play with my German partner? Plus: Coming around on monogamy. comments      0

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Quick hits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 31/16

Dan visits the Jewish Community Centre in San Francisco and answers the best questions he couldn’t get to here. comments      0

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Fixations, oral and other

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 24/16

When your partner will only do one thing, can only get off via one thing and/or is obsessed with one thing, what do you do? comments      0

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Kinky problems

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 17/16

I’m in between boyfriends—how do I navigate finding anonymous kinky partners who don’t hate women? Plus: On safe words. comments      0

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Fantasy vs real life

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 10/16

My wife wants rough sex, but she was raped. How do I navigate her requests? Plus: Dealing with a manipulative boyfriend. comments      0

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Short and sweet

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 3/16

A reader insists some major editing needs to be deployed, so Dan responds in kind, four words at a time. (Until he can’t.) comments      0

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The meth of times

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 25/16

I accidentally learned my boyfriend might have a meth addiction in his past (or present?). Plus: What’s my kink called? comments      0

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Passing the sex test

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 18/16

Is my girlfriend’s cuckolding confession just her testing the kink waters in disguise? Plus: On racism and sexism. comments      0

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Second chances

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 11/16

I junked a great (and kinky!) relationship because the guy is an extrovert and I’m not. Mistake? Plus: I hate the smell of lube. comments      0

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Quick hits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 4/16

A snow-covered pile of succinct questions and answers, from open relationships to a language lesson. comments      0

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The sounding science

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 28/16

I want to put things in my husband’s urethra, is it safe? Plus: What should I do with this Photoshopped porn of my wife? comments      0

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Recycled toy story

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 21/16

What do I do with my clean-but-used, now-abandoned sex toys? Plus: A monogamous snowflake in search of same. comments      1

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Hotline bling

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 7/16

Why was I turned on when my sex partner took a phone call? Plus: Defining the “presome” and orgasm timing. comments      0

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Caged and confused

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 17/15

Need some advice re: locking up my husband’s genitals (kinda purple down there). Plus: Living for now, instead of maybe. comments      0

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Fantasy fears

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 17/15

How do I execute my partner’s forced sex fantasy so it’s safe and fun for both of us? Plus: Pubic groom and doom. comments      0

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Tips for being cashsexual

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 3/15

What are the positives, negatives, potential gains and losses surrounding casual sex work? Cashsexuals chime in. comments      0

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Airing it all out

posted by MIKE SAVAGE, Nov 26/15

Is it safe for me to air out my penis? Plus: Beginner butt stuff, and determining whether it’s OK to cheat. comments      0

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Cuckold cock-up

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 19/15

Your wife screwed up. To move on, you need to forgive her. Plus: Musicals can’t cure everything, but they cured one reader. comments      0

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Advice from Broadway

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 12/15

Dan enlists the help of his vinyl collection for this week’s pile of questions. Plus: Getting it wrong (it does happen!). comments      1

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No sex in any room

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 5/15

Dan hands the column over to readers for the official last word on miserable sexless marriages. comments      0

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He’s not an AIDS monster

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 29/15

Your husband cheated, but he doesn’t need to be jailed for HIV non-disclosure. Plus: Pot isn’t making your ex spread STDs. comments      0

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Happy underpants pervs

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 22/15

One night of Tinder and underwear sales does not a sleazebag make. Plus: Celibate husbands, please stop writing. comments      0

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Negative convulsions

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 15/15

I’ve got some internal spasms happening—what could they be? Plus: My masturbation fantasies are bumming me out. comments      0

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Ready to cheat

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 8/15

My boyfriend has pushed me into a sexless relationship. How can I warn him that infidelity is imminent? Plus: Butt stuff. comments      0

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Defining the boundaries

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 1/15

A mixed bag of people in various states of relationship—and various states of jerkdom—wondering what’s wrong, and right. comments      0

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I fell for my FWB

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 24/15

After a three-way with my roommate. Can you help me sort these complications? Plus: Should I worry about my bi wife cheating? comments      0

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Cheer up, sad mama

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 17/15

Your son can make his own lifestyle choices, but that doesn’t invalidate yours. Plus: Closeted men: common. Sexsomnia: rare. comments      0

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Tie me up, leave me be

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 10/15

Is it cool for me to hire a dominatrix for limited sexual acts? Plus: If I’m into trans women, can I have love and kids? comments      0

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Kinky queries

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 3/15

I’m into very specific things and have zero experience with them. What’s the best approach? Plus: Talking to girls about foot stuff. comments      0

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Boys, boys, all type of boys

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 20/15

Dan’s on major jerk patrol this week, featuring a boy who thinks he’s a cuckold, one who won’t chill and another with no clue. comments      1

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Kinky romance

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 13/15

I’m kinky but I like a bit of wooing, too. Plus: Did my dad’s death make me gay? And finally, a caveat for last week. comments      0

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High on love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 6/15

My boyfriend only seems into me when he’s on weed. What do I do? Plus: Bad guys masquerading as good, and friends as wives. comments      0

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Girls and only girls

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 30/15

I’d like to host a girls-only sex party. Where do I begin, Dan? Plus: How to deal with mean girls and potentially gay boys. comments      0

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A mono-lithic problem

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 23/15

I think mono killed my sex drive forever. Plus: My wife just wants to hang out with kinky people, not sleep with them. Help? comments      0

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Quick hits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 16/15

A little bit of cuckolding, one snooping and judgmental mother plus tips on how to ex-proof your apartment/life. comments      0

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Solve my ex hex

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 9/15

My ex is a horrible, triggering person. But I want to get remarried. Can I avoid talking to her? Plus: Apologizing for past sins. comments      0

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A hair from the truth

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 2/15

I secretly tried to indulge a kink and came away from it hairless. How do I explain it to my boyfriend? Plus: Coming out too soon. comments      0

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Adult aversion

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 25/15

My girlfriend is repulsed by sex, among other issues. Should I marry her? Plus: Has my boyfriend dumped me? comments      0

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Training daze

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 18/15

My boyfriend really needs to retrain his sex drive—is this an unreasonable request? Plus: FWB becoming a “real” relationship. comments      0

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Shine a light

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 11/15

How do I come to terms with my negative feelings about gender identity? Plus: Where do I find a kind Dominant? comments      0

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Nobody likes this cheater

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 4/15

My cheating rep is following to the (lonely) ends of the earth. Should I continue to be upfront about it? comments      0

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No need for sex

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 28/15

I haven’t had sex in nine years and I don’t care. Am I asexual? Plus: Does my boyfriend’s love of thongs mean he’s gay? comments      0

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Behind scenes

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 21/15

My kid is into butt play. He’s pretty young, so how can I help? Plus: A follow-up from last week’s online dating query. comments      0

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Stuck in her ways

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 14/15

I feel like my wife and I are having sex at two different times. Plus: My boyfriend is concerned about my pleasure levels. comments      0

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Come on teacher

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 7/15

My old high-school teacher crush won’t leave me alone now. Is this a problem across the whole profession? Plus: Spanking! comments      0

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Generation gaps

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 30/15

“Age ain’t nothing but a number,” technically, but a notable gap can pose notable problems, as Dan can tell you. comments      0

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Virgin territory

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 23/15

What’s the most sensitive way to take my boyfriend’s virginity? Plus: My dominant mate can’t distinguish between life and play. comments      0

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Angry girls and diaper pals

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 16/15

My online love outed me—and my kink—to my new girlfriend. Plus: I want to be GGG for my man’s diaper fetish, but I just can’t. comments      0

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A few quick hits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 9/15

A kinkster goes vanilla, wonders what to tell his girlfriend. Plus: Foot fetishes, gay for pay and awkward bondage scenarios. comments      1

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Browser history lesson

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 2/15

Checking up on your husband’s porn habit: Bad idea. Plus: If something is off the table at the beginning, shall it ever be? comments      0

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Butts, bored, BDSM

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 26/15

Lots going on with straight-ish men, bi-ish girls and plain vanilla folks. Plus: Conflicted feelings from Dan. comments      0

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Cuckold comfort

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 19/15

I snagged a great girl and want her to engage in my cuckolding fantasies. But what if? Plus: Limits and an LTR. comments      1

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Nothing but the truth?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 12/15

Should I reveal my teenage May-December romance to my “first and only,” 20 years on? Plus: Dad found out I’m monogamish. comments      0

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A bit of brevity

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 5/15

Dan goes long off a seven-word question. Plus: I would rather cuddle than do it, do you think he’ll stick around? comments      0

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Quick sick hits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 26/15

An under-the-weather Savage keeps it light this week, featuring hopeless internet daters, angry readers and young gays. comments      2

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Elder care

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 19/15

How do I help my internet-unsavvy senior-aged father find sex? Plus: My girlfriend only wants it when she’s drunk. comments      0

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A most violent year

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 12/15

My teen is into sadistic porn. Should I be afraid he’ll hurt people? comments      0

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Long time coming

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 5/15

I’ve been sexually incompatible with my husband for 30 years. Is there hope? Plus: Getting back into it post-surgery. comments      0

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Toy stories

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 29/15

Should I have different toys for different orifices? Plus: Was my husband agreeing to multiple affairs or just the one? comments      0

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Vore vore vore

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 22/15

How do you like it? Plus: I’m a single lady in a small town. How do I find the swinging scene I know must exist? comments      0

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The porn hub

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 15/15

What do I do about a soon-to-be wife who thinks watching porn should be on the dunzo list? Plus: My formerly frigid husband is turned on by cam sites and it’s messing with our sex life. comments      0

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Tips for a good letter

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 8/15

Why some information is helpful. Plus: My girlfriend wants me to be specific, but I just like sex! And: frottage tips. comments      0

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Short short man

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 25/14

Short short man comments      0

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Quickie hits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 18/14

A lightning round of questions covering a range of topics: “one and done,” gift-giving, waning attraction, fetish clubs and more. comments      0

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Gender blender

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 11/14

Parsing the orientations, labels and pronouns of contemporary gender discussion. Plus: Is asexuality really a thing? comments      2

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An online outing

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 4/14

I was outed as a bisexual kinkster in a conservative place. How do I navigate my relationships now? Plus: Couples counselling. comments      0

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An online outing

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 27/14

I was outed as a bisexual kinkster in a conservative place. How do I navigate my relationships now? Plus: Couples counselling comments      0

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And the damage done

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 20/14

How dangerous is it to stick needles into my clitoris? Plus: My kinky boyfriend wants me to move in—what about his kid? comments      0

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Emotional intrusion

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 13/14

Emotional intrusion comments      0

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Make me get my belt

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 6/14

How do I satisfy my spanking fetish safely, with strangers? + My brother’s wife is hooking up with my wife, and I love it. comments      0

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The butt of it

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 30/14

We’re not sure how to deal with our teenage son’s masturbatory habits. Plus: I wanna keep my old girlfriend’s underwear. comments      0

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The butt of it

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 30/14

We’re not sure how to deal with our teenage son’s masturbatory habits. Plus: I wanna keep my old girlfriend’s underwear. comments      0

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But there’s a ring on it

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 23/14

Should I wear my wedding ring when looking for hookups? (We’re monogamish.) Plus: Navigating a rape fantasy. comments      0

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I just want us to be alone together

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 16/14

My previously open relationship has drifted closed, and I like it that way, but he doesn’t. How do I tell him? comments      0

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The nice guy and the freak

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 9/14

I want somebody to love me and order me around, does she exist? Plus: Should I tell my doctor about my bisexuality? comments      0

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Sounding off

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 2/14

Addressing medical concerns of men who like to put things in their urethras. Plus: Dealing with a virginity fetish comments      0

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Pan labyrinth

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 25/14

I’m pan-curious and moving to a new city, how do I integrate? Plus: I’m jealous of my wife’s actions in our open marriage. comments      1

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Unicorn discovered

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 18/14

Bisexual unicorn lady reveals self, pictures to bring estimated $1 million. Plus: I’m into dudes with cochlear implants. comments      0

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Quick and dirty

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 11/14

My husband will be turned on if I cheat on him. Is there an app to help me find someone? Plus: Are circumcised guys less sensitive? comments      1

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The whole picture

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 4/14

My wife says looking at porn is the same as being a sexual predator. Plus: How safe is bondage for pregnant ladies? comments      0

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The ball room

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 28/14

My boyfriend has some testicular proclivities. How do I deal? Plus: My husband’s dominatrix is our friend. Should we still pay? comments      0

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Keep me from objectifying

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 21/14

I think trans girls are cute, does that make me insensitive? Plus: My mother-in-law thinks I’m gay but we’re poly. Now what? comments      0

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Feeler of the pack

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 14/14

Navigating the waters (hurt feelings) of puppy play. Plus: I made my boyfriend’s fantasy come true and he is pissed? comments      0

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Hey You Guys

posted by PAUL HAMMOND, Aug 14/14

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Where hubby won’t go

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 7/14

We’re talkin’ downtown! Is it cool for me to get oral elsewhere if my husband refuses to accomodate? Plus: A girl and her pillow. comments      0

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How open should I be?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 31/14

I’m an open relationship. When do I tell prospective girlfriends? Plus: My sex life is boring but working, is this a good or a bad thing? comments      0

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Online and accountable

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 24/14

My boyfriend is awesome but flirts all over the internet: How do I deal? Plus: My one-night stand is up for a job with my company. comments      0

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Grease is the word

Jul 17/14

When baby oil just won’t cut it---staying shiny in zentai suits, getting over pet jealousy and how to deal with your drunk cock-grabbing friend. comments      0

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The dominant one

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 10/14

My dom client became my boyfriend and now he’s a jealous wreck. What should I do? Plus: My girlfriend read my journal, now what? comments      0

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Something about unicorns

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 3/14

A unicorn is a bisexual lady open to sleeping with both members of a straight couple. Is she real? Where do I find her? comments      0

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You and your cousin

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 26/14

I’m elderly, sexually active and into my cousin. We’d like to bring a third into this whole thing. Thoughts? Plus: Unexpected swinger pregnancy. comments      0

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Where are my poly people?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 19/14

Should I be out and proud as a polyamourous person, or just keep quiet? Plus: The good and bad effects of hashtag activism. comments      0

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The 18-year-old virgin

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 12/14

Don’t fret, your classmates are merely cropping out the sadness. Plus: Can dudes sell their underwear online, and is my girlfriend gay? comments      0

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The 18-year-old virgin

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 12/14

Don’t fret, your classmates are merely cropping out the sadness. Plus: Can dudes sell their underwear online, and is my girlfriend gay? comments      0

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Wrong numbers and sex work

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 5/14

I’m getting explicit messages meant for a sex worker. How do I deal? Plus: Doing it in the butt, and sleeping with a younger guy. comments      0

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Wrong numbers and sex work

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 5/14

I’m getting explicit messages meant for a sex worker. How do I deal? Plus: Doing it in the butt, and sleeping with a younger guy. comments      0

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Straight man, gay thoughts

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 29/14

I saw a penis I’m interested in. How gay am I? Plus: Throwing off the shackles of your oppressive parents and devising sex systems. comments      0

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A hole new world

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 22/14

I’m a man who wants to sit down to pee, like a woman. What are my options? Plus: Looking for advice on diaper play. comments      0

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Drunk and (Miss) disorderly

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 15/14

A drunk girl wouldn’t leave me alone, but is that my austistic fault? Plus: I think my meds make me kinky. Should I stop taking them? comments      0

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A quick hit parade

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 8/14

Dan riffs on the complications of FWB relationships, long-distance boyfriends, prison relations and what to expect on your birthday. comments      0

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Bisexual or hobbyist?

May 1/14

I’m not sure if I am a true bisexual---what do you think, Dan? Plus: Navigating the waters of a sometimes-open long-distance relationship. comments      0

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Looking into the camera

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 24/14

My son’s recreation money comes from camming---how worried should I be? Plus: How safe is the underwear-selling market? comments      0

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Goodbye to Mr. Jealousy

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 17/14

My boyfriend has an accusatory streak, what should I do? Plus: A polyamourous pickle and a maybe-gay guy. comments      0

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Sex work and my sexless marriage

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 10/14

My awesome wife and I no longer have sex. Do I tell her that I’ve been paying for it? Plus: Breakups and rebounds, secrets and lies. comments      0

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Negotiating the terms

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 3/14

After some intimacy I found out my boyfriend is trans. I don’t know how to feel. Plus: Navigating the paramaters of a three-way. comments      0

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A Savage lightning round

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 27/14

Feel like you’re in a college auditorium with Dan’s bonus Savage Love Live answers, both wide-ranging and insightful. comments      0

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You shouldn’t catch even one

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 20/14

My son’s Pokémon fetish weirds my liberal ass out. Plus: My terrible mother thinks she’s the reason for my successful marriage. What do I do? comments      0

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Her cheating (on my dying) heart

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 13/14

I’m terminal, and my wife cheated. Is it worth it to get a divorce? Plus: How do I delicately go about outsourcing my kinks? comments      0

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A tale from the toilet

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 6/14

That body of yours has some nerve crosstalk happening, girl. Plus: Why won’t my boyfriend let me watch him pee? comments      0

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Lonely boys hearts club

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 27/14

I’m an OK dude---why can’t I meet a girl? Plus: I have a boyfriend but long for ladies, and how do I find a kinky person without being a creep? comments      0

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Go for the cuckold

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 20/14

Why do I find being a cuckold so hot? Should I sleep with my ex’s cute friend? Plus some thoughts on deep-throating. comments      0

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The boy feels strange

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 13/14

I’m just a pansexual girl, standing in front of a religious boy, asking him to lighten up. Plus advice, via Louis C.K., for the schmoes out there. comments      0

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Cleaning up the toy box

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 6/14

Keeping them sex toys up to snuff, flipping a coin on marriage---maybe try another way?---and soliciting advice for a shy boy. comments      0

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Word is bondage

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 30/14

A column’s worth of BDSM conundrums: How to ease in, how to manage your partner’s dom budget and what to do when you don’t like it. comments      0

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The hurt locker

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 23/14

I’ve been to a doctor but sex is still painful---now what? Plus: How do I save my sexless marriage with the best guy I’ve ever known? comments      0

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Mother or lover, choose one

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 16/14

This guy won’t have sex with the mother of his children because of respect? Or something? Plus gay nephews and three-ways. comments      2

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Coming to new terms

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 9/14

My friend freaked out when I called her “transgendered”---what’s the alternative? Plus: Unrequited love and relationships. comments      0

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Why won’t my man propose?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 26/13

Because you are too busy following Miss Manners to the letter and not taking control of your own life, is why. Plus: Potential asexuals. comments      0

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An educational reprint

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 19/13

Because it never hurts to brush up on the fundamentals, Dan’s holiday gift to you is an essential guide to the clitoris. comments      0

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Sadface about sad-sack sex

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 12/13

My boyfriend only wants to have sex with me when I’m on the floor crying. What should I do? Plus: Adding polyamoury to the acronym. comments      1

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A need to know basis

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 5/13

Should I tell my boyfriend about a tiny indiscretion? (Define “tiny.”) Plus: I wanna hook up with my boss’s hot young son. comments      0

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Depressing reset

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 28/13

Was I wrong to break up with my depressed girlfriend? (Featuring guest advice from Rob Delaney!) Plus: Diaper fetishes. comments      0

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Bridging the intimacy gap

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 21/13

I respect my girlfriend’s virginity, but I need something. Help! Plus: Navigating three-way and cuckolding fantasies. comments      0

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Don’t slut-shame yourself

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 14/13

You do you, girl. Also: How do I ask my friend for my stolen sex toys back, and am I a jerk for being a dude who impersonates lesbians online? comments      0

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Aging gracefully into BDSM

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 7/13

How do I convince my vanilla ex to get into my kinks? (PS We’re seniors.) Plus: I want a kid but my husband thinks it will ruin our exciting life. comments      0

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Divulging sibling secrets

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 31/13

I’m worried about my sister, who doesn’t know I know she is HIV positive. How do I talk to her? Plus: How should I spring a third on my husband? comments      0

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Turn on the initiation station

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 24/13

Confusing asides and lotion application are not the most obvious ways to tell your partner you want to do it. comments      0

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Acting out to force a break-up

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 17/13

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Savage comes
 to Halifax

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 10/13

A selection of queries and responses pulled from the two-hour 
conversation hosted by Dan last week at the Spatz Theatre. comments      0

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After the moment passes

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 3/13

What happens when the fetish window closes? How do I re-broach a subject? Plus: My co-worker crush has invigourated my marriage. Uh oh? comments      0

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Don’t be a dating snob

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 19/13

Or a life snob, for that matter---humanity will be better off for it. Plus: Should I worry my girlfriend doesn’t have a clit? comments      0

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On either side of the wall

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 12/13

Talkin’ neighbourly sex etiquette. Plus: Does my recent ex slash current gf know I slept with someone else during the breakup? comments      0

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Stars hollow: a sheath primer

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 12/13

How to upgrade your boyfriend’s average-size boner without making him cry and why you shouldn’t put your kinks in a corner. comments      1

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A run of quickies

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 5/13

A column full of down and dirty quick hits about three-ways, bondage, foot fetishes and jerks of varying quality. comments      1

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An assertive woman

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 29/13

My confidence in bed is a turnoff to dudes, I think. Whan can I do? Plus: How to deal with my boyfriend, the walk-by boob-groper? comments      2

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Oh wow, he’s a big kid now

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 22/13

My teenager is peeing in pull-ups. How do I deal with this potential fetish development? Plus: Finding love when you’re down a couple fingers. comments      0

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Locked in a paradox box

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 15/13

Guest advisors take on a self-proclaimed lesbian with a male intruder fantasy, and a young man with an abusive girlfriend comments      0

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Accidental parental woes

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 8/13

I’m suddenly the young guardian of a teenager with a douchebag boyfriend. What do I do? Plus: Disturbing dreams of sexual abuse. comments      1

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Swaddle with caution

Aug 1/13

I’m into a guy who says he’s into “everything.” Do you think that means diapers? Plus: An older, sexually inactive woman fends off young dudes. comments      0

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Boys on the side

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 25/13

Otherwise good relationships marred by bad or non-existent sex: Is it fair to stray? Plus bonus advice from a reader to a reader. comments      0

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Unprotected and worried

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 18/13

“A new sex friend who’ll have unprotected sex with you has probably had unprotected sex with other sex friends,” and other points of wisdom. comments      1

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Gasping for advice

Jul 11/13

My girlfriend wants me to choke her during sex, but I’m worried I’ll hurt her. What do I do? Plus: How should I hit on my bff’s married sister? comments      0

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Pandora’s box of gay porn probs

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 4/13

Lots of adult film shout-outs this week, plus threesomes, slutty phases, full disclosure issues and...“clam digging.” Read on if you dare. comments      0

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Down to lady business

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 27/13

Womanly queries abound this week with notes on libido, “missing” parts and bad OB/GYNs. With guest expert good doctor Leah Torres. comments      0

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Lying over the phone

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 20/13

I’ve got a really taboo kink and we’ve just involved a stranger. Is it dangerous? Plus: Should I feel guilty about my fetish for the disabled? comments      1

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Bi chicks pitching fits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 13/13

Plus dom disclosure policies, lots of partial nudity and Sophie’s choice: pot or my girlfriend? comments      0

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Same cuckold story

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 6/13

Cuckolding fantasies gone wrong, what’s the deal with sissy self-hypnosis videos and should I dump my cheating thieving husband? comments      0

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Amazing guys

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 30/13

On fantasies and fulfillment. comments      1

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All apologies

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 23/13

Is it worth righting a high school wrong, even (especially) online? Plus: I’m scared of telling my awesome new wife about my kinks. What now? comments      0

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Quick hits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 16/13

A lightning round of questions this week, hitting on cross-dressing, porn, butt plugs and drunk girls who make out with girls for the benefit of men. comments      0

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I don’t want to give up

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 9/13

My husband doesn’t work, doesn’t help and doesn’t want to have sex. Should I keep trying? Plus: conservative bisexuals! comments      0

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Tonic for a toxic affiliation

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 2/13

My high school sweetheart won’t date me anymore but says she may again. Should I stay or should I go? comments      0

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And now for some good news

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 25/13

After a rough week, Dan turns the column over to “people who don’t really have problems,” because we could all use a break. comments      0

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A hole lot of questions

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 18/13

What to do if you’re panicking about the potential medical disaster of an uncircumsized penis. Plus: Sex on pot and becoming dominant. comments      0

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Advice from a gay bishop

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 11/13

Dan hands it over to a religious expert for a gay man’s church-related conflict, then takes it back for a girl who’s bored in bed. comments      0

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Fantasies and motorcycles

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 4/13

It’s a mixed bag this week, from pegging to hot-dogging to cyber-lurking. All roads, it seems, lead to common sense. comments      0

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Buying my bro’s virginity loss

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 28/13

My brother has social axiety---is it cool for me to hire him a sex worker? Plus: I thought I only liked curvy girls, until this skinny one came along. comments      0

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Of gerbils and Gere

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 21/13

Get in the wayback playback machine so Dan can answer one of 1998’s most pressing questions: What’s the deal with gerbiling? comments      0

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An accidental fetish star

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 14/13

I think my film audition was for a fetish movie? Plus: HIV positive versus a positively bad attitude and an online love who may be racist. comments      0

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Lock, stock and one barrel

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 7/13

So you want to use a male chastity device, but aren’t sure how safe it is? Dan consults up experts from the medical and BDSM communities. comments      0

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Bros before bros in dresses

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 28/13

My buddy gets drunk and picks up men who look like women, but we stop him from going too far. What’s his deal? comments      1

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My sister, Bridezilla

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 21/13

My sister’s been engaged for two days and is already pulling power trips. What do I do? Plus: When honeymoons get distasteful. comments      1

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Parenting my (maybe) gay son

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 14/13

I think my son is gay but he hasn’t confirmed it: Should I demand he keep his bedroom door open when a boy is over? comments      1

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On cheating but with rules

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 7/13

Am I a cuckold or just bad at polyamoury? Plus: Dick tips, including how to last without exhausting your partner. comments      0

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All about addiction

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 31/13

Real and imagined: Dan talks to Dr. Marty Klein about the “sex addiction racket.” Plus porn problems and am I a CPOS? comments      0

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A cross-trust betrayed

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 24/13

A fellow cross-dresser sold me out to friends and family, how do I deal? Plus: The thing about virginity, and an appreciation of “Dear Abby.” comments      0

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All the toys in the land

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 17/13

Spice up your sex life with a variety of aids, but remember you need to work your way up to The Fucksaw. comments      0

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Gay panic, not necessary

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 10/13

I got high and hired a transsexual sex worker. Am I gay now? Plus: the politics and personalities of throuples. comments      0

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The politics of monogamish

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 27/12

My side guy won’t introduce me to his boyfriend, how should I feel? Plus tips for the mature lover and making an ass tunnel. comments      0

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A history of violence

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 20/12

An abused teen can’t shake off her sexually violent fantasies, and a brother just wants his brother to accept his kinky self. comments      0

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Butt for the flared base

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 13/12

Helpful anal tips, a confused bisexual and a reader’s four-point sexuality system make for a varied and variable advice column. comments      0

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Poly wants all the crackers

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 6/12

Dan gives his column over to polyamourous people who disagree with his assessment that poly is not a sexual orientation. comments      2

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Wanting for none of it

Nov 29/12

I am not interested in relationships and that’s OK by me. How do I explain it to other people (and should I)? Plus: Used sex-toy ettiquette. comments      0

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A swift kick to the senses

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 22/12

Is my old boss asking me to kick him in the groin a sexual thing? Also: Do I betray my poly beliefs for the girl I love? comments      0

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Gay-straight alliance

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 15/12

It’s worked to make the world better, so recognize it via Tumblr. Plus: A couple hits of the oral fixation variety. comments      0

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The campsite rule

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 8/12

Leave younger partners better than you found them, even if they bore you. Also: My vengeful ex is gonna blab about my pegging kink! comments      0

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On saline solutions

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 1/12

What’s the deal with saline testicles? What should I do with my jealousy when my cam customer pays for another screen? Plus: A good GGG time. comments      0

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The myth of pornography

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 25/12

Oh yeah, kids are watching it, but it’s not as bad as you think. (But you still need to conduct a talking-to, sorry Dad.) comments      3

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 18/12

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My boyfriend is anti-choice

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 11/12

What am I supposed to do about it? (Spoiler alert: Tell him you’re pregnant!) Plus: My teen is checking out kinky porn, how do I deal? comments      7

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The lightning round

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 4/12

Dan takes on some college kids asking about yeast infections, coming out at school and why hot people only go for assholes. comments      0

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The relevance marches on

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 27/12

Making a case for the annual Folsom Street Fair, and for an IBS sufferer to politely turn down anal play. comments      0

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Running out the clock

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 20/12

Semen on toast is the blowee’s call to make, getting ahead of yourself when giving head and maybe WTT should MYOB. comments      3

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Lessons in sexducation

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 13/12

Help the young women in your life stay banana-free in the least awkward way possible. Also, stinky feet, rest-stop blowies and the limits of GGG. comments      0

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The burning of men

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 6/12

“My girlfriend is a Burning Man person” and other starting points, including “Hookup apps” and “Weight loss sex-cess stories. comments      0

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Sexsomniacs anonymous

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 30/12

How am I supposed to stop things from going bump in the night? (Partial answer: penis flicking.) comments      0

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Two boys, one girl

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 23/12

Should I be mad that my exes are dating each other now? (I feel like yes.) Plus: My sex buddy won’t reciprocate my GGG approach. (No good.) comments      0

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A hole new world

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 16/12

When it comes to sexual orientation, don’t assume you’re straight but coming out as a butt-play enthusiast doesn’t make you gay, either. comments      0

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Stifler’s mom syndrome

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 9/12

Masturbate to your fist’s content but when it comes to real life MILFs and DILFs, keep your Tang and crackers inside your pants, says Dan. comments      0

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The wanking watchdog

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 2/12

Porn browser history: when to cache in and when to let it ride. Plus, how to deal with having a really really ridiculously good-looking boyfriend. comments      0

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Carnal condom control

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 26/12

Dressing up, giggling with joy, being open and sharing sexual responsibility is all part of the relationship deal, Dan says. comments      1

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Bad blowjob behaviour

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 19/12

Destructive criticism deserves a healthy dose of Tabasco justice, Savage Love wins again and fake letter apologies to devotees. comments      0

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Hopelessly devoted to you

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 12/12

Fetish-based betrayals are forgiveable, you’re always going to be unfullfilled and feel free to use sex like a tasty bag of Zesty Doritos, Dan says. comments      2

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Give your dick no choice

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 5/12

Cremasterlocks likes sperm-cell porridge that’s just right and if you have hard grip problems---cut your dick off, it will adapt, Dan says. comments      0

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Get real, get lucky

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 28/12

You gotta get out of the house to meet a guy, appreciate the fart-like moments of a relationship and buy some sex toys already, Dan says. comments      1

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Don’t ignore your own urges

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 21/12

Boobs, vibrators and the power politics of masturbation. Plus, check out a trans man’s t-shirt company for a good cause. comments      0

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Lovers in a digital time

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 14/12

A longish, thoughtful and well-written text message is now a legit way to dump someone, Dan says. comments      1

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Grin and bear it

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 7/12

The sexual MacGyver of bearskin rugs and why bringing the dick to your virginity-losing party makes you a manly man, no matter what. comments      0

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Sexual ambitions

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 31/12

Wannabe straight male escorts, the women who (might) want them and the Dan Savage oral report. comments      0

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The power of opting-in

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 24/12

Why not saying “no” doesn’t mean “yes,” and the best way to make a sexually active BFF comments      0

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Working overtime

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 17/12

The etiquette for office masturbation and how Fifty Shades of Grey is turning on women everywhere. comments      0

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Don’t be the worst

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 10/12

Your issues don’t absolve you from general toolery, dude. Plus: Tips for lesbian-identified bi ladies looking to bring a man in. comments      0

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Going balls out

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 3/12

Reader: I’m not gay but I want dudes to stomp on my testicles. Dan: The good news is you’re human. The rest is complicated. comments      0

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Defining the relationship

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 26/12

Everybody worries about DTR, but your first priority should be treating everybody like a human being. Plus: A sad order to DTMFA. comments      0

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A rear-eye view

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 19/12

Dan tells a couple of kids how to go about anal for the first time, and a university student about the uselessness of “desensitivity wipes.” comments      0

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The rudeness of nudeness

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 12/12

You need to ask before posting naked pics of your significant other, doye. Plus: What to do when your man wants to be the woman all the time. comments      0

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I can haz sex issues?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 5/12

What to do when your boyfriend loves your cat too much? Plus advice on extending your wang and being an occasional meth user (don’t). comments      0

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Straight gay teen talk

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 29/12

Dan on age-appropriate boyfriends, first boyfriends and wannabe boyfriends who are likely red flags. comments      0

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Coming out kinky

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 22/12

There are lots of ways to do it. Plus: Can you be the other gay man in a straight marriage, and some clean-up advice from a lady. comments      1

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Hotel sexin’: Towels or sheets?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 15/12

Which does the housecleaning staff prefer? Plus: How a straight man can turn down a gay man without being mean about it. comments      0

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Looking for your help

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 8/12

What to do with an amoral attraction? Plus: How to explain to one’s child that one is in a submissive---not abusive---relationship? comments      1

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Some rules are unbreakable

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 1/12

When engaging in a threesome, all parties must stick to the agreed-upon rules, OK? Don’t exploit your GGG partner. comments      0

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On bathroom business

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 23/12

Being GGG has its limits, and they’re on the toilet. Plus: How to get out from under your first love and what to do about that sexless marriage. comments      0

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Question bonanza

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 16/12

Dan heads to Alaska and gets hit with a barrage of queries about butts, marriage, threesomes and bisexuality. comments      0

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Welcome out, Chad (et al)

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 9/12

How to acknowledge your friend’s soft launch of his sexuality. Plus: Bisexual leanings and a maybe-fake hotel encounter. comments      0

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The conundrum of some, not all

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 2/12

Why, when I support his kinky activities, is my husband still hiding things from me? Plus: Dominance without degradation is possible. comments      0

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Butt for one thing

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 26/12

Cleanliness issues, virgin issues, Newt Gringrich’s monogamy issues: This week is all over the sex map. comments      1

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My teen is gay. Now what?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 19/12

A 13-year-old comes out. Now his parents need to make sure he’s safe. Plus: Don’t like my safe word? Deal with it. comments      0

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Santorum’s frothy return

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 12/12

The US senator may be a presidential hopeful now, but nine years ago he was in the news for something else entirely. comments      3

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Monogamish relationships work

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 5/12

Readers tell Dan about the successful swinging, three-ways and affairs that have helped their relationships, and continue to help. comments      4

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Get a dog, lady, not a boyfriend

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 22/11

Dan says it’s borderline abusive behaviour to guilt-trip your higher-libido guy about masturbation: especially by smelling his hands for lube. comments      0

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Feeling guilty for having a “kink”

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 15/11

Especially when a girlfriend’s ex-boyfriend used spanking as abusive behaviour not a kink: Dan advises how important consensuality is comments      0

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Two is better than one—or is it

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 8/11

Your husband is fine with you doinking an old flame? Great! EXCEPT all these other things. Plus: How “queer heterosexual” makes life harder. comments      3

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Some kinks are a “fetish too far”

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 1/11

You’ll find the “fetish too far” exclusion on the back of your GGG card, says Dan. Plus: Want to be called “gay” not “lesbian.” comments      1

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Don’t be subject to “batshittery”

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 24/11

Your brother and sister-in-law are bullies and you have to defend yourself, advises Dan. Plus: how to handle a feet-in-nylons fetish. comments      0

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Dan’s tips for first-time doms

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 17/11

Plus: What goes on during a sexual encounter involving BDSM has to be specifically and explicitly negotiated. comments      1

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Sexually happy after marriage

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 10/11

You are lucky, says Dan, given that you waited even for a kiss before exchanging rings. Plus: Let couples swing when they are really ready. comments      0

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Never contact a truly crazy ex

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 3/11

Dan’s advice to one gay man is to find a dominant, manly, bossy man with whom you are sexually compatible. comments      0

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No-flogging rule is a silly ban

Oct 27/11

Plus: Two same-sex couples renew marriage vows in a joint celebration of 10 happy years. Dan sends his belated congratulations. comments      0

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Ovulating makes me find you hot

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 20/11

Dan’s two cents on same-sex divorce, and how to avoid becoming a lifelong asshole. comments      0

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No sex pictures without consent

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 13/11

If you blow a guy, you can blow up at him for using his camera, says Dan. Plus: Not being out of the closet is a choice, but ultimately a difficult one. comments      0

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You will be able to have a sex life

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 6/11

Dan’s advice is that genital birth defects need not mean no sex for life. Plus: Mummification text seemed to be out of a “horror movie.” comments      0

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No orgasms does not equal broken

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 29/11

A multi-orgasmic woman is just as “normal” as an orgasmless one reports Dan’s expert. Plus, please donate in Jamey’s memory. comments      0

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Deeply creepy kink advice

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 22/11

Try not to go nuclear over it, says Dan: Stuff it down the memory hole and give dad the benefit of the doubt. comments      0

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No boners in front of parents

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 15/11

And it’s always better to err on the side of blowjobs, Dan says. comments      0

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Getting off while being the boss

Sep 8/11

Giving in to your egotistical, narcissist self and deriving sadistic pleasure from causing erotic chaos. comments      0

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Let’s talk about old people sex

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 1/11

And when it’s time to DTMFA, if he’s a lying, mouth-stuffing bully. comments      0

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Furry schmurry: “Bark at his bf”

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 25/11

Focus on the issues of power dynamics and sexual safety, especially when it comes to your son’s dog collar. comments      0

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Sorry, Rick Dees and Ricki Lake

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 18/11

“Removing santorum orally” is now called “ricking,” Dan Savage says. Plus: Your sister is a consenting adult too. comments      0

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Afraid to reveal sexuality…

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 11/11

Talking with other bi folks will help, says Dan. Plus: Get your kink cards on the table sooner rather than later. comments      0

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Vacation sex stories

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 4/11

Readers send in their dirtiest travelogues. Dan picks the best and says thanks for sharing. comments      0

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Will my fiance think I am sick?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 28/11

It maybe better to explain why you slept with a half-brother you weren’t raised with, says Dan. Plus: Cock rings now have their own Wiki page… comments      0

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Monogamish is OK for some

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 21/11

It’s your business what works for you and your partner, and you don’t need to explain it all to monogamous friends. Plus, neediness and fluids. comments      0

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Get the porn pics out of the house

Jul 14/11

They’re not something you want your Mom and Dad to find, advises Dan: There are better ways to come out to your parents. comments      1

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Marriage legal, not compulsory

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 7/11

Just because you can marry your same-sex partner now, it doesn’t mean you’re required to. comments      0

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Anxious about the kinky gear

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 30/11

But, advises Dan, there is one way to make your kinks less stressful for your boyfriend. comments      0

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Remove watch before fisting

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 23/11

(And that stretched-out black-hole-of-doom is a myth.) Also: Keep your face out of your dick pics, doc. comments      1

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Sneezing fetish? Mom’s worried

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 16/11

So, stop reading what she’s reading online, says Dan. At 14, it’s unlikely this kink will become all-consuming. comments      0

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Penis photo etiquette

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 9/11

They’re (almost) never welcome. Plus: Trans friends will make your transition, and getting laid, easier. comments      0

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Cheating shit, or leaving shit?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 2/11

What’s the moral option for a new father who’s no longer attracted to his wife? Plus, young hunks with erectile problems. comments      2

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Suck Dan’s dick, John Cummins

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 26/11

Then swallow his load, upload the video to the internet and be a hero to choicers everywhere. comments      0

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Suck Dan’s dick, John Cummins

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 19/11

Then swallow his load, upload the video to the internet and be a hero to choicers everywhere. comments      0

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Size may matter, but you’re still a jerk

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 19/11

There’s no way to ask a woman upfront about the size of her clit, and it’s not appropriate to mock your friend’s penis size, Dan says. comments      2

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Can I say STFU to the whiners?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 12/11

Well...says Dan...remember not all LGBT kids are doing as well as you so you should make a contibution. It doesn’t have to take over your life. comments      0

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Lose contact with crazy exes

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 5/11

Consensual sex doesn’t retroactively become rape because a relationship ends. It’s time to stop rehashing things with your ex. comments      1

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Needle play: It’s fair to ask her...

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 28/11

Check on the safety precautions and her blood and needle experiences with previous partners, advises Dan. comments      0

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Am I trying to be a sexual tourist?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 21/11

Help, Dan: I’m wrestling with my post-modern post-gender views. Is my hesitation the result of societal constraints? comments      1

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No sex: but don’t want a divorce

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 14/11

It’s time for some open and honest libido talk, says Dan, before being forced to cheat or walk away. comments      1

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Give a creep a pass: it’s safer

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 7/11

Plus: Dan answers a delicate sex etiquette question on the sensitive subject of aromas---and how to avoid guilt over it. comments      2

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OK to bail on orgy birthday

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 31/11

It's not impolite if you don't want to stick around for your friend's orgy birthday party, Dan says. comments      0

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Soldiers can be kinky, too

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 24/11

You can still get action without having to disclose your military plans, Dan says. Plus: The submissive plumber goes too far. comments      0

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Rent-boy etiquette lessons

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 17/11

A trio of threesome letters, on marriage, sex work and getting some on the side. comments      0

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Bringing up the dead fish issue

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 10/11

My new boyfriend is great, but how can I get him to enjoy sex more? Plus, cheaters from both sides. comments      0

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Moms seeking college guys

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 3/11

Craigslist 101 for wannabe Mrs. Robinsons, plus the rules of being GGG and Planned Parenthood’s future at risk. comments      0

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Could it get even bigger?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 24/11

It’s great that you’re enjoying your enlarged genitalia, Dan says, but it might be time to see the gynecologist. comments      0

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Don’t lesbian it into the ground

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 17/11

There’s no need to communicate your relationship to death if things are going great, Dan says. comments      0

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I won’t be ignored, Dan!

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 10/11

Even if I’m a verbose serial cheater and can’t get over a relationship from high school! comments      2

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Minimal sexual healing

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 3/11

What’s between asexual and sexual? A lot of unahppy people! Plus: What do I do when I’m a gay girl who’s not attracted to my gay girl friend? comments      1

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Speed dating too speedy for poly

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 27/11

You can save the polyamory discussion for after five minutes are up, but mention it before the next date. Plus: Is our age gap really the issue? comments      1

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Attraction is not a zero-sum game

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 20/11

Crushes are normal: not always because our current relationships are diseased. Still, says Dan, your crush might just be the one you really want. comments      2

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Ask your inner Dan Savage

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 13/11

What’s so “wonderful” about continually hurting the third party in your open relationship? comments      3

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Get his juices flowing into you

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 6/11

Porn habits that aren’t a problem, drama at the Renaissance Club, and keeping dom/sub dynamics out of the dishes. comments      0

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When a boyfriend is a “notboyfriend”

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 30/10

The “notboyfriend” won’t fuck my friend: It’s weird. Plus: Dan says sexual incompatability is inevitably a deal-breaker in time. comments      3

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Be happy Mom's found some love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 23/10

Sometimes an affair is the least worst option, so stay mum on the subject, says Dan. Plus: Cook up some Christmas cheer the Savage way. comments      0

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Wrestling with mud fetishes

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 16/10

Why isn’t my wife as excited about a tub full of clay as I am? Plus, tales from the misfit sex toy drawer. comments      0

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Scalp-picker picks up advice

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 9/10

“No girlfriend” will indulge my skin-flake fetish: But don’t lose hope over this “sixy extreme” need, says Dan. Plus: Odour no-no is OK. comments      2

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Is there a problem here?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 2/10

More patience, less letter-writing, says Dan to some; more breakups, more vibrators for others. comments      0

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Foot-fetish guy does not like sex

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 25/10

So...have it with someone else, says Dan. Plus: Guys today have been told hitting on a girl in a gym may seem like sexual harassment. comments      0

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Rounding up sexual identity

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 18/10

Am I still straight? Did my marriage end because I drink occasionally? Do I have to warn girls that my old roommate’s a douche? comments      0

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Questioning on campus

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 11/10

Dan takes questions, the valid and the stupid, from students at Oregon’s Pacific University. comments      0

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In-laws don’t need to know

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 4/10

You’re not obligated to tell your Bible-thumping in-laws about your menage-a-trois. Plus: Chastity device advice. comments      2

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Petty bitch, or is he an asshole?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 28/10

Plus: “He wants me to get raunchy with his come, but I freeze and can’t bring myself to do it. I don’t want our healthy sex life to stagnate.” comments      3

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You have no clit, not two clits

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 21/10

Fake letters, degradation and emotional abuse as a result of sexual abuse. comments      2

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Fear, hatred and “gay kids dying”

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 14/10

Plus: If he can’t be honest about his sexual orientation, and being cheated on is a dealbreaker for you, don’t marry him. comments      4

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Making it get better

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 7/10

Dan and hundreds of others reach out to bullied LGBT teenagers. Plus, wailing lovers and closed doors. comments      1

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Cuckolding-lite? A threesome tale

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 30/10

Plus: “Isolation; pain; despair and suicide.” Dan says help give gay teens hope. To adult gays: Share your stories and the joy you’ve found. comments      0

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Threesome tale should be told

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 23/10

Plus: Gay teens need to know it gets better, however bad life might be now. There is hope, and Dan has some great advice on what to do. comments      2

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Tampon play for straight men

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 16/10

Go ahead, though Tampax probably won’t go for the marketing idea. Plus, porn purity pledges for Mormons. comments      5

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Food for (sexy) thoughts

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 9/10

But when maple syrup is on the menu, the smell is another guy’s fetish. Plus: When you are---and when you’re not---a sexual predator. comments      2

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Like Superman, he wears tights

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 2/10

Where do I go from here? What’s a poopnoodle? And is everyone in the Republican Party a closeted homosexual? comments      0

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Your dog won’t give you herpes

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 26/10

Puppy-kiss paranoia, cream pie, newly lost virginity and why lesbians just don’t go for short straight men. comments      2

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Vaginotional penistration

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 19/10

If the way you’re getting off weirds you out, just come to terms with it; and Dan takes a bad speller to task. comments      1

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“No more than 10 times a day”

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 12/10

That’s Dan’s advice for horny male teens with a fist but no gal/guy. Plus: Vary the fist routine boys. It’ll help. And it’s “come” not “cum.” comments      0

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Porn stashes are not in the garage

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 5/10

And a vibrator in a woman’s nightstand is completely mainstream.Plus: Smile at him and give yourself the fuck away, already. comments      2

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Free pass for porn! For all!

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 29/10

Don’t get mad about men watching porn, get even. And, breathe life back into your open marriage. comments      2

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Had me at screwdriver fight

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 22/10

Hookers and sores, and the lack of whimsy in pedophilia. Also: Did Dan change your life? Write in to update him. comments      2

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Returned to sender

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 15/10

Damage control with sexy mail and instant messages to the boss, and more on monogamy. comments      0

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The prehistory of sex

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 8/10

Dan brings in an expert on paleolithic sexuality to help with present-day dilemmas. comments      1

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In bed with my father-in-law

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 1/10

The origins of my wife’s fantasies are worrying me. Plus: dating and grief, and fiances who make whiny kitten sounds in bed. comments      3

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Deal with your genital fear

Jun 24/10

To please yourself or your partner, you need to be comfortable with what’s below your waists. comments      0

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Ways to flip your off-switch on

Jun 17/10

Don’t put on your “game face” and go through the motions. Plus: Bust out your birth certificate, apologize and propose. comments      4

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Ex’s bullshit is sopping wet

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 10/10

Plus: Hubby’s humiliating behaviour may deserve the threat of divorce. And is the bottle of lube half-empty, or half-full? comments      1

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Sex-negative bullshit

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 3/10

Dan calls on us to stick up for a high-school coach “victimized by sexphobic morons.” Plus: Go and buy a wrestling mat. comments      4

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All quiet in the bedroom

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 27/10

Make your partner make some noise; when you can’t find someone to not commit to, and proper care of your caged-up man. comments      1

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Gay deception is Oscar-winning

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 20/10

Emotionally abusive “complete shit” parents deserve worse than being lied to. Plus: coping wth jokes from a lesbian friend. comments      1

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Seducing the gun-shy

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 13/10

How to get your neighbour into bed with you, more email hacking, and whatever else lifts your luggage. comments      2

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No dirty videos without consent

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 6/10

Secret filmmaker did a “super-vile” thing and should be told. Plus: “smug married” bullshitters can also end up in divorce court. comments      8

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Defective bullshit detectors

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 29/10

And when getting dressed for sex is fine, until you get bored and decide to get undressed for sex. Plus: revolted by one sex-menu option. comments      1

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Sex, lies and text msg dumping

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 22/10

Some kinds of farting may require a lot of genuine apologizing. Plus: When seeking absolution might not be the best idea. comments      4

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Too much too soon?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 15/10

If I’m GGG, why do my new man’s fantasies scare me? Plus, new ways for ladies to tell other ladies they like ladies, with taste and class. comments      3

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Don’t be doomed to lousy sex

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 8/10

There’s a difference between considering fantasies and judging them unfairly. Plus: how to get better at sex! comments      2

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The honesty 
policy

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 1/10

Always in effect, especially when it comes to your sex worker past, 
or present. Plus: guest-sex etiquette! comments      3

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Double toil and trouble

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 25/10

Two dudes, a pair of twins: everything comes in double this week. Plus: What if he won't be turned on by the regular kind later? comments      1

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Running on empty

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 18/10

A decade-old running shoe fetish is not the worst thing in the world. Plus: help a teen lesbian take her girlfriend to prom. comments      1

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In-flight safety tips

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 11/10

Not for airplane sex, but advice from the guy sitting next to Dan on a plane, on relationships, leather and watersports. comments      1

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Conservative Canada

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 4/10

Our politicians are fair game too. Plus: How often should I see my lover if my husband is terminal? comments      5

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No woman left behind

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 25/10

Whether you're in or out on the anal sex issue, there is a solution. Plus: statistical analysis! comments      3

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Flush with 
Advice

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 18/10

A pervy bathroom cleaner is still someone cleaning your bathroom. 
Plus: it’s time to reprogram your member! comments      0

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Ex, lies and videotape

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 11/10

Should I ask my wife's ex for their homemade porn? Plus, Savage Lovecast #178! comments      0

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Theoretical problems

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 4/10

What should you do if you’ve got taboo urges but don’t plan to act on them? Plus: Dan on the Pope’s self-flagellation and Lovecast #172. comments      1

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Three times the alarm

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 28/10

No matter what your three-way combo, remember that anything can be unlocked in the heat of the moment. Prepare thyself. Or, listen to the Savage Lovecast #171. comments      1

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Bidding for advice

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 21/10

A guest columnist---with Dan’s mentorship---advises on food issues, coin-tossing and plantonic friends while Dan apologizes. comments      0

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Advice on a walk-by

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 14/10

Do lots of research too. Also: tips for men on waxing, BDSM and douchebaggery. Plus, Savage LoveCast Episide #169 comments      1

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The fantasy-reality line

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 7/10

Know where it is, why it exists and why not to cross it. Plus: Why is the concept of traditional values just a heterosexual thing? Plus, Savage LoveCast #168. comments      2

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The tears of a prude

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 31/09

Your wife kissed a gay dude---dial back the divorce talk already! Also, Savage Lovecast #167 with Doctor Barak comments      1

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Spanks, sweat and stim

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 24/09

Merry frickin’ holidays, Halifax. Check yourself before you wreck yourself! Plus: Savage Love Cast #166 comments      0

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Carnal tunnel syndrome

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 17/09

Dan plays through the pain to advise dominants, bisexuals, polyamourists and peggers. Plus, Savage Lovecast #165 comments      0

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Transgression session

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 10/09

On foot fetishes, dares and honesty. Plus: Tiger Woods is just Bill Clinton on a different playing field. comments      0

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Cheated by the opposite of love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 3/09

A cheater is a cheater is a cheater. Plus: Levi Johnston is still young enough to be considered a twink. And: a new Savage Lovecast Episode comments      0

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I’ll just try it this one time

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 26/09

Mixing sexual preferences can be dicey, so make sure everyone knows where they stand (especially on accidental pregnancies!). comments      0

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The monogamy files

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 19/09

Rules differ from couple to couple, so keep an open mind. Plus: Savage LoveCast #161 comments      0

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Domination dynamics

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 12/09

Your husband might have bigger issues then the ones you’re worried about. Plus: Savage Lovecast #160 comments      0

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You gotta make the move

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 5/09

Bisexual girls in hetero relationships: this one’s for you. And: What do you do when your teen niece’s BF is obviously gay? Plus: Savage Lovecast #159! comments      3

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Questioning the validity

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 29/09

On the off-chance this letter is real, call the authorities. Also: a “normal” problem! Plus, lusten to Savage Love Postcast #158! comments      0

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Homemade isn’t always best

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 22/09

Parents: consider your options upon discovering your teen’s sex toys. Teens: buy the real thing! comments      5

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Overfeeding your desires

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 15/09

Can be hazaradous to your partner’s health. But that’s your department. Plus: zombie Zac Efron and Savage Love Podcast #156! comments      0

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Marry straight, then donate

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 8/09

Straight couples shouldn’t delay their weddings---there are lots of other ways to support gay marriage. Super plus Listen to the Savage Lovecast comments      0

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You need to know your place

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 1/09

We’re all consenting adults here. Plus: If you’re talking three-way, you should probably be all in. Double Plus: Savage Podcast #153. comments      2

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I’m not saying I did, but...

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 24/09

Plus: Party like it’s 2004---Santorum makes a comeback! Plus: Savage Podcast #153 comments      3

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Porn to Run

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 17/09

Insecure about your partner’s porn habit? Make it fun! Plus: Savage Podcast #152 comments      1

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The truth about asexuality

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 10/09

It’s just as confusing as all of the other ones.Plus: Savage Podcast #151 comments      12

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Equal opportunity pain

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 3/09

Maybe you shouldn’t have cheated, but considering the circumstances, it might have been the right move for everyone. comments      2

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We love Dan Savage

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 27/09

God probbably doesn't hate Dan Savage. Now stop worrying and carry on reading Savage Love like everyone else. Savage Lovecast #149 comments      1

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Welcome to Gaydom, boys

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 20/09

You older, wiser, experienced men have a duty to respect and educate the newbies. Savage Lovecast #148 comments      2

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The case for legalizing sex work

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 13/09

Remove the stigma, decrease potentially dangerous frustration. Savage Lovecast #147 comments      7

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Honesty is the best policy

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 6/09

Even when the internet is involved. comments      2

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Looking for a little confidence

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 30/09

Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all. Plus, the Savage Lovecast comments      0

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Be big about it, already

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 23/09

Don’t brag about your wang, tell your mom to butt out and quit your whining. Plus: Savage Love Podcast 144 comments      0

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Keeping church and sex separate

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 16/09

Note to Christians and people related to Christians, it’s a lot easier than you think! Plus: Lovecast #143! comments      0

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I'm going to France!

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 9/09

Or am I? Why would a cute French boy be so interested in an American girl, what with all those Gallic beauties surrounding him? Could he be socially leotarded? comments      3

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Being a selfish bitch is good!

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 2/09

You have to do what you want to get what you want in the sack---even if it means bringing in an ex for a tutorial. Plus: Savage Lovecast #141 comments      2

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Etiquette for threesomes

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 25/09

Dan Savage sorts through some golden rules and how to properly take time for condom changes in a threesome situation. PLUS: Savage Podcast #140! comments      0

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When old flames start looking good

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 18/09

For whatever reason you decided not to have a child with your man -- he wasn't right, you weren't ready, an old flame looks good -- the future of your relationship doesn't look good. comments      0

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Shit happens

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 11/09

Sex can be messy, and shit happens quite literally sometimes. Bonus: Listen to the Savage Lovecast! comments      2

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Say no to short-term engagements

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 4/09

The fact he brought up marriage only eight months into a relationship and you didn't laugh in his face automatically disqualifies you from marriage. comments      2

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Gay is like Cats, Heroin is like Twitter

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 28/09

Dan Savage says drug addiction isn’t like homosexuality­—he can’t quit whenever he wants. comments      1

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The barfly's wisdom

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 21/09

Word somehow got around the bar where Dan Savage retires to write his weekly column, and the assembled drunks insisted that they be allowed to share their hard-earned wisdom with you. comments      0

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Yes, open relationships can work

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 14/09

Dan Savage says tell your shrink to take a hike, forget his prejudices against nonmonogamous clients, open marriages can work comments      22

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Sons and daughters

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 7/09

Treat your gay son just like you'd treat your 14-year-old straight kid. Hover, scrutinize, interfere---all the crap that parents typically do when their children begin to date. comments      1

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Savage Love gets totally leotarded

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 30/09

Dan Savage gets upbraided for using the word "retarded" as an insult. He responds by mocking the physically gifted. comments      4

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An intense sense of romance

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 23/09

Dan says don’t blame the girls, buddy: You’re probably just an asshole. comments      2

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Lies & videotape

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 16/09

While it's normal to contemplate, even obsess about, something you know is wrong, secretly videotaping your roommate isn't just an asshole move, it's illegal. comments      0

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Deconsecrated grounds

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 9/09

So your son stole your glow in the dark crufix dildo, too? Don't worry, Dan Savage tells you how to embarrass the hell out of your kid. comments      0

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Safe hook-ups

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 2/09

George Weber's murder should not cloud the reality that every day hundreds of thousands of people find partners on the web. Still, Dan says, follow these few tips to stay safe. comments      0

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Fin fetish

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 26/09

Dan Savage says "withholding" info about a harmless fetish demonstrates a certain degree of emotional intelligence. comments      1

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Safe words

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 19/09

If you and your partner want to enact rape fantasies, make sure to lay down ground rules: safe words, written consent; even better, record the agreement, just so everyone knows the boundaries. comments      0

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Sperm shortage

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 12/09

Dan Savage says semen is not on his menu, 
but wishes you bon appetit. comments      0

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Asshole commentaries

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 5/09

A 60 year-old straight asshole reminds Dan Savage of a 20-year gay asshole. comments      0

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A hint of gay panic

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 26/09

Dan Savage says just because you enjoy the taste of his come, doesn't mean your boyfriend will. comments      0

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Savage Love: live on tour

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 19/09

Dan Savage travels to three universities and gives out advice live, on stage. comments      0

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Free spirited, my ass.

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 12/09

Don't come crying to Dan Savage when the man you married wants to swing. Especially when he said so before you said "I do." comments      0

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Smear tactics

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 5/09

Dan says you should always err on the side of not smearing your dick with shit that kills mice. comments      0

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Cold feet

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 29/09

Dan Savage says men wearing socks on their feet in a porn video isn't a mysterious tradition. comments      1

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Good vibrations

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 22/09

Dans says, stop being a douche, pick up the vibrator and ask the wife how to use it properly. comments      0

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Saddleback, part 2: the definitions

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 15/09

Dan publishes reader's definitions to the term Saddleback. Go vote on 'em. comments      0

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Dealing positively

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 8/09

Dan says if you ride the third rail, you're in for a shock. comments      0

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What's a saddleback?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 1/09

And how do you do it? Dan challenges you to define Stephen Colbert's mystery fetish. comments      0

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Savage Love

Dec 25/08

Dan Savage says DTMFA, everybody. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 18/08

Dan Savage says it’s not cheating if you’re broken up. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 11/08

Dan Savage says face-sitting and Cyrano de Bergerac go together. comments      0

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SHEESH, what a response!

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 4/08

Dan says folks mostly hated his advice to SHEESH last week. comments      0

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No means no

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 27/08

Role-playing rape when you can't say no is potentially rape, says Dan Savage. comments      0

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Prop 8 hate

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 20/08

Dan Savage says the numbers are on the good guy's side and they're working against the uberbigots. comments      0

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It all makes you gay

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 13/08

Dan gets payback from all the anxious straight boys out there. comments      0

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Puppy love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 6/08

Dan Savage says (once again) that bestiality is, well, "ick." comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 30/08

Dan says peeing in the tub, or in a bottle, is fine. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 23/08

Dan says don't trust a smoker. comments      0

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Dan Savage

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 9/08

Dan says staple that condom on next time. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 2/08

Dan Savage says pay up or shut up, Cake Fart Fetishist. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 25/08

Dan Savage feebly suggests "putting the dog in the bathtub." comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 18/08

Dan says shit is a known known. comments      0

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Dan Savage

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 11/08

Dan Savage says Bristol Palin can choose whatever her mom tells her to. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 4/08

Dan says love the one you're with...and others, if needed. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 28/08

Dan says they should show Bend over Boyfriend at all frathouses all the time. comments      0

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Dan Savage

Aug 21/08

Dan Says don't put up with your homophobic brother's bullshit. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 14/08

Dan says if you want to give, you must first be willing to receive. comments      1

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 7/08

This week's column: Dan says that even if a cure for HIV is discovered, we shouldn't just run out and stick our asses in the air. comments      0

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Dan Savage

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 31/08

Dan says the more unique the kink, the rarer the porn. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 24/08

Dan says campfire rules still apply, scumbag. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 17/08

Dan Savage says just go ahead and have sex, you dorks. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 10/08

Dan says not all exhibitionists are flashers. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jul 3/08

Dan says don't be jealous of fuckbots...yet. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 26/08

Dan salutes gay Boy Scouts everywhere. comments      0

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Savage Love

Jun 19/08

Dans says declining a marriage proposal can do lasting harm to a relationship comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 12/08

Dan says rules make threesomes a lot less stressful comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jun 5/08

Dan says dump her, no matter how far she's moved to be with you. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 29/08

Dan says if you don't talk, you might was well divorce now. comments      1

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 22/08

Dan says the disabled have needs, too. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 15/08

Ewww - don't call it manpussy! comments      0

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Not every old man is a creepy letch

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 8/08

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Don't gag him if you can't watch him

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 1/08

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Dan Savage tells DRAGON to wait for fuckbots.

Apr 24/08

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Dan Savage lets his mom show her stuff

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 17/08

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At a loss

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 10/08

comments      0

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Dan Savage says don’t give up on vanilla yet.

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Apr 3/08

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Dan Savage says read between the bullshit lines, readers.

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 27/08

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Dan Savage doesn’t know what to do about boobs.

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 20/08

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Coming out or staying in, readers ask Dan Savage

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 13/08

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Dan Savage says take only photos; leave only footprints.

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 6/08

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Dan Savage says wash the floor.

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 28/08

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Dan Savage says "get over it."

Feb 21/08

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Mushroom-headed dildo.

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 14/08

by Dan Savage comments      1

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Ask and you shall receive, grandma

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 7/08

says Dan Savage comments      0

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Giving it up to some guy...

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 31/08

...the column I mean, says Dan Savage. comments      0

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When it comes to Russian virgins...

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 17/08

... father knows worst. comments      1

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It's not that I don't care...

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 10/08

...it's that I'm stumped. comments      0

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Shut up LIMP

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Jan 3/08

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Launching into 2008

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 27/07

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Vanilla needs to be on the menu.

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 20/07

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Bros before hos

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 13/07

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Share the bacon...

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 6/07

... or don't. comments      0

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Shrunken junk?

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 29/07

Could be something big, says Dan Savage. comments      0

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The Xtube video

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 22/07

Dan Savage says we'll wanna see it. comments      0

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Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Nov 15/07

Is two company, three a crowd? Dan Savage (and Vicki) advise. comments      0

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"Playing straight"

Nov 8/07

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Nov 1/07

Dan Savage says it can be OK to feel ridiculous about your fetish. comments      0

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The Death Grip

Oct 25/07

Dan Savage advises against the "death grip" comments      4

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Oct 18/07

Dan Savage says it's safer to enjoy your kinks if you're shameless. comments      0

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Savage Love

Oct 11/07

Dan Savage says there's nothing kinkier than the kitchen floor. comments      0

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SAVAGE LOVE

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Oct 4/07

Make lemonade, says Dan Savage, from lemons of sexual insecurity comments      0

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SAVAGE LOVE

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 27/07

Dan Savage reveals the fear-factor tricks of the fakers. comments      0

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Sep 20/07

Who cares if people think you're a pervert, says Dan Savage. comments      0

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posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 13/07

Dan Savage explains a few customs south of the border. comments      0

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posted by DAN SAVAGE, Sep 6/07

Dan Savage explains how to deal with an awkward party find. comments      0

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posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 30/07

Dan Savage knows his shit. Literally. comments      0

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posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 23/07

Dan Savage discusses being GGG, for men, women and couches. comments      0

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posted by DAN SAVAGE, Aug 16/07

Dan Savage reminds a lonely fetishist that GGG goes both ways. comments      0

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Aug 9/07

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Aug 2/07

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Jul 26/07

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Jul 19/07

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Jul 12/07

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Jul 5/07

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Jun 28/07

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Jun 21/07

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Jun 14/07

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Jun 7/07

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May 31/07

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Savage love wextra

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 31/07

Read all of WETT's chat with GTB and see pics of YALE. comments      0

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SAVAGE LOVE

May 24/07

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May 17/07

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More Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, May 10/07

For more back-and-forth about Dan’sadvice for SLINORLA comments      0

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May 10/07

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May 3/07

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Apr 26/07

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Apr 19/07

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Apr 12/07

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Mar 29/07

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Mar 29/07

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Mar 22/07

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Mar 15/07

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More Savage Love

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Mar 15/07

Some of Dan Savage’s readers weren’t too impressed with his advice about (not) masturbating to images of poor, dead, Anna Nicole Smith. comments      0

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Mar 8/07

Dan Savage writes on his ass with a Sharpie. comments      0

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Mar 1/07

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Savage love wextra

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 22/07

Homo happy endings of the kinky+vanilla with a cherry on top variety. comments      0

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SAVAGE LOVE

Feb 22/07

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Feb 15/07

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Savage lova wextra

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 15/07

vanilla+kink=truelove comments      0

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Feb 8/07

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Savage Love Web Extra

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Feb 1/07

Guest experts Marla and Steve answer more mail comments      0

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Feb 1/07

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Jan 25/07

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Jan 18/07

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Jan 11/07

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Jan 4/07

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A Savage New Year

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 28/06

Ring in 2007 with a bonus helping of letters from Savage Love readers. They might induce you to put foot massaging on your list of resolutions, you never know. comments      1

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SAVAGE LOVE

Dec 28/06

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Savage special

posted by DAN SAVAGE, Dec 21/06

What kind of holiday would it be without a batch of letters discussing the woman who gives face-numbing blowjobs? comments      0

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Dec 21/06

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Dec 14/06

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Dec 7/06

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