How does Halifax keep the spark alive?

Coast readers share tips on maintaining lusty, loving longterm relationships.

While many of our titillating questions in our annual Sex + Dating survey centre on dating, hook-ups, first-dates and kinks, we haven't forgotten about those happily committed among us—nearly 40 percent of the hundreds of folks who took our anonymous poll are married or common law. When we asked readers, "How do you keep the spark alive?" here's how they answered.


"Still flirting with each other as much as we did on day one."



"By being honest with what I want and not being afraid to talk about things."

"Making time for each other. Taking note of little things that make your partner happy and doing them."

"By reminding myself that I am the luckiest man alive and making a point to let her know as often as I can."

"Date, spontaneous fun, trips, being aware of your partner's needs."

"Travel, force each other out of your comfort zones, make each other do things when you're lazy. Find projects to do together."

"Be thoughtful & considerate. As long as there is emotional intimacy, there will be physical intimacy."

"With little gestures that show how much they’re appreciated and loved."

"Having a life outside the relationship."

"Have to talk about fantasies with your partner but be sure both people are on board before enacting them."

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