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Thursday, February 27, 2020

Posted By on Thu, Feb 27, 2020 at 4:42 PM

I am in a safe, positive, loving and committed relationship with a man who I love and care for immensely. This does NOT mean that I have not also dated and been attracted to women and non-binary, genderqueer, etc., folks. This does NOT mean I am now straight or cis, or secretly was all along. This does NOT erase my lifelong experiences of confusion, and struggles to understand who I am. I mostly lean towards femme these days, because it's slightly less exhausting, and there are people in my life who aren't ready to understand or accept how I identify.

”Passing” is NOT a privilege. It is a constant struggle with my own identity being discredited, doubted and dismissed, which causes inner turmoil and self-doubt. I acknowledge that some of these worries are internal/projections, but I have seen in-fighting in queer communities that seems to imply that non-binary or bi folks aren’t "queer enough,” because we want access to queer spaces/communities but are perceived as somehow not having to "do the work" of being visibly identifiable as gay, lesbian, etc. Gender non-conforming folks have NO OBLIGATION to look a certain way. Anyone who excludes or passes judgment on couples who APPEAR hetero and/or cis is making A LOT of assumptions about their identities and past experiences. Nobody can assume what a person has already been through, will later experience or where they are on their journey to understanding their gender and sexuality.

I am SICK of queer people in-fighting and posting shit about other "so-called queer" people/couples who don't look or behave queerly enough in public spaces. But there are tons of reasons why folks might not be able to perform that way.

We need to support people, not exclude them. This shit is complicated and a lot of folks who grew up in a time before this stuff was openly talked about need to take their time to figure out how THEY identify, even if it doesn’t look obvious. — No Longer A Mess

Tuesday, February 25, 2020

Posted By on Tue, Feb 25, 2020 at 3:21 PM

To all the idiots who need lessons on how to to park: they are very inconsiderate, they are non-humans who insist that they are more important than others. I can't even count as high as the amount of c#@$$ that do it to me, and I can't be the only one. I have one question directed at these mouth breathers using up good air: do you think that this is okay? IT'S NOT! GROW UP AND START TO THINK ABOUT OTHERS INSTEAD OF JUST YOURSELF!!!!!!!!! — Sam

Posted By on Tue, Feb 25, 2020 at 9:23 AM

To the religious lady from the Baptist church who felt the need to degrade me and call me names and abuse me for being LGBT, when all I wanted to do was finish my shift as a barista: I wish I knew what to do to stand up to you. You looked at me with so much hatred in your eyes while talking about God’s love. I actually pity you and the evil person you are. — Battered Barista

Monday, February 24, 2020

Posted By on Mon, Feb 24, 2020 at 1:20 PM

To the guy stomping around the north end wearing shitty far-right patches on his clothes: why are you wasting your time with that trash? Grow up! You look like you’re in your 40s, it looks like you could use a friend! Go out and meet people, drop that bullshit hate you literally wear. Get off of 4chan and start engaging with people, stop it. It’s really difficult to watch someone make such poor decisions and expect to not get decked. As a safety measure just stop okay. You need to get a hobby or something, jeeez. — You Don’t Have To Be Forever Alone

Friday, February 21, 2020

Posted By on Fri, Feb 21, 2020 at 9:41 AM

Why are news sources STILL reporting on this Lori Loughlin college-admission scandal? Get over it. The rich get perks in this world. Always have. That's life. Leave poor Aunt Becky alone. — Unjust Interests of Justice

Wednesday, February 19, 2020

Posted By on Wed, Feb 19, 2020 at 3:04 PM

Last week somebody bitched about the lack of loves in this section. Fuck that. There shouldn't be loves in this section at all. The Coast should get that weak shit outta here and let us bitch non-stop. — Shade Thrower

Posted By on Wed, Feb 19, 2020 at 10:06 AM

The more I traverse the city, the more annoying I find it that we have two large car dealerships within our urban core (and even more farther north). Should not we be more critical of how we utilize our city’s space, and not allow glorified parking lots to set up shop, especially in the city with one of the lowest vacancy rates in the country? I’ll remind you that one of these lots demolished a gaggle of homes to have more space for its products to sit on. These businesses are better suited to areas like Burnside, Bayers Lake or Dartmouth Crossing, and not a highly populated downtown area. The sales lot model is dated and not very space-efficient. There could be dozens of homes built in these spaces, or small condos with ground-level storefronts to enliven the areas. Imagine Robie Street without car dealerships, and instead with new small businesses and more places to live! Does it not sound like an improvement? — Teethoflions

Friday, February 14, 2020

Posted By on Fri, Feb 14, 2020 at 4:20 PM

Seriously, you've now stolen a potentially asbestos-containing bag of garbage off my doorstep?! I was going to keep adding to it, but I guess you wanted that plastic sheeting, dried ceiling popcorn goo and potential cancer-causing fibres! (I can't afford asbestos testing so I treated it like it did have asbestos). Between you and the neighbours who steal all of our plastic and paper recycling bags on a regular basis, I'm tired of it. Maybe I'll put out dog shit next time and you can steal that as well? — Careful Of The Asbestos

Wednesday, February 12, 2020

Posted By on Wed, Feb 12, 2020 at 4:10 PM

I saw your look of confusion as I passed by, blaring my horn at you. Look: the carshare parking spots are for carshare cars. Not for German-made luxury vehicles idling life away. So  had to park farther away and walk through even more treacherous shitice because of you. Thanks. If I seem overly enraged, it’s because this is hardly the first time I’ve had this happen.

My every day seems filled with assholes for whom rules and regulations apply to everyone, everywhere. Unless and until they apply to them because they have more urgent business. Carshare parking only? Not if I need to just pull in for a bit. No smoking? Yeah, but I really need a dart right now. Quiet study area? Yeah, but I gotta take this call. Fire lane? I’ll only be in the liquor store for a minute (I’m looking at you, everyone on Baker Street). And what are the odds of a fire, anyway?

Fuck you people and your fucking exceptionalism. If you want to live in a place where the rules only apply to other people, I suggest heading south. The Tweeter-in-Chief is all about that. “They” say the road to hell is paved in good intentions. That aphorism was invented by exceptionalists like you, who want to excuse constantly acting in bad faith. Guess what? You’re not that special. Follow the fucking rules. Improve your intentions. Please. — Slip ’N’ Slide

Sunday, February 9, 2020

Posted By on Sun, Feb 9, 2020 at 9:20 AM

Dear Bus Buddies: you know who you are. You stand up front near the driver ("your buddy") chewing the fat and blocking the entrance to passengers. Sure, there may be plenty of seats available to choose from, and gasp, sit in, but you prefer to stand and gab, gab and stand, narrowing the aisle, creating bottlenecks with total disregard for others. Could you be distracting the driver? Heck no! They blew past that frigid soul at the last stop because your stories are just sooo interesting. Please Bus Buddy, sit down. Get the fuck out of the way. Leave the drivers alone. Stop for the love of all that is safe and sound. I doubt the drivers will miss you. — Busing Bitcher