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Saturday, September 7, 2013

I am so tired

Posted on Sat, Sep 7, 2013 at 3:00 PM

I am so tired of all the sexism. I'm tired of people making light of sexual assault. I'm tired of people blaming the victims and defending the rapists. I'm tired of people saying rape is a "grey area". I'm tired of slut shaming, rape culture, and patriarchy. I'm tired of being called a feminazi whenever I dare to use those words, thanks Rush Limbaugh.

I have been grabbed by strange men crowded in bars. A man tried to untie my sister's top while seated behind her. One of my friends was beaten up by a guy after she refused to go home with him. I had to get my cousin home safely after someone roofied her at a bar. My former roommate was raped while passed out at a party.

Almost every girl I know has at least one story to tell about being sexually assaulted, and all of them have stories about sexism. Sexism is everywhere in our culture. Your mothers, sisters, nieces, aunts, wives, girlfriends, and daughters encounter it every day.

Most of all, I'm tired of being talked over by men when I have something to say about the issue. Guys, I try to be patient, because I know that you have no idea what it's like to be female in this society. I try to be patient because I know that you understandably feel a bit defensive when the topic of sexism comes up. But please, next time a woman in your life has something to say about the subject, just listen to her. The next time a member of any oppressed group (be they women, ethnic minorities, LBGTQ people, disabled people, little people etc.) is talking about issues that affect them, just listen to what they have to say.

Please just listen.

To the men who already have, thank you so much. —a woman

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