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Friday, September 14, 2012

What I get for choosing the nice guy

Posted on Fri, Sep 14, 2012 at 12:45 PM

After years of being shallow and dating only good-looking guys who make decent money, and finding out what assholes they all were, I decided to change my dating habits. For the record, I have always been financially independent, making my own money and not letting boyfriends support me.

Awhile back, I had the chance to choose between two different guys. One was good-looking and well-off. The other one was less attractive and made a little over minimum wage. However, the latter was one of the sweetest, funniest men I've met in a long time. At one time, I would have went for the hotter man with the better job, but instead I went for this one.

Things were working out and he moved into my apartment with me. A full month's rent was still coming out of my bank account, since the lease was under my name, so he just gave me half-month's rent in cash every month. He was paying me for awhile, then he started to get late in his payments. THEN, he got laid off from his job, making him more strapped for cash. Assuming this was going to be a temporary situation, I suggested I cover the entire rent and he get the internet and power, until he found another job. He agreed. But he could barely even cover that! For two whole months I had to get rent and even some of the smaller expenses because it took him that long to get another job. I could tell he felt devastated that he was hard up for money, but I was losing patience. We couldn't go out anymore without me paying for most/all of the date. Not that I'm used to living extravagantly, but there were just some nights I would have wanted to go out to a nice dinner, but didn't feel particularly enthused about having to cover it all the majority of times.

Then this was the straw that broke the camel's back: he was let go from this job too. That's when I ended it with him. He completely sunk and tears rolled down his face when I told him we shouldn't see each other anymore. He begged and said he was going to get the money from his family to pay me back (for all the expenses) until he was employed again. Nice or not, he was broke and could not support himself. I'm sure I'm going to be railed on here for dumping a guy because he had no money, but what's a girl to do? I've never lived off of some guy, so I'll be damned if I let one live off of me! —I Don't Expect a Man to Support Me, So Why Should I Support Him?

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