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Thursday, May 17, 2012

Stop making excuses!

Posted on Thu, May 17, 2012 at 2:49 PM

Feel like bitching at myself but wanted to share with anyone out there who might be going through a similar struggle.

I came out in the last few years to my friends, work, family, etc. I naively thought that coming out would somehow magically reveal me as a lesbian to every other gay girl for the rest of my life. Then the "you don't look gay---are you sure?" comments that I received made me feel like I will always be the odd girl out in any circumstance. It's taken me way too long to start living my truth, I'm not about to change it all up because it doesn't look right to someone else---when I look in the mirror I have to say that gay looks exactly like me and yes, I'm sure! As you can see, I'm defensive and I am annoyed with myself about that too, I mean, why do I let other people make me feel insecure? I'm a full grown woman, this is not high school.

The worst part is this feeling has prevented me from branching out socially in the gay community as much as I want to and that is my own damn fault. I hate feeling hesitant and awkward---that's not who I am. I'm a nice person, friendly and I love to laugh, dance, sing. I love making new friends and I want to so badly---the only barrier to that is ME---so that's who I'm bitching at.

Pull it together girl and stop making excuses.—The_magical_invisible_femme

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