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Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Not everyone wants to be married with kids

Posted on Wed, Feb 22, 2012 at 10:58 AM

Why do people look at me like I have two heads when I tell them I don't want to ever be married and have children? I'm in my late 20s and perfectly fine with being single, only having flings, at the moment. When I'm in my 30s, I'll settle down in a long-term relationship with a guy who's right for me. But I don't think getting legally bound to that person is necessary, and I NEVER want kids.

I've told many friends/relatives/acquaintances this and they all look at me funny and are like: "Reeeallllyyy???? Don't wanna ever be married to that person??? No kids?? You'll change your mind..." Um, no! When I was 17, I had decided to NEVER spend thousands of dollars on a wedding and be legally tied to someone and to NEVER pop out a kid... people then also said I'd change my mind... 10 years later I still feel the same way. If I was gonna change my mind, it would have happened already.

And to all of you people who say all the good decent guys out there wanna get married and have kids, and that I'll die alone unless I'm willing to do one or the other or BOTH: Fuck you! Where do you get that info from? Why is being married and having kids the be all and end all?! Maybe some of us rather work on our careers than put a ring on our finger and shoot out some spawn. Is that so fucking horrible? To tons of people, it is, apparently.

PS. I'm willing to bet that I'd get more "CONGRATS!" comments and what not on a Facebook status if I announced I was preggers or engaged than if I announced that I was starting a brand new (high-status) career with a credible company. — Independent Gal

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