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Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Looking for love... sucks!

Posted on Tue, Jan 17, 2012 at 10:59 AM

I hate men. Why am I telling you this? Because I am angry. I like to think I’m a nice person (for the most part), and that I deserve a nice, attractive, ambitious guy. But no. I always get the “I’m not looking for anything serious right now” guy, who then turns around and shacks up with the generic, princess/high maintenance/diva chick. Mind you, I’m not one of these low self-esteem types that goes home and cries about it. I’m also willing to accept that maybe I’m not that awesome. Maybe there is some fatal flaw I’m not seeing, but I will tell you this: I know some really awesome chicks. Like really awesome. I have a friend that’s a bit older than me. In her 30’s, and has never found love. She’s beautiful, skinny (but not too skinny), has an awesome job, funny, smart, has lots of hobbies, isn’t a diva- a real catch yet no luck in love. I’ve even seen her with guys and she’s not doing/saying anything wrong. It worries me. Why is it that awesome, successful, independent girls are overlooked? Do I need to dumb myself down to be liked? I mean, regardless it’s not going to happen. A guy’s gotta accept me for who I am, but I guess I just wonder if that’ll ever happen. Will I be one of these “power women” in their late 30’s who has everything, but a man, and gets the constant judgment/disapproval from society? F***ing lame.

Oh and just in case you were wondering, I do have friends that are shacked up. The trend among many of my partnered friends is that they dating mama’s boys, the guy who always had his mom taking care of him and now his girlfriend does. Now all this said, I have friends that are the power couples. They hike volcanoes in South America. They share the load financially and domestically. They are everything a couple should be and more. They make me both extremely jealous, and also want to believe that that could be me one day. But how the hell does one attain this shit? When in doubt- personal development. I volunteer, I'm in a running group, I take every opportunity I can to be social and meet new people (guys and girls). I tell myself to keep busy and you won’t notice how angry and bitter and alone you are. Just be a good person and you’ll meet someone good when you least expect it. But I’ll tell you I am frustrated and impatient as hell. F*** men, and f*** you society for making me feel inadequate as a single woman. —Confused and Alone

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