Q My girlfriend and I read your column religiously, and I have you to thank for being comfortable enough with my kinks to tell her about my interest in BDSM. She is very GGG and has indulged all my kinky fantasies and discovered some of her own. Our latest adventure has her locking up my dick in a CB-6000 male chastity device. The play/sex has been super-fun so far, but we want to be aware of any health and safety concerns, specifically damage to my penis. We've had the device for almost a week, and I've been doing a ton of research. There is no shortage of information on proper hygiene and cleaning while locked, and the effects of infrequent ejaculation/orgasm denial. What we're most concerned about is not the effects of not coming, but whether restricting my erections with a chastity device can cause nerve damage, erectile dysfunction or other issues. Should I be concerned about having my erections constricted by the device while being teased or wearing it overnight?
We plan on taking off the device for sexual play, which we do about five times a week, so there would be plenty of opportunities for my guy to stretch out. Besides worrying about limiting erections, is there any issue with having the device on long-term while soft, in regards to the cock ring that serves as the back end of the device? If it is fitted properly, are there any negative effects to having this on for a day? A week? A month? I find it odd that there isn't more information about this provided by manufacturers. From what I've read online, there seem to be a lot of guys who stay locked way more long-term than I'm planning, and I hope they have had questions like mine answered before engaging in that. --Lock On Cock Kausing Erectile Dysfunction?
A There are more submissive guys out there blogging about their locked-up cocks than there are submissive guys out there whose cocks are locked up.
By which I mean to say, whether you're talking about food, politics or locking a dude's cock in a male chastity device, LOCKED, you'll find more anonymous liars online pretending to be experts than you'll find actual experts. Of course, there are kinky guys out there who've had their cocks locked up for extended periods. But the number of men who enjoy this kind of play is relatively small, and the number of chastity players blogging about their experience is smaller still. So it's probably best not to take health-and-safety advice from anonymous chastity players.
So how about some health-and-safety advice from an actual board-certified urologist instead? "I've never had a patient ask me about using, or admit to using, a male chastity device," said Stephen H. King, MD, a urologist in Washington State. "And I cannot find a single reference in the medical/urological literature."
What would Dr. King advise a patient who asked him about wearing a male chastity device? "As a urologist, my primary concern is long-term health and preservation of erectile function 'down the road,' so I tend to err on the cautious side, especially in someone young with many good erections ahead of him," said Dr. King. "So if LOCKED came to my clinic with this question, I'd certainly caution against any long-term or continuous use of such a device, anything more than four to six hours, if it places any significant compression on the tissue directly."
Some guys who wear male chastity devices for extended periods invest in custom-fitted devices, LOCKED, as a custom device is less likely to put "significant compression on the tissue" than a semi-adjustable, one-size-fits-all, easy-to-break-out-of CB-6000. The device you've got is fine for newbies and short-term play, but the expensive chastity devices at steelwerksextreme.com--- devices with names like The Grinder---have the benefit of being both safer and impossible for the wearer to remove without the key.
So let's say you invest in a hardcore, expensive chastity device that doesn't rely on potentially tissue-compressing rings to be held in place. What does Dr. King say now? "With no compression from the cock ring, it might be safe for somewhat longer use," said Dr. King. "Overnight use may still be problematic. Nocturnal/spontaneous erections are hypothesized to exist to encourage blood flow and stretching of the vascular and erectile tissue to keep it healthy and prevent atrophy. "
Of course, if we only listened to doctors, no one would ever eat sugar, smoke cigarettes or let his girlfriend lock up his cock in The Grinder, because something "bad" might happen. So I got a second and a third opinion for you, LOCKED.
The second opinion is mine: The manufacturers of CB-6000s and other male chastity devices don't provide information about risks because they're not required to. Male chastity devices, like all sex toys, are sold as "novelty items." They're not medical devices, and the FDA doesn't regulate them. But so long as your CB-6000 isn't so tight that it's cutting off circulation, pinching nerves or rubbing you raw, and so long as you're not wearing it for extended periods of time (I wouldn't wear one overnight, myself), you'll be fine. There are, after all, thousands of CB-6000s in circulation and if they were injuring men or rendering them impotent, LOCKED, we'd be hearing from unhappy chastity players and their lawyers.
The third opinion is from a kinky blogger. Metal served for six years on the board of Gay Male S/M Activists, an organization dedicated to promoting safe, sane and consensual BDSM, and now runs the popular BDSM site metalbondnyc.com.
None of the men Metal has personally locked up---some for months at a time---have had any trouble getting hard once their chastity devices were removed. "When guys are first locked up, they often complain of waking up in the middle of the night with painful erections," said Metal. "But that usually passes in a week or so. What I would suggest to this couple is to go ahead and experiment. Lock him up for a day or two initially, then a few days, and then maybe work up to a week or more. Rules are good. Maybe he gets unlocked only when he's chained to the bed. Then right after he comes---if he's allowed to come---his dick gets locked back up before he's unchained." Metal urges you to be cautious, to take it slow, but not to fear chastity play. "Think of chastity as a really, really long form of foreplay," said Metal. "The possibilities, and the long-term sexual rewards, can be endless."
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